How do you build relationship thru letters?

[Ludmila]

Eduard,
true, that's why I said up the thread I don't recommend it to  ANY one. If I had to chose among Russian men, being at a distance, I WOULD DO THE SAME. Internet is a fantastic tool for this. You only have to know how to use it, the content that is. The knowledge of the language, culture, psychology, etc is a must though.

[Faux Pas]

I learned much about my friend through Skpe. We used email only three or four times to get information on Skype connection. After that I have emailed some pictures and both of us use text some time.

He wanted me to do more typing to work on English but we open camera link for a little while most every night. He told me though that one thing I will see here is that most men understand that there is no relationship until after meeting and seeing how the chemistry is between us. I liked his words and thinking to decide to meet but we both knew it could go bad when we met.

GunayH, That's probably too general of a statement. Actually, many men that look to the East have many misconceptions. It sounds as if the man you speak to doesn't and that is a very good sign. There are a lot of men who come to the boards with the idea that it's a quick and easy purchase for a bride and wish to know if it is appropriate to take an engagement ring to a first meeting.

Some have done so and still married today, others crashed and burned rather quickly. Seriously, there are literally all kinds and it's unfortunate that many are just fantasy seekers. Skype is a wonderful, useful tool to use early in these relationships. Letters/emails helpful, steady communication in any form helpful but, nothing to build a relationship on. That comes through meetings and quality time 

[GunayH]

I think I did not say it right.

He told me to listen to advice here from certain people and read questions. On my list you are there. He wanted me to see these misconceptions and what some of the people say to do. Maybe most is wrong thing to say and should say some of regular peopl here?

I asked him on other people and he wanted me to say what I think about their advice. Some will be good, some bad and some just funny and strange.

I told him things from here already about the young girl and this and we talk about them. I am learning what men think about Russian women and some about Russian women too.

We have our relationship started and see what will happen next. I will go meet him in Poland at Christmas for one or two weeks. Then we will meet in March somewhere like Vienna or maybe Paris but maybe here again.

[GoodOlBoy]

Skype is a wonderful, useful tool to use early in these relationships. Letters/emails helpful, steady communication in any form helpful but, nothing to build a relationship on. That comes through meetings and quality time 

I agree.

Face time is the only real way to find out compatibility.
 

He told me to listen to advice here from certain people and read questions. On my list you are there.

Your beloved made out a "list" of people for you to listen to on RWD?
 
Controlling behavior maybe?

This may not be a good sign.

GOB
 
 
 

[Shadow]

GunayH, while both of you should not hurry things, at the same time you should consider what the target of the relationship is.
If both of you are content with spending some time together every three or four months no problem. But if you are in a relationship with the target to live your life together, at some point you have to set that as goal.
As it will probably be you who leaves the familiar environment, you have to assess what changes this would bring, and what you would need to be ready for it.
Similar he would have to do the same in preparing to have someone sharing his life.
Set your targets, and prepare for them together.

[GunayH]

I must not write correct for other people.

He wrote list of people HE thinks are correct and wants me to look at them but we talk about all the things here that I like to ask about. The people he trusts are ones he says he usually agree with and most wants to know what you say on thing. I ask him about others on the list and he added one. For me this is good exercise for English and also learning.

Tonight we will talk about the WMVM dilemma..

This was only his thinking on how to find things for talking that help, He also wants me to read more which is good for my English. I need more to get better in my job. His visit was good already for that too. My English is better after two weeks of always talking it. I need to start lessons again but no time with work to do.

[GunayH]

We have very general plan for next 8 months.

Then we will decide where we will live. I want Poland but maybe Bulgaria for my work. If I go to Poland I will be a citizen in time and he liked the idea of me being a EU citizen on myself. Said it will make travel even more easy.

It is my plan but he liked it a lot.

[GoodOlBoy]

He wrote list of people HE thinks are correct and wants me to look at them but we talk about all the things here that I like to ask about.

Thank you for the clarification GunayH! 
 
Glad you are here.

The more RW on RWD, the better.

GOB