Trouble in Paradise?

[Ade]

First off.. get off my back.

Second off.. how is what I did any worse than guys going over and seeing several women?

I went there, visited her for a week. Left for Portugal unsure if I would come back. realized how much I liked her, came back.

Came back.. we had a small tiff because we both realized we had feelings and everything was smooth the next day.

Now she wants to get married and I think it's too soon but still think she is marriage worthy.

Lay off the guilt thing.

She is still talking to me. I'm still talking to her and I'm going back in 3 weeks.
End of story.

Firstly, I've never "gone over and seen several women".

Secondly, it's irrelevant what we think about you seeing the other woman, but you trying to rationalize your jealous outburst and then equating her talking to a friend with your Portugal date strikes me as, well, immature at best. Sounds to me like you have insecurity and trust issues that you need to get in hand before it damages your relationship.

And, FWIW, if you don't want anyone on your back you'd probably be safer not posting.

[BC]

And, FWIW, if you don't want anyone on your back you'd probably be safer not posting.

Oh I think he has a couple of thoughts to ponder.. and that's about all we can do.. better he gets a bit tiffed at us than her.. or best not at all.

[SANDRO43]

Secondly, it's irrelevant what we think about you seeing the other woman, but you trying to rationalize your jealous outburst and then equating her talking to a friend with your Portugal date strikes me as, well, immature at best. Sounds to me like you have insecurity and trust issues that you need to get in hand before it damages your relationship.

Quite.

And, FWIW, if you don't want anyone on your back you'd probably be safer not posting.

James, what sort of response were you seeking by opening this thread? A black-and-white one like "Yes, she's a foul bitch" or "No, nothing to worry about"? If you think it could have been that simple, maybe a Relationships 101 refresher is in order .

[JR]

I feel a double standard is being applied.
She can have men on Skype but I can't go to Portugal with a woman?
If I'm to trust her chatting to men on Skype why is she exempt from trusting me with a woman in Portugal?

James, U have lost it....get a grip here. These two instances are not even remotely related in scope and nature. If you're pissy about a Skype conversation between her and an old friend while you're off with another woman...I'm just gonna shake my head and say that you need to work on yourself.

[Boethius]

You are all assuming she is telling the truth about the man in Australia.  I didn't know the truth and suspected the worst.. as anyone would.

No, I disagree.  Most people would not believe the worst. 

If she is not telling the truth, as many on here would have me believe by reading the posts about FSU women having russian boyfriends while talking to foreigners, then I see the sins as being equal.

If she had a boyfriend, you would never know about it.  If she had even an inkling of a romantic interest in the guy in Australia, she would never have told you about him. 


If you don’t trust this woman now, what will happen if you marry?   

[ML]

If she had even an inkling of a romantic interest in the guy in Australia, she would never have told you about him. 

This is a good key point.
I know of instances (concerning both men and women) where much was told about other men and women previously or currently being dated.  But left out was the ones who they were still seriously interested in.