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[jamesbond]

Faux Pas,

I am not looking for another RW to marry. I just want to fly there and "bang" them next April next year... nothing wrong with it I am single and free and I can afford it.

[Admin]

Faux Pas,

I am not looking for another RW to marry. I just want to fly there and "bang" them next April next year... nothing wrong with it I am single and free and I can afford it.

jb,

There are two possible interpretations to your post. One is - you are joking around and being sarcastic. The other is - you are serious and are intent on making a sex tourist visit to the FSU. In the case of the former, you might be advised that sort of sarcastic humor is likely to result in significant backlash from our members. In the case of the latter - kudos for your honesty, and the strong suggestion you find another forum to play host to your interests, as that is 180 degrees out of phase with our mission at RWD.

Please clarify.

- Dan

[Faux Pas]

Faux Pas ,

I don't think it's a colossal failure ----- for one, I am the one who ended it and backed out after I realized she was no into me. I enjoyed also the holiday in Dominicana .. not as erotic I want it to be. One initial mistake doesn't make me "stupid" or "foolish" . Actually I was smart to back out, otherwise, it's gonna be train wreck (another divorce). My friend, wisdom is not a monopoly of you. Everybody makes a mistake -- I corrected it .What's wrong with it ?

I wouldn't for a second think I was full of wisdom or that I had a corner on it. I will be the first to alert the media. I won't go into the details of your vacation because, besides the fact that I don't really care to, you explained it well enough. If you want to pat yourself on the back because the lady was going to give you a "sympathy bang" and you backed out of the relationship before it became a serious train wreck, then go right ahead. Power to you. Apparently, there is plenty there that even you have failed to realize.

My previous post was just to caution you to stick with what you know when advising someone else. From your thread it's blatantly obvious you don't know dick about meeting, courting or marrying in the international scene. If you want to be offended and have your feelings hurt, then I suppose thats your choice.

[Sculpto]

Faux Pas,

I am not looking for another RW to marry. I just want to fly there and "bang" them next April next year... nothing wrong with it I am single and free and I can afford it.

LMFAO!  Based on what the OP has said.. he will be sitting alone in his miserable apartment most of the time.. trying to figure out how to communicate with the hookers that he can't afford..

dude.. just go to Thailand... you can get your Russian girl fetish dealt with there without risking having your throat cut.

btw.. YUCK!

[Gator]

If you marry, make sure you have a pre-nuptial that you will not support her after the divorce . You have to be realistic and little bit UNATTACHED  to protect yourself.

I am not looking for another RW to marry. I just want to fly there and "bang" them next April next year... nothing wrong with it I am single and free and I can afford it.

Oh no!!!!!

Muddy and Ambach have conjoined and reincarnated as JamesBond.

[Sculpto]

sure seems that way huh Gator..

Well.. based on his train wreck in DR he wont be doing much damage.. those girl will eat him alive.. he can't handle it.. NO GAME!

[rjd400]

I thank everyone for their input. 

Only thing I would say is, much like with an AW, you'd be silly to move forward with her (and especially marry her) if she wasn't intimate with you, and I never would.  While I'm a newbie to RW, I have been with plenty of women, and in my personal experience, you can usually tell pretty easily if there is physical chemistry there early on.

Again, thank you everyone.

Regards,
Bob

[Ravens9273]

Bob,

Do not listen to a single word JamesBond says.

Normally I get into arguments with people like him. I have told myself recently not to let people like him get me going. It has been extremely hard for me to back away from commenting on his first thread. Believe me it was not easy,

JamesBond is nothing more then a SEX tourist. He paid for an expensive vacation with a RW because he believed he would get SEX from her the whole trip. Had he known there would be no SEX he would not have invited her on the trip.

The Women he took thought it was a trip to get acquainted.
When she did not sleep with him the first night he started to pout like a little boy and pretty much she saw his true colors.
JamesBond just does not get it.

Had his motivation been to meet this lady and get to know her. To be a gentleman and respect her on the trip it would have been a whole different experience for him. So much so that even SEX may have happened.

Most Women will complain that the worst thing about meeting Men is that Men only want SEX.
Knowing this is Womens biggest complaint how does a Man think he will succeed by putting SEX as their main focus?

This is why JamesBond is alone. The has no respect for Women. If James Bond learned respect and realized it is not all about him, he might learn the SEX comes with it.

BTW. Prenups do not mean you will not have to take care of the lady after a divorce. JamesBond is wrong here as well.
You have to file a petition of support in order to bring the lady over. This means you are responsible for them while they are in the USA. The US wants to make sure they do not become a product of the state.
You brought her over so other tax payers dollars should not support her. You will. JamesBond needs to get educated before continuing this adventure.

Best of luck to you Bob.

[groovlstk]

Faux Pas ,

I don't think it's a colossal failure ----- for one, I am the one who ended it and backed out after I realized she was no into me. I enjoyed also the holiday in Dominicana .. not as erotic I want it to be. One initial mistake doesn't make me "stupid" or "foolish" . Actually I was smart to back out, otherwise, it's gonna be train wreck (another divorce). My friend, wisdom is not a monopoly of you. Everybody makes a mistake -- I corrected it .What's wrong with it ?

Funny how the same facts can be distorted to look like a "win" situation for you. The woman to whom you gave a free tropical vacation had zero affection and even less interest in you. She used you and now can brag to her friends at home that she didn't even have to give anything up during the trip.

Here's a bulletin for you: You were dumped long, long before you formally broke up with her, the only reason she'd have remained with you (and I use the term "with" quite loosely) was to get more free trips. So yes, that makes you "stupid" and "foolish" then, and your failure to admit what's obvious to everyone else puts those categories in boldface.

[rjd400]

Thanks again.  I don't know anyone here well enough yet, so I don't know who is what.  But I am most certainly NOT just looking for sex.  I can find that easy enough here in the US, and a whole lot cheaper.
While naturally that is an important part of any relationship, that comes AFTER other important connections have been made. 

 
Regards,
Bob

[groovlstk]

No, the youngest gal I have dated recently has been 33, and most have been in the mid-thirties(for those who are now wondering about my "dating" already having only being separated for several months, the soon to be ex is aware of it, and as I said, the relationship has gone south a while ago).  I didn't seek out someone 25, I came across her, and didn't think I should count her out only because of her age, anymore than I should be counted out because of mine.  Thus far, the communications and interests seem to be on par (maybe I'm a little immature for my age?  ).  But I am aware of the issues that can arise with this big of an age difference.

Regards

Bob,

I was in a similar situation years ago, although the woman I was communicating with was 27 and I was 41. I didn't really take her serious at first even if she insisted our age gap is not an issue (her mom is very happily married to a Russian man nearly 20 years her senior), but over time we forged a bond so strong that I had no choice but to visit her.

You have the right attitude but the key is not to do anything stupid - if she's not into you when you meet in person, walk away instead of trying to pound square pegs into round holes.

As far as the age difference, like my wife she can talk all she wants about how it's not an issue. It is, and the degree to which it hangs over your relationship will only increase, never decrease. It's easy for both of you to say "I can deal with it" but the reality is you'll never know until you've been married for awhile, and of course even if you get to that point things can change very suddenly.

I will say (very reluctantly, since I'd prefer not to have my experiences seized upon by old farts looking for justification to marry schoolgirls) that there are some positive things. For instance, my wife was previously married to a man her age, and one of the things she likes about our relationship is that when she's having a bad week she can go on autopilot and let me take care of her. I hate to use the term "fatherly," but there's definitely a strong element of respect for my life experiences and whatever wisdom I managed to pick up through my many mistakes over 44 years. My wife's female Russian friends have an almost embarrassing reverence for me (which I believe is more from my wife talking me up than anything genuine) and it's not too rare for her to get a call after 11PM from one of these friends after a fight w/their BF/husband to ask "what would Mark do if you were in this situation?"

Good luck, and keep your wits about you.

[rjd400]

Thanks, as I'm going through the site, and reading the various stories like, I wax and wane between being optimistic and pessimistic about the possibilities.  Very glad I found this site.

[Faux Pas]

Thanks, as I'm going through the site, and reading the various stories like, I wax and wane between being optimistic and pessimistic about the possibilities.  Very glad I found this site.

You have every reason to be very optimistic. Go for it. Gather all the information here available to you. To a large degree it will help you set your course and what is right for you. The pro's and con's are ad infinitum and this pursuit isn't for everybody (as you may have read already). 

[groovlstk]

Thanks, as I'm going through the site, and reading the various stories like, I wax and wane between being optimistic and pessimistic about the possibilities.  Very glad I found this site.

The experiences of members here are as good a place to start as any, but don't get caught up in the mistake of relying on statistics. There are always guys who show up here wanting to find a RW because they heard that the divorce stats in marriages between Russians and Americans are much lower. When they are told this is BS, they disappear.

You are an individual, and using such stats to gauge your own chances of success is a big mistake. There are so many variables - many who get into this believe the agency garbage and propose to virtual strangers, secure in their knowledge that their "chances" of success are good based on statistics.  Read about the various trainwrecks here and you'll see the red flags that guys ignored on their way to the cliff's edge, and how some women living in poor conditions are desperate for any escape.

Bottom line: if you are not desperate, have decent social skills, and are not afraid to get kicked in the shins now and then during your pursuit, you have as good a chance as anyone to succeed.

[jamesbond]

 
There is NO FREEDOM OF SPEECH in this forum. I got attacked by having negative views and by being a little defiant and by having negative views on Russians.

I just joined this forum just to reminisce the experience --- though I did not pursue her (RW) anymore . We remain friends . She wrote me an email a month ago to tell me she went to Turkey.

Anyway, I  was not a sex tourist . Whatever I have with RW are just fascination but I am not going to marry any RW or I guess I just have desire to date RW again to recover me ego. Yes, I have a lot of "ego" ... nothing wrong with it as long as you don't harm people and you are RESPECTFUL of views you don't like. Sorry for using " bang the RW "  and being a little bit braggart in my previous post -- not a decent words to say or write.

I am just wondering why some people are so sensitive about me having negative views of  RW and would shut me up even though what I suggest is mainly just "just look at his back and protect himself and make sure there is physical chemistry " --- one  person here tried to shut me up for expressing this view....just wondering if they are "paid promoters" of the Russian bride business. The thing here I never attack anybody here and RESPECTFUL of their views....I am just posting this for mainly reminiscing and entertaining myself.This is  my last post over here....Hopefully, those who attack can reconsider there is always some different opinions based on their experience. I am not gonna respond to those who insulted me here...because think about it ..whatever you say about me experience are at speculation at its best.

[Vaughn]

There is NO FREEDOM OF SPEECH in this forum. I got attacked by having negative views and by being a little defiant and by having negative views on Russians.

Please explain how your freedom of speech was curtailed, jamesbond.

I am just wondering why some people are so sensitive about me having negative views of  RW

Is it not surprising that at least a few members here would circle the wagons? While a few might defend
everything FSU to the point of lunacy, consider that many here have overcome those negative perceptions
and perceive you as a cynic - with an April "bang agenda" - for which your apology is gracious.

[groovlstk]

There is NO FREEDOM OF SPEECH in this forum. I got attacked by having negative views and by being a little defiant and by having negative views on Russians.

If there was no FREEDOM OF SPEECH here, your posts would have been removed. It is YOU who is attacking the free speech rights of those who responded to your posts.

Yes, I have a lot of "ego" ... nothing wrong with it as long as you don't harm people and you are RESPECTFUL of views you don't like. Sorry for using " bang the RW "  and being a little bit braggart in my previous post -- not a decent words to say or write.

You're apologizing yet you don't understand why you came under criticism here? If you were a teenager no one would bat an eye, but you're 40 years old.