Is this a bit unusual?

[jdk1963]

2 women, Lady-S and Lady-T, both on freepersonals.ru  I write both.

Lady-S does not respond for a few days so I drop her from my faves.  A day or two later she replies and gives me her email.  I write to her email and she says she thought she lost me and tells me she is very sorry but she was sick for several days.  No problem.  In her email she says she will be out of town and without her laptop and gives me her travel plans and her address and her cell phone and of course her full name.  Cool.  She does appear to know English.  A couple of days later I notice something odd with my freepersonals inbox.  No mail from her.  Since I re-added her to my faves I check there - gone, she has apparently dumped her profile!

Lady-T responds and after a few exchanges I'm in her faves and she has given me her personal email.  After a few emails I ask about talking on the phone and she would like but her English is really not good, perhaps in the future.  She does not know English and she really appreciates that I am trying to communicate in her language.  A problem but not a particular bridge I've come to just yet.  We exchange several emails over the course of about 2 weeks.  She seems to be warming up, it is however difficult to tell from an email.  Today - POOF her profile is gone!

Very strange and maybe nothing.

[myrddin]

Lady-S does not respond for a few days so I drop her from my faves.  A day or two later she replies and gives me her email.

No e-mails for a few days doesn't mean much to me in the early stages.  Dumped profile could be suspicious.  If scammers are now giving detailed travel plans and full address, maybe it's getting tougher to scam.  Have you called her?

Lady-T responds and after a few exchanges I'm in her faves and she has given me her personal email.  After a few emails I ask about talking on the phone

If she is really interested, it shouldn't be too difficult to get a phone number.

Very strange and maybe nothing.

Honestly I don't think it's even all that strange, some similar stuff happened to me on free sites.  When I was on freepersonals.ru, most scammers seemed pretty obvious.  But there are so many potential reasons for all of this, just don't worry.  Follow up a few times and just keep looking.

[jdk1963]

Lady-S I have not called but I did send a text message asking about her trip and she has not yet replied.  It is possible she does not have service and I'll know by the end of the week as that is when she said she would return.  Seems a silly way to run a scam if you ask me.

Lady-T I thought about asking for her number but I got the impression that she was not ready for that yet.  I did remember her birthday and suggested that a certain gentlemen might want to send a small token of congratulations.  I think there is some trouble with the translation.  I think it would be worth it to have a human translator get involved.  I asked about taking the train from Moscow and she thought I was asking about her son taking the train from Moscow.  She is pleased that I know her birthday and is happy to provide her home address.  While she finds the thought of flowers peasant she feels uncomfortable "bothering" me.  She is either very considerate, she is uncomfortable as we have not met, or she's a scammer.  I find it hard to believe a scammer would have me wrestle with a translator just for a minute chance at a minor payoff.  We'll see as I will ask for her address in my next email.

[Sculpto]

Lady-S I have not called but I did send a text message asking about her trip and she has not yet replied.  It is possible she does not have service and I'll know by the end of the week as that is when she said she would return.  Seems a silly way to run a scam if you ask me.

Lady-T I thought about asking for her number but I got the impression that she was not ready for that yet.  I did remember her birthday and suggested that a certain gentlemen might want to send a small token of congratulations.  I think there is some trouble with the translation.  I think it would be worth it to have a human translator get involved.  I asked about taking the train from Moscow and she thought I was asking about her son taking the train from Moscow.  She is pleased that I know her birthday and is happy to provide her home address.  While she finds the thought of flowers peasant she feels uncomfortable "bothering" me.  She is either very considerate, she is uncomfortable as we have not met, or she's a scammer.  I find it hard to believe a scammer would have me wrestle with a translator just for a minute chance at a minor payoff.  We'll see as I will ask for her address in my next email.

saying it again.. you need to relax.  I don't see anything wrong with any of the scenarios you are presenting, just you worrying too much.

[myrddin]

saying it again.. you need to relax. 

 

This is the number one piece of advice I've heard in my life!  Until the last few months, for some reason   

It's d*mned good advice, too.

[jdk1963]

saying it again.. you need to relax.  I don't see anything wrong with any of the scenarios you are presenting, just you worrying too much.

I'm relaxed.  Sort of. . .  I could use a beer. . . .

I thought the first was unusual but nothing to worry about then when the second dropped her profile that seemed odd. 

To paraphrase Eric Burdon "I'm an overfed short haired leaping gnome".  I have a natural bit of skepticism when a very attractive 43 going on 23 year old woman takes an interest in me.

[JR]

Women get a lot of nut cases contacting them. Both may just be tired of emails starting with "Hey baby, wanna have sex?" Hence, the deletion of their profiles.

They have given you personal contact info, that is a good sign.

You sent one text? It may have gotten lost. Call her and leave a VM. Call her again when she gets back.

Don't get too far ahead of yourself, just let it flow and do what feels right to you.

[jdk1963]

Women get a lot of nut cases contacting them. Both may just be tired of emails starting with "Hey baby, wanna have sex?" Hence, the deletion of their profiles.

They have given you personal contact info, that is a good sign.

You sent one text? It may have gotten lost. Call her and leave a VM. Call her again when she gets back.

Don't get too far ahead of yourself, just let it flow and do what feels right to you.

Thanks. 

[Ranetka]

2 women, Lady-S and Lady-T, both on freepersonals.ru  I write both.

Lady-S does not respond for a few days so I drop her from my faves.  A day or two later she replies and gives me her email.  I write to her email and she says she thought she lost me and tells me she is very sorry but she was sick for several days.  No problem.  In her email she says she will be out of town and without her laptop and gives me her travel plans and her address and her cell phone and of course her full name.  Cool.  She does appear to know English.  A couple of days later I notice something odd with my freepersonals inbox.  No mail from her.  Since I re-added her to my faves I check there - gone, she has apparently dumped her profile!

Lady-T responds and after a few exchanges I'm in her faves and she has given me her personal email.  After a few emails I ask about talking on the phone and she would like but her English is really not good, perhaps in the future.  She does not know English and she really appreciates that I am trying to communicate in her language.  A problem but not a particular bridge I've come to just yet.  We exchange several emails over the course of about 2 weeks.  She seems to be warming up, it is however difficult to tell from an email.  Today - POOF her profile is gone!

Very strange and maybe nothing.

I hide my profile time to time (appears as deleted to other people). Sometimes I get too many men contacting me and I need to take a bit of time "to sort them out" - to exchane emails and decided if I am interested or not, to carry out some chatting etc. Then a bit later I deal with a "new portion". Hope my explanation makes sense to you.

[jdk1963]

I hide my profile time to time (appears as deleted to other people). Sometimes I get too many men contacting me and I need to take a bit of time "to sort them out" - to exchane emails and decided if I am interested or not, to carry out some chatting etc. Then a bit later I deal with a "new portion". Hope my explanation makes sense to you.

Thanks that actually makes a lot of sense.

[kievstar]

Call her phone.  She gave you her phone number and travel plans.  That is a big hint to call her not send a text message.

Regarding the second girl tell her you will call her with a 3-way translation.  Need to get to the phone conversations. 

[Aloe]

Women get a lot of nut cases contacting them. Both may just be tired of emails starting with "Hey baby, wanna have sex?" Hence, the deletion of their profiles.

They have given you personal contact info, that is a good sign.

You sent one text? It may have gotten lost. Call her and leave a VM. Call her again when she gets back.

Don't get too far ahead of yourself, just let it flow and do what feels right to you.

voice mail is not a very popular service in Russia, i dont know anyone with voice mail on their cell phone

[ECOCKS]

voice mail is not a very popular service in Russia, i dont know anyone with voice mail on their cell phone

True. OTOH, EVERYONE has texting enabled.

Find out her service and give her text messages.

[jdk1963]

Call her phone.  She gave you her phone number and travel plans.  That is a big hint to call her not send a text message.

I got the impression from her email that I should wait for her return.  OTOH I may have gotten the wrong impression!

Regarding the second girl tell her you will call her with a 3-way translation.  Need to get to the phone conversations. 

Second thing I did! 




 

[jdk1963]

True. OTOH, EVERYONE has texting enabled.

Find out her service and give her text messages.

Other than asking her directly is there a way to determine her service?  I sent one text but I have no way of knowing if she got it and she has not replied.  It could have gotten lost or I misread a number and some dude is saying "Что за черт?"  I would prefer not to be seen as a stalker so I'll wait until she returns.  I'm not flooding her email either!

[facetrock]

   I see nothing wrong with either womans actions but will agree with Kievstar. The sooner you get on the phone the better. I no longer write long letters telling women about myself. Just a brief introduction telling them I am interested with a picture attached. If they dont like the picture I wont hear from them. If they do respond I am up front and tell them I like to chat on the phone or on skype or yahoo or msn or whatever. Letter after letter will drive me nuts and you can tell a person more about yourself in an hour than you can with a months worth of letters.
   Another thing is when I do ask a woman for her number she seems happy. Remember they are writing in a second language and long letters for them are time consuming and many mistakes are made. I dont have a problem with women who cant speak English. I tried that once and wont do it again. You guys who want to go that route, good luck. So any of you new guys want some advice that I think is good, dont be afraid to be a little agressive to get the phone number. Dont be a pussy, go for it. Women like confidence.  If she is interested she will be happy to talk to you for hours. 
 

[jdk1963]

She gave me her number and address.  Now I just need to set up a phone call with an interpreter.  I'm going to see if I cannot get her interested in chatting.  She seems to enjoy writing though.

Speaking of being aggressive.  I had one who did not want to give me her number.  She wanted to chat and email nothing more.  She saw my profile on another of the free sites and got upset because I had not made a choice yet.  I am better off.  As cool as she seemed in chat what she ended up doing was not cool at all.  If I was really the man for her the phone number should not have been a problem.  Even with language problems we're going to have to talk sometime. There are some maturity issues that I do not need to suffer through.  My children are adults now and I'll gladly accept your children as long as you're not one of them. 

The one who I did not have to ask for her phone number emailed me today.    What was really nice is that she had a change in her schedule and found a way to email me to tell me her schedule change.  I am thinking how awfully considerate that is and still wondering what the he!! she sees in me, the overfed short-haired leaping gnome.