Not just another wide AGE GAP thread! It can be...

[Eduard]

I am 51 and my wife is 31 now, so our age difference is pretty significant... After close to 7 years of marriage and 2 kids together we came to realisation that she is more mature than I and while I sometimes want to go out dancing (with her) she prefers an evening at home with the kids. She wants me to grow up and become more mature so I've got my work cut out for me! A wide age gap can be a bi*tch! Let this be a lesson to all the newbies, and good luck in your search!
Ed 

[ML]

Just to put on some fuel:   

1. You may seem to have more energy than her now, and looking a little more for the night life than her now:  but what about in 10 years and 20 years.  In 20 years she will still be a young woman (in today's way of counting and health.)  What will be your  condition?

2. In 10 years, she will be hitting her sexual peak and be ready  for non-stop sex.  What will your situation be in 10 years?

[OlgaH]

Ed, and what is a point of your thread?

After close to 7 years of marriage and 2 kids together we came to realisation that she is more mature than I ...

Wisdom comes with age, but sometimes age comes alone... 

[ECOCKS]

Kudos to you for sharing Ed.

How do you feel the odds look for you "tiring" in the next decade or so?

Do you expect that you will be playing the gay blade and still cutting a rug as she becomes increasingly more tied to the couch and being a soccer mom?

FWIW, my thoughts are that MOST guys looking for the wide age gap relationship are looking for some reassurance as to their own aging or collecting a trophy. The majority of them IMO are going to run out of viagra, testosterone, money and overall energy before the gal does. Playing papa and helping her develop a mature lifestyle probably gets a bit boring after the first 5 or 10 years. This may be borne out by the divorce situations we see and hear about.

[BC]

51/32 with our son and daughter in-house and 3 others grown up already.  Coming up on 9 years married and 10 together.

We were NOT looking for marriage and did NOT go the MOB route. But bottom line, we are where we are.

Ed, and what is a point of your thread?

Good question..

[Eduard]

2. In 10 years, she will be hitting her sexual peak and be ready  for non-stop sex.  What will your situation be in 10 years?

is it a scientific fact that all women reach sexual maturity at age 41? Some people believe that by the time women turn 40 they lose all interest in sex. My personal belief is that it is different with different women. And also depends on what kind of relationship they have with their souse, their health, their self esteem, etc. etc.
For those of you concerned with my performance in 10 years, I can only say - who knows? I enjoy life now, enjoy my family and kids.  So I'm just thankful for what I have. None of us can predict what will be 10 years from now so enjoy each moment, plan for the future, take care of your health, your family.


PS.
 FWIW my dad was still single and chasing skirts in his early 70s 

[Eduard]

Ed, and what is a point of your thread?

  Olga you should ask some one wiser! 

Wisdom comes with age, but sometimes age comes alone... 

I have a feeling that you would get along famously with my wife!

[Eduard]

Kudos to you for sharing Ed.

How do you feel the odds look for you "tiring" in the next decade or so?

Do you expect that you will be playing the gay blade and still cutting a rug as she becomes increasingly more tied to the couch and being a soccer mom?

FWIW, my thoughts are that MOST guys looking for the wide age gap relationship are looking for some reassurance as to their own aging or collecting a trophy. The majority of them IMO are going to run out of viagra, testosterone, money and overall energy before the gal does. Playing papa and helping her develop a mature lifestyle probably gets a bit boring after the first 5 or 10 years. This may be borne out by the divorce situations we see and hear about.

Ed, a wide age gap wasn't one of my criteria. I was searching for some one who would have the same goals, wanted a family with good famioly values, honest and sexy. So I found my wife. If she was 10 or 15 years older I would have still marred her.
The whole point of this exercise is that sometimes age gap isn't everything (Ray, jump in when ever you're ready!)


PS. what the hell is "the gay blade"?

[ECOCKS]

Ed, a wide age gap wasn't one of my criteria. I was searching for some one who would have the same goals, wanted a family with good famioly values, honest and sexy. So I found my wife. If she was 10 or 15 years older I would have still marred her.
The whole point of this exercise is that sometimes age gap isn't everything (Ray, jump in when ever you're ready!)


PS. what the hell is "the gay blade"?

LOL, one who parties recklessly with abandon and wanton disregard for what comes tomorrow. My apologies to Webster, that's my ad hoc definition.

And, FWIW, please remember that I said, MOST, there was no accusation or implication. I think you raised an interesting slant on this question that isn't normally considered.

[Faux Pas]

Ed, a wide age gap wasn't one of my criteria. I was searching for some one who would have the same goals, wanted a family with good famioly values, honest and sexy. So I found my wife. If she was 10 or 15 years older I would have still marred her.
The whole point of this exercise is that sometimes age gap isn't everything (Ray, jump in when ever you're ready!)


PS. what the hell is "the gay blade"?

Not taking a shot at you here Eduard but, these are generally famous last words from anyone in a large age gap relationship.

[Eduard]

Not taking a shot at you here Eduard but, these are generally famous last words from anyone in a large age gap relationship.

I did go out with women of different ages when I was single and looking, both here in the US as well as Russia. I went out with women whos age ranged from 22 to 42. My wife and I just happened to have the best chemistry and our values and life outlook seemed to match best. I understand what you are saying, FP, but I really wasn't looking to "rob the cradle". When I met my wife she was already a very mature young lady, self reliant, living in her own apartment that she was renting and working as a dentist in Moscow. 


Now if only I would grow up a bit quicker I might even catch up to her! 

[ECOCKS]

Rather than focusing on the individual here, maybe we should try to hold on the topic presented.

As I said, I think MOST of us probably assume that the guy will come in, shop for a younger woman (for whatever reason) and then tire in a few years (or months).

What if we consider this as more of a potential mismatch of lifestyle and energy

Is it possible that a situation like this is not just a cut and dried age gap situation sometimes?

There are all types of mismatches in relationships of course. I have listened to more classical chamber music and opera in the last 5 years than in the previous 50. It's tolerable, even enjoyable sometimes, but not my preferred musical genre.

When we go to the beach I tend to be more at the bar with a good book than laying out on the sand.

[I/O]

What will be the situation in 10 years time? This question has been asked by seemingly intelligent people about a million times and they turn out to be as thick as two short planks because they don't get the simple answers they've been given about a million times. The age gap punter doesn't care...!!! He'll worry about ten years time then, not now, not before, and maybe not ever.
 
Sure, as an age gap punter, I asked myself the question, convinced myself I didn't go looking for this, justified that to myself on the basis I "dated" women from Vladivostok to London, from Vancouver to Mexico City, a goodly amount of Asia and everywhere in between, at 36-39 at the time I "dated" everywhere from 18-43 so of course I hadn't gone looking for anything specific, a hot young women "just happened" to grab my attention. Of course she did, there were about 100 women in the airport at the time and she "just happened" to be the youngest and hottest. Go figure.

[Eduard]

What will be the situation in 10 years time? This question has been asked by seemingly intelligent people about a million times and they turn out to be as thick as two short planks because they don't get the simple answers they've been given about a million times. The age gap punter doesn't care...!!! He'll worry about ten years time then, not now, not before, and maybe not ever.
 
Sure, as an age gap punter, I asked myself the question, convinced myself I didn't go looking for this, justified that to myself on the basis I "dated" women from Vladivostok to London, from Vancouver to Mexico City, a goodly amount of Asia and everywhere in between, at 36-39 at the time I "dated" everywhere from 18-43 so of course I hadn't gone looking for anything specific, a hot young women "just happened" to grab my attention. Of course she did, there were about 100 women in the airport at the time and she "just happened" to be the youngest and hottest. Go figure.

Ha ha  I/O always speaking your mind and calling it as you see it. I respect that. But still, in my case, when I finally narrowed it down just to a few women I had several choices and a couple of them were quite a bit "hotter" than my wife in terms of their looks. I picked my wife because I felt that I could trust her.

[OlgaH]

Just to put on some fuel:   

2. In 10 years, she will be hitting her sexual peak and be ready  for non-stop sex.  What will your situation be in 10 years?

At 85 years of age, Roger married Jenny, a lovely 25 year old.

Since her new husband is so old, Jenny decides that after their wedding she and Roger should have separate bedrooms, because she is concerned that her new but aged husband may over exert himself if they spend the entire night together.

After the wedding festivities Jenny prepares herself for bed and the expected knock on the door. Sure enough the knock comes, the door opens and there is Roger, her 85 year old groom, ready for action. They unite as one. All goes well, Roger takes leave of his bride, and she prepares to go to sleep.

After a few minutes, Jenny hears another knock on her bedroom door, and it's Roger, again he is ready for more 'action'. Somewhat surprised, Jenny consents for more coupling. When the newly weds are done, Roger kisses his bride, bids her a fond good night and leaves.

She is set to go to sleep again, but, aha! you guessed it - Roger is back again, rapping on the door, is as fresh as a 25-year-old, ready for more 'action'. And, once more they enjoy each other.

But as Roger gets set to leave again, his young bride says to him, 'I am thoroughly impressed that at your age you can perform so well and so often. I have been with guys less than a third of your age who were only good once.You are truly a great lover, Roger.'

Roger, somewhat embarrassed, turns to Jenny and says: 'You mean I was here already?'

The moral of the story: Don't be afraid of getting old, Alzheimer's has its advantages.

[Eduard]

At 85 years of age, Roger married Jenny, a lovely 25 year old.

Since her new husband is so old, Jenny decides that after their wedding she and Roger should have separate bedrooms, because she is concerned that her new but aged husband may over exert himself if they spend the entire night together.

After the wedding festivities Jenny prepares herself for bed and the expected knock on the door. Sure enough the knock comes, the door opens and there is Roger, her 85 year old groom, ready for action. They unite as one. All goes well, Roger takes leave of his bride, and she prepares to go to sleep.

After a few minutes, Jenny hears another knock on her bedroom door, and it's Roger, again he is ready for more 'action'. Somewhat surprised, Jenny consents for more coupling. When the newly weds are done, Roger kisses his bride, bids her a fond good night and leaves.

She is set to go to sleep again, but, aha! you guessed it - Roger is back again, rapping on the door, is as fresh as a 25-year-old, ready for more 'action'. And, once more they enjoy each other.

But as Roger gets set to leave again, his young bride says to him, 'I am thoroughly impressed that at your age you can perform so well and so often. I have been with guys less than a third of your age who were only good once.You are truly a great lover, Roger.'

Roger, somewhat embarrassed, turns to Jenny and says: 'You mean I was here already?'

The moral of the story: Don't be afraid of getting old, Alzheimer's has its advantages.

LOL. Olga! I had a good laugh! Thanks for posting! This guys sounds like me in 34 years from now! 

[Vinnvinny]

When someone demonstrates to me that I can guarantee a long and happy union with someone nearer my own age then I’ll consider the foolishness of larger age gap marriages.


In the meantime I will happily fail to consider what will happen in ’10 years time’ on the basis that I’ve been told a million times that she’ll trade up and dump me long before then.


On this matter, has it ever happened that an older bloke has dumped a young wife because he got a bit bored and wanted someone ‘better’ (as is the case when 99.999% marriages fail) or is there a rule somewhere that only allows the young wife to do the dumping?

[Eduard]

When someone demonstrates to me that I can guarantee a long and happy union with someone nearer my own age then I’ll consider the foolishness of larger age gap marriages.


In the meantime I will happily fail to consider what will happen in ’10 years time’ on the basis that I’ve been told a million times that she’ll trade up and dump me long before then.


On this matter, has it ever happened that an older bloke has dumped a young wife because he got a bit bored and wanted someone ‘better’ (as is the case when 99.999% marriages fail) or is there a rule somewhere that only allows the young wife to do the dumping?

Good point, Vinn... I'm sure a guy coould decide to look for some one new even if he is much older. It can go both ways IMO.

[Vinnvinny]

It can go both ways IMO.

Well going both ways certainly opens up the potential market .... 

[Misha]

On this matter, has it ever happened that an older bloke has dumped a young wife because he got a bit bored and wanted someone ‘better’ (as is the case when 99.999% marriages fail) or is there a rule somewhere that only allows the young wife to do the dumping?

How would you define young?

[Vinnvinny]

How would you define young?

20+ years younger.

[Daveman]

Ha ha  I/O always speaking your mind and calling it as you see it. I respect that. But still, in my case, when I finally narrowed it down just to a few women I had several choices and a couple of them were quite a bit "hotter" than my wife in terms of their looks. I picked my wife because I felt that I could trust her.

Now there's an a$$ whuppin' waitin' to happen   

[Eduard]

Now there's an a$$ whuppin' waitin' to happen   

well, if you don't hear from me after tonight, you'll know what happened... 

[Boethius]

LOL.  Most women know there is always a woman who is more physically beautiful than they are.  A secure woman has no issue with this.  You need to figure out how to make your woman feel secure enough that this is a non issue.
 
Now, if I read my husband chose me because he thought he could "trust me", yeah, he would hear about it.  I would want to know he chose me over all other women because he loved me, and didn't love the others.

[ECOCKS]

well, if you don't hear from me after tonight, you'll know what happened... 

ROFLMAO!