Not just another wide AGE GAP thread! It can be...

[IAmZon]

HAHAHA - AGE Gaps! When I first came here, I WAS OBSESSED with this question (because my desire was so great and social taboos everpresent). Now I see the WHOLE thing in a different light.

When hunting for a wife ... Why all the planning and stratagizing?   Why all the checklists and searching?  Is life really lived in such a way? Sure you have to be aware of how your family and community will react to certain possible eventualities.  That seems to me to be a part of minimum self knowledge every man should have ... in order to really dissect something, you normally have to kill it.   

I say: #1 Know Yourself (and few men really do)  #2 Go with it.   Attraction and desire means YOUR attracted and YOU desire - then be a man and don't loose your best judgement.   All too often I hear men explain their intentions with built in discounts ( at my age; look at me; etc... ) Again, why?  Work on yourself to be the best you can be, then try to be the guy in the Dos Equis commercials - Drink Well My Friend.

Anyway, I have not had a serious relationship for - WOW - a long time (not a problem to me, because I am not bustin out of my britches to have one)  Last women I have dated in no particular order: 28; 19; 22; 32; 22.  For the record, I am FAR more younger now than several years ago - 46 years of age hahaha   I do, however,  see and feel that the type of relationship I have with women under the age of 24 - 26 is for fun / passion (Does there REALLY need to be more?  Is that not what friendship is for?  Why do we seek a mate that will fill every category of life?  odd, I think    But, certainly a BONUS if one is lucky enough to have it.)   

Lastly, I will just note that if I had to stay in the USA and date only AM my own age, I would be the most unhappy SOB on Planet Earth. There is no intellectualizing it.

[XMan]

LOL.  Most women know there is always a woman who is more physically beautiful than they are.  A secure woman has no issue with this.  You need to figure out how to make your woman feel secure enough that this is a non issue.
 
Now, if I read my husband chose me because he thought he could "trust me", yeah, he would hear about it.  I would want to know he chose me over all other women because he loved me, and didn't love the others.

 

I like it.

[Muzh]

Now, if her invitation were to include verbiage such as "Secret" and perhaps a "Victoria" thrown in there somewhere, I do believe I could assuage my aversion temporarily... hey! compromise is supposed to be good in a relationship!

My friend, be the man. YOU pick the establishment you will acompany her. 
 
Enjoy.

[BillyB]

All too often I hear men explain their intentions with built in discounts ( at my age; look at me; etc... )
 

 
I'm 41 yo but after waking up this morning I look and feel like 70. True story.
 
 

Lastly, I will just note that if I had to stay in the USA and date only AM my own age, I would be the most unhappy SOB on Planet Earth. There is no intellectualizing it.

 
If all I had to date were AM(American Men) my age, I'd be an unhappy SOB too. Is there a big difference dating between younger and older men?

[Gator]

My girlfriend's 22-yo daughter is staying with me while mama remains in Russia.  She has a student visa.  While she concentrates on her studies, she has a social life.  Given her astonishing good looks, she receives a lot of attention (see photo).
 
She is very serious and is not keen about nightclub life.  She has mostly shunned men her age, and is most attracted to men in their young 30s.  So in her particular case, a 10-year age gap was ideal.
 
She and I had some frank discussions about this, and I felt like a father in discussing her suitors.  At first she dated several Russian men here.   She felt many were married even though they did not tell her that.    As I said before she is serious, and none got a taste of honey even though they arrived with splendid gifts.    RM in America are very much like RM in Russia.  Yet no RM brought as many gifts as a Saudi student from her class.
 
In any event she finally met a nice young man about 32 yo.    He sells luxury cars, and took her to the dealer showroom where she was a big hit.  They are planning a Thanksgiving trip to meet his parents.  He is typically American and does not give her expensive presents.   Guess what?  He is the first man in America with whom she has romantic feelings.  RM could learn a lesson.   

[Jack]

A beautiful young lady Gator.  Hopefully she will listen to you, follow your advice.

[GQBlues]

The perfect example why it makes a whole lot more sense to stay within your community to date, Gator...