Catman's Trip Report

[Catman]

Part one

First of all a little history of my search. Two years ago after my last relationship wreck with a North American girl I started looking through agency profiles to find a girl from Ukraine. After two trips to Ukraine and countless dollars spent I realized I had fallen for an agency pro dater. I was so discouraged that I couldn't even look at another girls profile without thinking of her as some scammer or pro dater good time girl. Then I discovered these FSUW forums. On another forum I discovered Eduard And liked what I read. Still I waited about a month as it is hard for me to trust anyone anymore at that time. Then I made up my mind and went ahead with Eduard, one last try before I give up completely. Ed hooked me up with many different girls  to write to and I have to say I was extremely busy writing all of those letters. The first girl I wrote to was Alesya. Very beautiful girl with a baby boy and a great sense of humour. Her letters had me laughing out loud. We wrote each other many times a week right up to our meeting. I wanted to jump a jet and get over there right away to visit Alesya but listened to Ed's advice and waited until I had lined up a few more girls to meet. Finally after three months of writing letters we set a date for the trip

A few days before I left for Ukraine a Siberian girl wrote and said there was a medical emergency in her family and she couldn't meet me in Kiev. Well of course this was a disapointment but it didn't get me down. There are more girls to meet and Alesya was waiting for me. Most important is Ira from Russia. We really hit it off in our letters and while talking on Skype. It was difficult for me to not fall in love with pictures and letters with Ira but I kept it together until our meeting.

I arrive in Kiev, city of beautiful girls, and meet Ed in person for the first time. Since the Siberian girl canceled I met with Tanya first. A very nice girl who spoke very good English. We met and did a little sight seeing before going out for supper. After supper we tried the karaoke bar where I found out that Ed is a very good singer. We were having a blast and when Tanya did her Arabic dance for me I was hypnotised  WOW!!! We ended the night with tort and agreed to see each other again. This never happened although we stayed in touch for the next week. I was too busy dating a different girl every night. This is possible in Ukraine. Ed would write to a girl for me using local Russian dating sights and ask if she would like to go out that night and their reply would be "Sure, Why not, Of course". I had never seen anything like this before.
One date was with a 25 year old Russian Tatar girl who brought her 23 year old smokin hot friend. The 23 year old had her head bopping to the music all night. She said she was looking for a crazy dangerous man. Well that's not me  My Tatar date was very nice and had some idea of settling down and starting a family but this wasn't meant to be. Another memorable date was with a very beautiful Armenian girl. WOW again  We met in a cafe and had a light supper. She didn't take me seriously until the end of the evening when we parted ways. Ed and I were having drinks later at a cafe when the phone rang. It was the Armenian girl  She completely turned around and wanted to see me again but I had told her that I was leaving the next day. Since then she has written me many e-mails and sent a lot of very nice pictures.

Next we are off to Crimea to meet Alesya!

[Catman]

Ed and I land in Simferopol and find a driver to take us to Sevastopol. What a ride! Speeds up to 100 mph, tires losing traction and squealing around the curves, passing cars with oncoming traffic missing each other by inches. We arrive at the apartment that Ed arranged and it is very nice. We phone Alesya and supper is being prepared. Alesya's dad is Russian, originally from Kazakstan and Alesya's mother is Russian. We arrive at their apartment and wow, Alesya is smokin hot, more so than in her pictures. I brought over some cognac and chocolates and this was a big hit. I don't know cognac but luckily Ed does.
We sit down to supper and out comes the vodka. Alesya is a real lady. She takes a sip of water before and after downing a shot of straight vodka. The table is laid out for royalty. The food is great. After supper Alesya and I decide to go out for a drink. It turns out that Alesya smokes as did I so we sit outside at a nice cafe and drink some beers. Ed's stomach is still very bad from some chicken he ate a couple weeks before in Yalta so he doesn't indulge in the beer. Alesya's family all said that he should have vodka mixed with salt and his stomach will be cured. Maybe it would have worked? Ed went to sleep early (3 am) and Alesya and I ended the evening at 7 am. I should say here that I was not a sex tourist at any time and was a perfect gentleman. It was great to have a translator with me on call 24 hours, seven days a week. I also didn't have to worry about getting lost or ordering something I didn't want at a restaurant.
Alesya always slept until noon and by the time she was ready it was always late. I told Alesya that I would like to buy her something to have a memory of our first meeting. She had no problem to pick out a whole wardrobe and have me pay for it. Reminds me of my pro dater previous girlfriend. Then we decided to go bowling. This was a lot of fun and Ed did well even though it was his first time. Alesya and I drank a great deal of beer but we ended this evening earlier than the first.
The next evening we went out to a nice restaurant where Alesya became quite intoxicated and rude. The manager could see that I was a foreigner and tried to push some very expensive order on us thinking I wouldn't say no to my girlfriend. On the way back the taxi had a blow out so the driver called another car to pick us up. Alesya was talking and talking. Later Ed said she was complaining and saying that they had better come on a very nice car and not some junk. We are almost at our apartment when she said she wanted to play billiards. I told her that we were a little tired from all the partying but if she wanted to come in for one hour and talk we would be fine with this. She said no way, billiards or nothing. I was getting p'd off by now with her attitude, gave the taxi driver his money and we got out of that cab, leaving Alesya with money to get home.
At first I was taken in by her beauty but once her personality became clear she was just horrible. The next day she phones and comes over to the apartment. Sweet as pie. She wanted to go bowling again. We had a great time. The next night we were invited over to their apartment to visit. Alesya was feeding her baby. The baby began to spit food back at her and her reaction was to slap the baby's face.  Yep, she slapped the baby's face and quite hard too.                                                                                                                                                                                         The next day we had a family outing at the beach. First we went shopping for food and of course beer. Alesya was loading up the cart with everything she could since I was paying. I was trying not to laugh when Ed was getting comfortable amongst the huge rocks that were stacked to make private little dwellings on the beach. We were the Flintstones  I noticed Alesya's mother was doing everything and Alesya was just sitting doing nothing. She was cold towards me as well. I had the duty of cooking the chicken. Ed comes over and tells me what Alesya was saying to her mother. Complaints and blaming her mother for everything. Turns out she is a total bitch towards her mother. If Ed wasn't there I wouldn't have been able to pick up on this. I was completely turned off again that day. We went back to the apartment early because I faked some of Ed's stomach problems and called it a night.
The next day Alesya's mother phoned and told us to come for supper for our last day. The mother was super nice. I had had enough and the last thing I wanted to do was to see Alesya again but out of respect for her super nice mother we went. Again I was getting buzzed out on cognac and vodka shots but it was numbing the pain and got me through the evening. Alesya's mom sat beside me and was petting me. Seriously! I really must be a Catman  As she was petting me she was saying "krasna".
Throughout this week in Sevastopol I heard many references to money. "Don't worry, we are not gold diggers" they would say. "Alesya is a very good cook" her mother would say although I didn't see her cook anything. They told us how everything from hospitals to a glass of beer was a scam. I was so happy to leave Sevastopol!!! Halfway through the week I was phoning Ira and the sound of her voice was the only thing that got me through my stay there. I had written to Alesya for 3 months. She was so nice in the letters but in person completely different. The first two days I was falling for Alesya and I'm glad that I had Ed there to keep my feet on the ground. He advised me to wait and not make any rush decisions. This was very wise advise. It's difficult to do when you are bombarded with gorgeous women. I sure hope Ira is normal!!!

[kievstar]

Nice trip report.

[Gator]

Catman,

It pleases me to see you posting your trip report here.  Ed and I talked last weekend at Simoni's wedding, and he gave me a summary.  Well done!

[groovlstk]

She had no problem to pick out a whole wardrobe and have me pay for it.

I don't understand why you spent a single additional moment with this girl. Time in the field is too valuable to waste being polite to someone who not only doesn't deserve it but could never appreciate it. What was your advisor telling you through all this? 

[Pike]

I don't understand.  Why are you paying Ed a small fortune for his help when there are tons of English speaking women to chose from in Ukraine?  And as another poster noted, he let you stay around for days in Sevastopol with a bitch.  What gives here?

[msmoby_ru]

I don't understand.  Why are you paying Ed a small fortune for his help when there are tons of English speaking women to chose from in Ukraine?  And as another poster noted, he let you stay around for days in Sevastopol with a bitch.  What gives here?

There's something "wrong" here..  I find myself nodding in agrement with Pike on something...

Dan, I think it might be good if Ed were allowed to defend himself.

[Catman]

Part 3 Back to Kiev
 
I was so happy to leave Sevastopol! Ed and I arrive at Simferopol airport and get in line to check our luggage. One of my suitcases are too heavy and the girl asks me to take some stuff out but there is a lineup behind me so I ask if I can just pay a penalty. The girl said "Put a 50 in your passport and hand it to me" so I did and off we go.
We arrive at our apartment and all I want to do is rest and wash clothes. I really don't like those little washing machines. I put a pair of jeans and a shirt in to wash and it didn't finish so I thought I'll take the clothes out in the morning and after they dry I'll iron everything. The next morning the clothes were still washing.
Today is the day I meet Ira! I am flipping nervous! Ira told me if I want to be with her I will have to quit smoking so that is what I did, that morning.  Ed and I arrive to pick up Ira and she looks exactly like the pictures she sent. Gorgeous! She wears hardly any makeup and doesn't need any. We hug and I hand her 13 roses. Off we go to her apartment. Everything is going well and I am less nervous. We leave Ira to have a shower and unpack. Our apartment is minutes away. When we come back Ira is ready to go. We have lunch and are off to check out the sights. When we are crossing the street Ira takes my hand. Maybe an hour later we are holding hands most of the time. I had such a calm come over me with Ira. She has a look about her that tells you she could never be angry. I am thinking that this is too good to be true after everything I have been through. Ira has not spoke English in 10 years but she is doing very well. Between what Ukrainian I remember, her Russian and English we can have a decent conversation. Ed is taking a lot of pictures as he does throughout the whole trip. I deleted all pictures of other girls as I need no memory of them. The pictures of Ira and I are amazing and look like they could be professional display pictures at a photo shop. We went for a ride on a tourist boat down the Dniper. Ira presses her back to my chest and we are holding each other. Yes our first kiss was on the Dniper:) I can never forget that feeling. The sun is in our eyes so Ira takes a newspaper and shields both our heads from the sun. That evening Ira and I spend alone in her apartment. She made tea and a snack for me and presented me with a little present to symbolize our meeting. I'm sure I could have stayed the night but it was our first night together and as a gentleman should I thanked her for the wonderful evening and with a kiss left for my apartment.
The next day Ira phones me at 7:30 am. What a difference from the other sleepy girls. We are sight seeing and we can't keep our hands off each other. Ira remembers everything I wrote in my letters. Ira and I decide that I should stay at her apartment. This is where I really felt like a king.  She again makes tea and a snack for us and runs a bath for me. I have never been treated so well by a woman. The rest is up to your imagination.
Ira is so caring. From shielding my eyes from the sun, picking a little lint from my shirt to running her fingers through my hair and blowing on my head to cool me off in the hot taxi's. Wow! I feel like the luckiest man on the planet. I completely forget how crappy the days before were.
Our last night together we had planned on going somewhere to dance as Ira loves all dances from Tango to ballroom. We don't find a place so that evening she dresses up and we dance in our apartment. She tells me that she has never been so happy. Since I have never been this happy I tell her this as well.
The day we leave Kiev is very sad. During the drive to the airport a song come on the radio and it is a beautiful song saying something about heart ache. Ira presses her back to my chest so I don't see her cry. After we check our luggage we take more pictures. Temporary relief from the sadness comes when Ed takes a loaf of bread out of his carry on bag and takes a bite. He is still scared to eat anything since the bad chicken took it's toll on his stomach.  Ed then tries to give the bread to a security guard and Ira and I are laughing. Then back to our goodbyes. We hold each other and Ira is crying and shaking in my arms. It was next to impossible for me to hold back a tear. As Ed and I walk away I look back and Ira is waving and crying. I have never felt this way about a woman.
We are writing each other every day and will soon be using Skype on Ira's computer when she has high speed. This january I will be visiting Ira in Russia and meeting her family.

[Catman]

I don't understand why you spent a single additional moment with this girl. Time in the field is too valuable to waste being polite to someone who not only doesn't deserve it but could never appreciate it. What was your advisor telling you through all this? 

Alesya was great the first day, bad the next day, great the next day and after she went bad on the 3rd day we started looking at the personals but my heart was set on Ira and I was tired of the dating. I prefer to write to the girl for a while to get to know her first and then meet. I guess we were also in shock at Alesya's behaviour since the 3 months of writing letters showed her to be such a perfect girl. This goes to show that although it is important to write to a girl to get to know each other you should not write for too long. Get over there and meet her.
I accomplished in 4 months what a lot of guys take years to do. I met the one. Pay now or pay later.

Gator, thank you for the positive response

[AnastassiaAsh]

The day we leave Kiev is very sad. During the drive to the airport a song come on the radio and it is a beautiful song saying something about heart ache. Ira presses her back to my chest so I don't see her cry. After we check our luggage we take more pictures. Temporary relief from the sadness comes when Ed takes a loaf of bread out of his carry on bag and takes a bite. He is still scared to eat anything since the bad chicken took it's toll on his stomach.  Ed then tries to give the bread to a security guard and Ira and I are laughing. Then back to our goodbyes. We hold each other and Ira is crying and shaking in my arms. It was next to impossible for me to hold back a tear. As Ed and I walk away I look back and Ira is waving and crying. I have never felt this way about a woman.
We are writing each other every day and will soon be using Skype on Ira's computer when she has high speed. This january I will be visiting Ira in Russia and meeting her family.

      

Seems like the one, catman.   

[UTRO]

Alesya was great the first day, bad the next day, great the next day and after she went bad on the 3rd day we started looking at the personals but my heart was set on Ira and I was tired of the dating. I prefer to write to the girl for a while to get to know her first and then meet. I guess we were also in shock at Alesya's behaviour since the 3 months of writing letters showed her to be such a perfect girl. This goes to show that although it is important to write to a girl to get to know each other you should not write for too long. Get over there and meet her.
I accomplished in 4 months what a lot of guys take years to do. I met the one. Pay now or pay later.

Gator, thank you for the positive response

At that point you were just being a true Canadian gentleman   :selfharm:
Great Trip Report

[Catman]

Yes Utrobina, Alesya's parents were super nice and treated Ed and myself like royalty so to cut them off did not feel like the gentleman way of doing things.

[msmoby_ru]

This goes to show that although it is important to write to a girl to get to know each other you should not write for too long. Get over there and meet her. [/quote .. how true..

I accomplished in 4 months what a lot of guys take years to do. I met the one. Pay now or pay later.

Whoa, there, "Tiger"....   You've also got to live together "day to day" in the country where you reside - THEN you can say that ..