What I tell people who ask why a FSUW?

[AC]

Exactly. 


There are over 100 million AW.  They can't be pigeon holed.  Men who need to demonize the women of their country are sad cases.


As for the original question, why do you need to tell anyone anything?

Well that settles it.  There are over 100 million AW and they're all special little angels.  No need for a forum about "Russian Women Discussion".  And since the original question is bad as well, no need for a thread about what to tell people who ask. 

[Boethius]

Well that settles it.  There are over 100 million AW and they're all special little angels.  No need for a forum about "Russian Women Discussion".  And since the original question is bad as well, no need for a thread about what to tell people who ask. 

I never stated that 100 million AW are angels.

I also never stated the original question was bad.

[BillyB]

As for the original question, why do you need to tell anyone anything?

When saying nothing, people assume you have an answer and the answer isn't good enough to talk about. If I were with my wife and someone asked me that question and I didn't answer, my wife will probably look at me and say "You can't think of one good reason?"


I can think of plenty of good reasons on "Why an FSUW?" Some people choose non serious answers and apply humor in their responses.

[LiveFromUkraine]

To me, this type of question seems to be more about worrying how others will perceive your relationship.


 If that is the case, you will have to realize no matter what you say, some people will think the worst.  Put those thoughts out of your head and just be happy in your relationship knowing you don't need to appease anyone besides you and your partner.


If this is being asked prior to making your trips, why not just be honest.  After all, there shouldn't be any reason to lie unless you truly believe you are doing something unacceptable. 




Never forget, you don't owe anyone an explanation.

[BillyB]

To me, this type of question seems to be more about worrying how others will perceive your relationship. 


If that is the case, you will have to realize no matter what you say, some people will think the worst.  Put those thoughts out of your head and just be happy in your relationship knowing you don't need to appease anyone besides you and your partner.

Some of the concerned people are family and friends and they deserve an answer. My mom was always suspicious of the women over there and concerned I'll get used as a green card mule. I told her she's an immigrant herself and people naturally assumed her motives for marrying my American father was insincere. I told my mom not to worry about me, I can take care of myself and when I bring a lady over here, she can judge the lady's character for herself without any input from me. Today my mom thinks I made an excellent choice. It's been over 3 years married so wife is free to go anytime she wants so that should put to rest concerns that my wife values a green card more than I.

[AC]

There are over 100 million AW.  They can't be pigeon holed.  Men who need to demonize the women of their country are sad cases.

First of all we're not talking about 100 million AW, we're talking about the available single AW who AM come into contact with, and yes, certain characteristics can be pigeon holed about most of those.

As to your allegation about demonizing, Western "feminists" have been demonizing men for the past five decades.  Too bad if there's a backlash, which is why forums like this exist.

Those who live in glass houses should not throw stones comes to mind.

[AC]

 If that is the case, you will have to realize no matter what you say, some people will think the worst.  Put those thoughts out of your head and just be happy in your relationship knowing you don't need to appease anyone besides you and your partner.

In general I agree with this post, which is why some of the answers have been humorous in nature (I put her in a package and mailed it, thank God it was perforated).

[Boethius]

First of all we're not talking about 100 million AW, we're talking about the availa single AW who AM come into contact with, and yes, certain characteristics can be pigeon holed about most of those. As to your allegation about demonizing, Western "feminists" have been demonizing men for the past five decades.  Too bad if there's a backlash, which is why forums like this exist.Those who live in glass houses should not throw stones comes to mind.

If the women these men come into contact with are so bad, the man should be looking at what in him attracts such women. 


If Western feminists were posting the same cr@p that some men here post about WW, I would call them out on it as well. 

[AC]

When saying nothing, people assume you have an answer and the answer isn't good enough to talk about. If I were with my wife and someone asked me that question and I didn't answer, my wife will probably look at me and say "You can't think of one good reason?"


I can think of plenty of good reasons on "Why an FSUW?" Some people choose non serious answers and apply humor in their responses.

A guys FSU wife or GF knows that there are plenty of reasons which make her unique, and she probably wants to hear them from her BF or husband.  Some close family members of the man may need to hear some possible reasons as well.

[AC]

If the women these men come into contact with are so bad, the man should be looking at what in him attracts such women. 

We're not talking about men who attract bad apples.  We're talking about why men go elsewhere to look for superior apples, and clearly this upsets some who prefer to claim the bad apples are not so bad.

[Boethius]

Most AW are not bad.  Most FSUW are not "superior" to WW, just as WM are not "superior" to FSUM. 


If AW are "bad", then AM must be as well.  After all, they are raised in the same culture, with the same cultural influences.

[Boethius]

BTW, there are many men on this forum who married FSUW who don't have a compelling need to denigrate AW.  They just happened to expand their search parameters for a mate.

[Muzh]

To me, this type of question seems to be more about worrying how others will perceive your relationship.


 If that is the case, you will have to realize no matter what you say, some people will think the worst.  Put those thoughts out of your head and just be happy in your relationship knowing you don't need to appease anyone besides you and your partner.


If this is being asked prior to making your trips, why not just be honest.  After all, there shouldn't be any reason to lie unless you truly believe you are doing something unacceptable. 




Never forget, you don't owe anyone an explanation.

Funny, in my 15 years married to my wife, NO ONE has ever asked me that question.


In addition, for the exception of one woman who saw a sensationalized "news report" on TV, all my female friends and acquaintances thought it was the most romantic thing they ever hoid.


And the guys, well, guys are dogs. 

[Muzh]

If the women these men come into contact with are so bad, the man should be looking at what in him attracts such women. 


If Western feminists were posting the same cr@p that some men here post about WW, I would call them out on it as well. 

You took the words right out of my mouth.


Who knows where he goes looking for a potential spouse.

[Muzh]

A guys FSU wife or GF knows that there are plenty of reasons which make her unique, and she probably wants to hear them from her BF or husband.  Some close family members of the man may need to hear some possible reasons as well.

There, FTFY.


If, and only IF some of these guys would approach the WW the same way, maybe, just maybe...

[GregfromGa]

When someone asks me why I married a Ukrainian girl I reply "well you didn't see her in that dress and of course I like trying to ride a wild horse into a burning stable.

[Boethius]

Funny, in my 15 years married to my wife, NO ONE has ever asked me that question.


In addition, for the exception of one woman who saw a sensationalized "news report" on TV, all my female friends and acquaintances thought it was the most romantic thing they ever hoid.

Yes, but you like women. 

[LiveFromUkraine]

Funny, in my 15 years married to my wife, NO ONE has ever asked me that question.


In addition, for the exception of one woman who saw a sensationalized "news report" on TV, all my female friends and acquaintances thought it was the most romantic thing the ever hoid.

I was never asked why FSU either.  I was asked how we met but that is a question that is asked by people whenever I was in a relationship. 


I did hear of some people, in my social circle,  making green card comments.  I just didn't pay them attention since most if not all never even met my ex nor did most know our background. 

And the guys, well, guys are dogs.

hah  Yeah, I can say that plenty of guy's ears perked up when I mentioned I lived in Ukraine.

[msmobyone]

''What I tell people who ask why a FSUW?''

Most men don't ask when they see and many women understand - if they give her a chance.