Pursuing FSUW 101 in 1996

[missAmeno]

I am not certain women in today's Russia would be willing to be interviewed.

I can think only of one real reason one would accept of being interviewed for position of SO. That is low self esteem. Even desperation to leave the country would be not be sufficient explanation for agreeing to be interviewed as someone with healthy self esteem would seek other means of achieving desired.

[Gator]

But, interestingly, all of them did the same type of swim which was a dog paddle combined with good, strong scissor action of the legs.  Faces never went into  the water.

Most indeed swim this way.  One RW with a SOH explained that everyone swims this way in Russia because the water is polluted.    Nevertheless, some are good swimmers. 

[Gator]

I can think only of one real reason one would accept of being interviewed for position of SO. That is low self esteem. Even desperation to leave the country would be not sufficient explanation for agreeing to be interviewed because someone with healthy self esteem would seek other means of achieving desired.

I agree.  A man should consider how he would feel if the woman interviewed him.  I imagine there is little laughter.
 
The correspondence phase is ideal for asking questions about goals, values. etc.?  Even then it should be done in small doses each email.   Upon meeting one should just enjoy the company and have fun. 

[CanadaMan]

I can think only of one real reason one would accept of being interviewed for position of SO. That is low self esteem. Even desperation to leave the country would be not sufficient explanation for agreeing to be interviewed because someone with healthy self esteem would seek other means of achieving desired.

We'll have to wait to hear from the OP himself but it is my impression that he is free-wheeling a lot of his story and not using the most appropriate language to describe what he means.

I took his "interviews" to mean screening his dates internally.

I highly doubt that he told any of them, "At 14:00 we will meet at 'x' and I will begin my formal interview of you to determine whether or not I wish to pursue you as as a potential wife."

Perhaps I'm wrong. We'll have to wait and see.

[skidoddle]

Hello All

It depends on HOW you approach a RUSSIAN WOMEN. Before I went over there......I talked to a friend that owns a software company here in my small HIGH TECH town (in 1995)................one of the many backdoors to silicon valley, and I was able to talk to his Russian Software Engineers who also brought their families over with them to work here. (He hired Software Engineers from India, Ukraine and Russia)

Well after some very interesting discussions with them AND THEIR WIFEs I devised my plan based on their experiences of RUSSIA and what they thought would work ESPECIALLY THEIR WIFEs. I was not arrogant ENUF to think I knew the culture and mindset far from it.

YA GOTTA DO YA RESEARCH and I did. At the time in 1995 it was a WILD WEST of resource TAKEOVERs in all of the WORLD going on in Russian and it was just starting in Russia from 1995-1999. And I saw this first hand when there.

And YES alot or Russians could easily see what was going on. A COMPLETE POWER TRANSITION in Russia
and many people wanted out. So with all that going on I was meeting RWs one after another after another......................and I was very careful and respectful on the first meeting>>>

A very relaxed first meeting with a Russian Women at a very nice tea house or LUNCH Restaurant is very proper (or at least this is what was suggested - a neutral place and NICE). I did not call this AN INTERVIEW to the RW,s heaven forbid!!  But I (My two translators) did carefully ask my questions to them and we also patiently waited for the RWs to ask their questions. In no way was this viewed as
A INTERVIEW!!! (But it was in reality for ME) 

It was a FIRST INFORMAL MEETING and it was very INTERESTING. The RWs were always
dressed in their very best and looked PERFECT when they showed up. AND yes RWs are respectfully 10
to 20 mins late for meetings and dates. If they are later than 30 mins it is a bit of a problem but still acceptable and if late more than 40 mins well one excuse is fine. However today with cell phones a quick
call saying I am late is fine also. Now things are less formal ............. but maybe not.

I have been thru all of this.............................................I lived there for 5 months in 2 trips. And have been back 5-6 times for family ect ect. All my family speaks Russian

Oh and on SHOULD YOU LEARN RUSSIAN as I have seen on this site asked by everyone including NEWBIEs

I mean really folks you marry a Russian with all of her family coming over and your going there in all honesty do you think you will NOT LEARN RUSSIAN!!!!!

Just learn language and stop being so AMERICAN OR WESTERN!!!!!! Geeeez like it will take maybe
10 hours to pick 100 words up. If you cannot learn that well do not go over there!!!!

And let me give you an BIG HINT I pretend to know alot less RUSSIAN than I really DO!!! Comes in handy when the wife and mother are chatting about ME!!!!   

Remember at the time this was very usual and a FIRST for most of these RWs.

It is still my opinion that this is a NUMBERS EVENT (I hate to use the work game) because you have
to KNOW WHAT YOU ARE LOOKING FOR and have A SOLID PLAN ......... then work that PLAN

I am new here and the advances in technology have created OPPORTUNITY but also it has INCREASED
THE POSSIBILITY OF SCAMs.

Way back in 1995 I met very very few RWs that were scammers.............. I met some headstrong and selfish women as one will anywhere but very few criminals as it may be.

Now I think the main problem is meeting a RW that is TRULY interested in a REAL RELATIONSHIP .........
most people here in the US (divorce rate is over 50% and it is higher in Russia) are very disillusioned
about MARRIAGE IN GENERAL especially women in Russia or Ukraine.

30% of all People have real problems> want to live with one of those?? NOPE 

Once a Russian WOMEN has had a bad experience or been burned (          ) in a MARRIAGE over there or burned by MEN look out!!  I would stay away from that in every way!!!! Just my 2 cents. 

HELL HAVE NO FURY LIKE THE ANGER OF A WOMEN!  Of something like that!! I would not want to be with a women that has anger on/in her mind from a very bad past experience.   

SKIDODDLE

[skidoddle]

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I am not certain women in today's Russia would be willing to be interviewed.

I think you better find everything there is to know about your prospective RW very quickly because
you have little time once over there to figure it out!!

SKIDODDLE

[GQBlues]

skidoodle-

Care to exemplify some of your interview questions? Maybe 4 or 5 samples would be illuminating...

How long did the process take you to finally hire marry someone?

[ML]

I wonder if we are getting a little hung-up on the word 'interview.'

In reality, ALL of  us, men and women, were interviewing the other party on first and several subsequent dates.

Don't feel so superior just because you are reluctant to acknowledge or use the word 'interview.'

Think of it something like how Americans use all the euphemisms:  bathroom, powder room, rest room, ladies room, etc., instead of the more direct word 'toilet' or even the totally honest 'place to take a _ _ _ _.

[GQBlues]

I don't think it's in that fashion at all, ML. After all, it is the OP who chose to use the word out of the many available words out there. He's pretty intelligent enough to discern this himself.

Maybe that was the reality back in the 90s, I don't know hence I was curious exactly what were his lines of questions were, and exactly how the women answered or submitted to them.

btw- part of my curiosity here was the fact when I did my WMVM, many if not most - including you, thought I wasn't being fortright because all of you guys tell me RWs do not like, much less participate in any type of VMs...which I think has always been sheer *ka-ka*.

[Muzh]

I wonder if we are getting a little hung-up on the word 'interview.'

In reality, ALL of  us, men and women, were interviewing the other party on first and several subsequent dates.

Don't feel so superior just because you are reluctant to acknowledge or use the word 'interview.'

Think of it something like how Americans use all the euphemisms:  bathroom, powder room, rest room, ladies room, etc., instead of the more direct word 'toilet' or even the totally honest 'place to take a _ _ _ _.

Heh
 
Let's go back to real life.
 
When you are interested in a babe and want to meet her you attempt to have a 'dialogue' in order to establish 'communications' with her.
 
When you are meeting an unknown and want to obtain information, you interview the person in order to obtain what you need.
 
Usually, the former tends to be a hit or miss depending on the attraction. You don't rely on attraction too much on the latter.