Value of internet debate

[Shadow]

I came acros this on a site I follow and it struck me as relevant here as well.

I edited out the original community.

The point of debates within this community-thingy is to realize different points of view, better understand one another, and obtain a much-larger grasp of this.

Debates and conversations within this society are never meant to have an inherent winner or loser. Awards and titles are not given out to those who win 'x' amount of debates or conversations on as many message boards as one can find or through the comfortable confines of one's own blog.

Such competitions are not just immature or unsocial but they also hurt in the building of the community as a whole. Instead of listening to one another, we yell over one another. Instead of understanding one another, we ignore one another.

Looking at some recent topic, in too many cases people are desparate to win.

[Lazarus]

Home for the Holidays (1995)~ "Opinions are like a$$holes. Everybody's got one and everyone thinks everyone else's stinks." 


Laz

[veritas]

Looking at some recent topic, in too many cases people are desparate to win

Which ones in particular, Shadow?  Can you give some examples here on RWD?

Kevin

[Lazarus]

He might be referring to the escapades of Enot, Enot2, GTM, (a.k.a. Sybil ).

http://www.russianwomendiscussion.com/index.php?topic=12314.msg242703#msg242703

Laz

[SMS60]

Value of internet debate?

Strictly for entertainment

[Markus]

Shadow,

I remember your thoughts with Amerikiski. And I sent you a PM with high marks on your debate. But, today, he is gone. At the time, your goal may have been to win. I was involved in a
debate with him also and EDM cut us off. My goal also may have been to win but more to provide the readers with an opposing view. I realize you are only quoting what you read and have
posted that comment for discussion. So, my comments are not directed to you personally.

Historically, I provided an opposing view that I felt was correct to a big debate about me proposing during the first week I met my lady in person and to a lady that spoke almost no English.
I debated over and over back in 2004, even before I visited the 2nd time. Then I visited the 3rd time and got married to the lady I debated about. My views have not changed. What has changed are
the opinions of those who debated me.

Today, there is no debate. Some folks will say I got lucky or waited long enough after the proposal to "make it ok." The same facts exist today. What I debated about then still exists today.
But, there is no debate anymore. You will not read any of my debator's saying, "You know what, you were right and I was wrong." But, I have been married over 6 years to the lady that I
debated about, about the process I took to marry her. 

So, when one debates, be careful as he/she may be correct. In my debate, if someone still thinks I'm wrong, that person is in denial and can't admit the truth. So, debate is good. I never
once backed off from my intentions. A man or woman who debates here should be confident in their situation. Confidence never equals truth, but, in my case, truth prevailed.

Debate weeds out those who should not be going this route. If a man cannot debate here, he may have bigger problems later.

By the way, I won the debate.

Mark

[kievstar]

Mark, what debate did you win?  Why did you not propose 1st meeting and get married 1st meeting - nothing wrong with that.  I know several men who did that and are still married.