Hello Everyone!

[SANDRO43]

I think ambach lost a ton of money in the economic downturn and is now forced to rely on his personality, common sense and religiousity to impress people.   :evil:

Given the amount of empty desert space there, am I correct in assuming that is cheaper to set up a trailer in Nevada than anywhere else in the US :evil: :evil:?

[ScottinCrimea]

Given the amount of empty desert space there, am I correct in assuming that is cheaper to set up a trailer in Nevada than anywhere else in the US :evil: :evil:?

Of course given his sense of monetary superiority, he will need a double wide.

[I/O]

"How do you imagine your life in five years? What should your wife do in the family? What are your responsibilities as a husband? What things will be forbidden for you and your wife? What would you do, if your wife or children did something, that you did not like? If you punish, how would it look like? What can be the reason of your divorce?"

She's read Elena Petrova's book. That is lifted almost word for word. Too much word for word to be anything else IMO.

I/O

[Makkin]

Sandro,

  80% of all the land in Nevada is not for people as it's owned by the US government..lol It may be a higher ratio than 80%.
  Maybe if he wants a trailer with land it that area it won't caust more than 3000 to get all hooked up and ready to do a little casino work.

Makkin

[Tamara]

BTW, Tamara, I think you are in the Russian language teaching business -- do you know of any tutors that you could recommend to me in the Washington, DC area?
Cheers,
Steve

Steve, you are correct.  I am in Russian Translating and Language Teaching Business, but I do it live online, when you communicate with the teacher via webcam and IM.  I don't work with the teachers locally, so I am of little help recommending someone in Washington, DC area.

[waterbug]

She's read Elena Petrova's book. That is lifted almost word for word. Too much word for word to be anything else IMO.

Thanks, I/O, that's interesting.  I haven't read her book -- are these questions that she recommends the woman ask?  Or a man should volunteer to answer?  IIUC, her book is advice for men ... what is the context in which this appeared?

Thanks!
Steve

[Gator]

IIUC, her book is advice for men ... what is the context in which this appeared?

EM also gives advice to women in Russian language.  I/O was clever to have discovered this connection. 

The questions are still reasonable.  It just removes some of the originality and thoughtfulness that I had assigned to her.  There is no reason to think her intentions are not serious.

[waterbug]

EM also gives advice to women in Russian language.  I/O was clever to have discovered this connection. 

The questions are still reasonable.  It just removes some of the originality and thoughtfulness that I had assigned to her.  There is no reason to think her intentions are not serious.

Indeed.  Elena is nothing if not enterprising -- I hadn't thought about it, but it makes perfect sense that she would have a book for FSU women as well.

It also makes sense that T would have looked for such advice after her first attempt went awry.  Since these questions appeared in the context of a letter containing lots of personal details about herself, I'm not dismayed that they were simply lifted from Elena's book -- in fact, they led to a very useful dialogue as T and I each answered the questions for our points of view.

Thanks again, I/O and Gator.

Steve

[Zmejka]

though it puzzles me that she stayed the whole 3 months -- I think I would have been outta there, but it might be that she did not know her options very well)

Steve i think of one more explanation of this one - she had her return ticket 3 months later and couldn't change the date for some reason (no money, not exchangeble ticket etc.)
As for her questions - i find them legit and thought upfront but i would ask the same (may be a bit rephrased) if i had a child and a responsibility before him (and also stable work that would be difficult to find again especially now if again she would have to return) before moving the 2nd time to the US.

[waterbug]

Steve i think of one more explanation of this one - she had her return ticket 3 months later and couldn't change the date for some reason (no money, not exchangeble ticket etc.)

That would not make sense -- why would anyone coming over on a fiancee visa already have bought a return ticket for 3 months later?  How negative! 

I find Tamara's explanation the most reasonable:  that she had invested so much that she wanted to make a "good faith" effort -- though, being a realist, and given the obnoxiousness of this guy, I suspect it is more like she made up her mind early that she would not marry him, and just did her best to enjoy herself with the Ukrainian women friends that she had met while she was here (she describes doing things with them -- going shopping, going to the mountains, laying by the pool).  Myself, I wouldn't find that reprehensible -- after all, she had been deceived (presumably) and the guy was behaving badly, so she might as well enjoy herself at his expense for a while.  The truth is almost never very simple. 

As for her questions - i find them legit and thought upfront but i would ask the same (may be a bit rephrased) if i had a child and a responsibility before him (and also stable work that would be difficult to find again especially now if again she would have to return) before moving the 2nd time to the US.

Yes, that's the consensus here.

Cheers,
Steve

[groovlstk]

That would not make sense -- why would anyone coming over on a fiancee visa already have bought a return ticket for 3 months later?  How negative! 

There are some men who buy R/T tickets for their fiancees after their visas are approved. The second leg of the R/T is a return trip dated for use sometime before the 90-day K1 window closes. Guys do this ostensibly as a good faith gesture to their fiancees that if they're not happy, they at least have reassurance that they can return home.

This is not, BTW, something every guy should do.

[Faux Pas]

That would not make sense -- why would anyone coming over on a fiancee visa already have bought a return ticket for 3 months later?  How negative! 

Buying a one-way ticket is often more expensive. The second leg can very often be turned back in for credit on future flights.

[waterbug]

There are some men who buy R/T tickets for their fiancees after their visas are approved. The second leg of the R/T is a return trip dated for use sometime before the 90-day K1 window closes. Guys do this ostensibly as a good faith gesture to their fiancees that if they're not happy, they at least have reassurance that they can return home.

In this case, the guy did not seem like the type to be into good faith gestures.   I'm sure this does happen sometimes, though.  I don't think it fits with this storyline.

Edit that:  on second thought, it *is* a possible scenario:  maybe this guy actually thought of it as a trial *arrangement* and bought a R/T ticket -- if she accepted the pre-nup, fine; if not, she has her ticket back.

This is not, BTW, something every guy should do.

Agreed!

Steve