What is an MOB'er?

[Misha]

Agree, but so what?  RU and UA have a large population, so anything is possible, facilitated by the search power of the Internet.

True, and the thing to keep in mind is that most people in the FSU still get married just out of high school or while they are in college or university and naturally they will marry individuals who are close to their age. Where other options are more likely to be examined is if a woman is not longer in college and is not finding men in her age group that she actually wants to marry or women who have divorced with children who may also have more limited prospects. Then, you are more likely to find larger age gaps as women will consider men as prospects that they would have ignored while in college...

[CanadaMan]

It's funny but despite the thread growing to more than 12 pages in length,
no one has answered Daveman's initial question "What is an MOB'er?"

The closest someone came to answering it so far has been GQ, in the second post.

Using some deductive skills we see that according to GQ a typical MOB'er is someone who:

1. Returns to the FSU seeking another wife if the first marriage fails.

2. Believes FSUW are the cat's meow.

3. Claims all AW are fat.

4. Feels threatened by a woman's personal success and aspiration for personal growth.

5. Falls in love with a woman's photos before meeting her.

6. Sends hundreds/thousands of dollars to a woman he just met.

7. Considers a foreign woman his GF after meeting just once.

8. Thinks women sign up at marriage agencies to marry them specifically.

9. Believes it's not necessary to lay all his cards on the table, when dating.

10. Spends years and thousands of dollars traveling to MOB regions searching for a wife.

11. Is more interested in 'what she is' rather than 'who she is'.

12. Hides how he and his wife met, when asked by someone.

13. Believes that a MOB's/MOB hunting is all that matters in life.

14. Kisses his wife's ass and expects her to return the favor.

15. Flashes his money around during courtship because he has nothing else to offer the woman.

16. Goes to the FSU with one aim in mind, 'find a wife' and tells this to each woman he meets.

17. Was dishonest to the women he met in the FSU, doing whatever was necessary to 'check out the goods' while abroad.

18. Encouraged women to be just as dishonest as he was.

19. Believes that his wife paid the ultimate sacrifice by deciding to marry him (leaving country, family, friends, job etc. etc.)
 

I will now offer my answer.
A MOB'er (the modern day version) is someone who gets up off his arse, gets on a plane and meets a woman in a foreign country with the hopes of marrying her down the line.

[GQBlues]

My point was not about age gaps.  It was about lies.  Barring pursuing minors, I personally don't give a damn who marries whom, and I highly doubt GQ does either.

Amongst other things. Deception being a form of lying, is certainly one of them. But I very clearly laid out my list of MObers...generally, the social rejects and old geezers. I think that created such a furor because it hit home to so many. Heck, I didn't even use the once-popular 3-letter acronym that is *forbidden* to be posted here.


It starts with S and ends with M and with an R in the middle. It basically denotes the classification of the average bride-seekers. Maybe this site really needs to consult the immortal *Dean* of the School of Smooth to enlighten the many.

What say you, folks?

Age gaps are predominant here in the US with these couples. Why go to FSU when one can just hang-out in supermarkets...If I have the time, maybe I can find that thread that supports this point.

...GQ certainly is free to correct me, if he so chooses.

Not necessary as you're on point on all counts. The reaction is nothing more than the inevitable diaper rashes, LOL.  So it won't get any better until it gets changed, or the need itself is no longer necessary. For some, likely the latter.

Patience.

[GQBlues]

BO, you must have been born attached to the hip of GQ.   

Time and time again you have spoken on his behalf in this thread....

I know this will likely surprise you but generally that happens when people are in full agreement.

[Boethius]

But I very clearly laid out my list of MObers


What say you, folks?

I'd say it is still not as advanced as the industry of Mail Order Husbands.    I especially like the blog.



http://mailorderhusbands.net/love/order/

[CanadaMan]

I know this will likely surprise you but generally that happens when people are in full agreement.

Does that mean I am not allowed to speak on either your or BO's behalf? 

[GQBlues]

...I'd say it is still not as advanced as the industry of Mail Order Husbands.    I especially like the blog.



http://mailorderhusbands.net/love/order/

 

I bet *Earl* can do real well in *supermarkets*.

'Fuad' is half-priced! What a deal!....then I noticed where he lives 

[GQBlues]

Does that mean I am not allowed to speak on either your or BO's behalf? 

Looks that way....

[TheTraveler]

I will now offer my answer.
A MOB'er (the modern day version) is someone who gets up off his arse, gets on a plane and meets a woman in a foreign country with the hopes of marrying her down the line.

agree with you 100%, canadaman !!!

[LiveFromUkraine]

This thread was a lot of fun.  haha


Look, everyone that goes overseas looking for a woman is trying to trade up compared to what they have available at home.  I won't believe anyone who says otherwise.


I think a lot of guys go for a home run instead of the bunt.  Are they losers?  I don't know.  I would say I could easily find people who would call anyone going to a country for women a loser.


Does it really matter?  Maybe if you have insecurity issues.


This stuff isn't new.  You got women and men doing this very same stuff in every country.


Everyone wants a better deal.


I seen someone mentioned Smooth Operator.  I used to love his posts simply because they could rile up a hornets nest. 

Still at the end of the day, he was going overseas to get a better deal.


As for people hurt by all the judgmental posts, well...  I probably could find a judgmental post by everyone in this thread on this forum.  We all do it so when it hits home you should be able to take the same medicine you dished out.

[Shadow]

I would think everyone here is an MOB'er.

[GoodOlBoy]

I can only repeat what I have stated before: "You may not like your shipmate(s), but we are all in the same boat here at RWD".
 
GOB

[Muzh]

I just don't see the the need for sanctimonious criticism of personal decisions made by two adults.  I expect such from democrats, e. g. vegans who want meat banned rather than be contented with their own choices.   But from republicans and libertarians?

That is fine with me.

Let's refrain from asking and answering questions here.

We don't want to be referred to as sanctimonious, don't we? 

[Boethius]

That is fine with me.

Let's refrain from asking and answering questions here.

We don't want to be referred to as sanctimonious, don't we? 

 

[BillyB]

This stuff isn't new.  You got women and men doing this very same stuff in every country.


Everyone wants a better deal.

Nothing wrong with that. That is a strength in people not a weakness or something any man or woman has to be ashamed about. Who wants to marry a man or woman who accepts trailer park trash people into their life? I prefer a woman who has good goals, high standards and takes care of her physical appearance over the average or opposite woman. If she's living in another country, I'm going there.

[CanadaMan]

I prefer a woman who has good goals, high standards and takes care of her physical appearance over the average or opposite woman. If she's living in another country, I'm going there.

In other words, you'd rather be called a 'loser' than lose her. 

[Gylden]

MOB'er =  Men Obsessed about Babes = Mind Often Blurred

[lonedrake]

I KNOW I'm not a typical MOBer.

 Me either! Most MOBer are more educated,wealthier and more refined than I ever will be

 So....I classify myself as "below average MOBer" or a BAMOBer

[Boethius]

 Me either! Most MOBer are more educated,wealthier and more refined than I ever will be

You  haven't been reading this forum very long, have you?

[lonedrake]

You  haven't been reading this forum very long, have you?

 Just long enough to know that some people drink to much before they post.....so I forgive then because they have no clue what they are saying

[CanadaMan]

 Just long enough to know that some people drink to much before they post.....so I forgive then because they have no clue what they are saying

   Touché !   

[Gator]

 Me either! Most MOBer are more educated,wealthier and more refined than I ever will be

 So....I classify myself as "below average MOBer" or a BAMOBer

Maybe you have less education than some but clearly you are smart.  Also, based on your trip reports, you know what you want and what is best for you.  So pat yourself on the back.
 
And I agree with what Boethius wrote about being refined.  Did you find it odd that the man who was criticized for living in a so-called redneck area of LA expressed his thoughts in a more refined manner than did the man who criticized him?   

[Gator]

 Just long enough to know that some people drink to much before they post.....so I forgive then because they have no clue what they are saying

For some it is more than firewater.  They simply are out of humor, i. e. miserable and bitter.

[Muzh]

 Just long enough to know that some people drink to much before they post.....so I forgive then because they have no clue what they are saying

Oh?

Mind sharing who the sots are?

[cc3]

I would think everyone here is an MOB'er.

Actually, I am an MOH  ...Mail Order Husband. My fiancee initiated contact on one of the more up and up PPL sites. We wrote intensely, frequently; we met; we fell in love; we will marry in UA and I will take up residence with her and my future stepdaughter in Luhansk, until she completes her final university studies.