Shopping as an interest

[GQBlues]

....What are your read flags in a written profile?.........

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Greedy!  Learn this word, know its implications.

Danger, Mr. Robinson, Danger!!! Red flag alert! Red flag Alert!

Not because of what it suppose to imply, but rather because if she can't properly address/define what she means to say, then chances are good there will be numerous misunderstanding in your relationship later on... 

[viking]

It's better than shopping being an addiction.   

When my wife "shops" she wants to walk, stop, touch, feel, look, imagine, compare, talk, drink coffee, eat cake, take the boys to the playground... and when we're all exhausted she'll go back and buy the very first thing she saw that day.   

When we go "buying" I know what I want,  I find it, I buy it. 

At least I am not alone on this !!!! I could take a trip back to Belarus in the same amount of time it takes for her to buy a pair of shoes. So I try to find stores that have a tool/hardware store near by where I can at spend my time waiting.

[Vaughn]

Actually shopping with my wife is a rare event - unless it's an item we're both considering, say, like a
patio set. Otherwise, she shops alone - and so do I. Neither of us really enjoys dragging anybody else
along. Put me inside a good bookstore, video/music shop or a hardware depot and I can spend a good hour,
if I have the time. She went out today for four hours, returned with not so much - got a few great deals.

It's enjoyment for her. Handles it responsibly. Would she mention shopping in a profile? Probably not.

[Gylden]

What is perceived as a "red flag" can differ from person to person. Combinations of things can conjure up "red flags" as well.
Shopping in and of itself wouldn't set any alarm bells off with me. However I would be paying attention to her behaviour during subsequent meetings/conversations to see/learn exactly what she means by saying it.
The age thing....searching for 19 to 99, would be more of an alarm to me. If the two statements were in the same profile, it would make me more sceptical. Whether or not I would go further would depend on the rest of the profile/circumstance.

[Aloe]

I like shopping, if i was rich i'd shop a lot. But since i'm poor i only get to really shop maybe once a year. I'd say shopping is an interest (but i wouldn't put it on my profile). Just because it's an interest it doesn't mean i have to do it or i die. I can go without  

As far as my red flags are concerned... For me personally red flag in a man's profile is a mention of sex (sex itself or "sexy"), also another red flag is when they type "i'm looking for a special womEn". I consider it a freudian slip I realize it's a typo in most cases, yet it rubs off very wrong on me, because i want a monogamous man, no slips attached And of course i'd steer completely clear of men who use both the words!! "a sexy women" ftw    Any kind of grammatical error is a turn off actually. You'd think he has time to double check his profile, if he's serious.

[Muzh]

I'm hoping it is just you.  Since I am not dumb and I have no intention of being offensive.

But who knows--maybe your contributions and threads that you start are more valuable than mine.  I still insist there was no need for this thread to be about me and as soon as we can get it back to the "obvious" the better.

Will you be agreeable to this Muzh, I have been trying to re-direct and can and will let it go.  Perhaps the thread will dry up and go away since red flags are obvious.

Whoa, let's take a time out. I'm not pointing cannons in your direction. I don't think this thread is about you at all.

There has been this common misconception about RW regarding mostly everything. All I'm trying to tell you and anyone who would listen is that these women went through a different economical upbringing than we did. Still, they are women and like most women from industrialized nations they tend to have the same (or I should say similar) material and emotional desires as we do. Plain and simple.

Now, if we are talking about differences in how they see splurging for a guest as opposed to what we do and other small idiosyncrasies like refrigeration and the such, I'm game.

No one here is saying that your contributions are lesser than mine. And I would never say that to anyone.

[Muzh]

My wife would rather not shop if I'm not going. She likes my opinion and when we go to the ladies department it turns into a little foreplay. Heh, heh, heh.

Personally, I like shopping. I always find excellent deals and my friends are amazed the things that I get for such little money. Not to be confused with being frugal. By saving big in one item, it gives the the chance to spend somewhere else.

Just for the record. My wife never exhibited any different behavior nor expectations about shopping than her American counterparts.

@Aloe
I'd never be rich. However, I'd have a lot of toys.

[Kuna]

At least I am not alone on this !!!! I could take a trip back to Belarus in the same amount of time it takes for her to buy a pair of shoes. So I try to find stores that have a tool/hardware store near by where I can at spend my time waiting.

I've got to tell you the FUNNIEST thing that has happened since we've been married... and there's a lot of funny events in our 3 years.

We were "in centre" shopping one day.  I got tired of walking behind her at snails pace, trying to control our eldest boy who just wants to walk ahead,  hide, play, run, jump, climb, etc so I took him outside to "wait it out".

There was another bloke also waiting right outside of the store and we kind of looked at each other silently saying "have mercy".  I nearly died when my wife walked out of the store a few paces behind his wife we both looked at each other and said at the same time, "RUSSIAN?"

We both cracked up as he walked off with his RW and I walked off with mine (UW) knowing what we both go through whenever we go shopping with our wonderful wives.

My advice to anyone who marries a RW and doesn't have the patience to shop with them is to buy yourself a good book and bring along a deck chair... because you may need it!