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Re: I'm new here
« Reply #300 on: September 30, 2009, 09:31:14 PM »
Yep - written with just the proper touch of sarcasm (and appropriate 'smiley') to make her point WITH CLASS and intelligence.



Very classy, intelligent

unless you are ready to step out of your miserable persona and be a real man.

the poor 39-year-old drama king with the mind of a teenager

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Re: I'm new here
« Reply #301 on: September 30, 2009, 09:31:41 PM »
How do you know it will be a train wreck?

Blues.. two weekends ago I had a visit from a guy I hadn't seen since high school.  I could say we were friends.. but we weren't really.. we hung out sometimes.  He was a really depressed guy.. smart enough.. but easily more depressed than Mark.  I hadn't heard from him literally since graduation until he added me on facebook.  

His story is basically that he graduated high school.. gained 175 pounds to end up over 300 and remained a virgin until he met his now wife.  She is an American woman.. she demanded he lose the weight.. he did it.. she demanded he get an education and a better job, he did it.. he was working as the audio visual tech at the jr. highschool we went to with no higher education at all.. and so on.. basically she demanded he get his act together and over a two year online courtship he did as she demanded.

They have been married 12 years now.  he isn't depressed, has a great hi tech job, has traveled with his wife all over the world and has become from a total train wreck a rather well adjusted and decent guy.  he tells me his wife was just as messed up as he was.  She made him her project and vice versa and the net result is one of the most solid and happy couples I have ever met.

If Mark and Alina are destined to be together why do you or anyone else have the right to bash them for not fitting into your small viewport on reality?  If you really wanted to help him instead of projecting YOUR narrow value system on HIM you would have taken a much different approach.  But, I think you just like trying to prove you are better than everyone else.. princess.  :)

Easy does it Eric. You are getting AWFULLY close to the line.

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Re: I'm new here
« Reply #302 on: September 30, 2009, 09:34:20 PM »
I delivered the message I wanted to deliver and I did it in the manner I thought appropriate - seeing that the guy behaved like a poser using his diagnosis to guilt-trip his opponents. 

Sorry, but it speaks just your ignorance of Bipolar Disorder.

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Re: I'm new here
« Reply #303 on: September 30, 2009, 09:38:34 PM »
Very classy, intelligent


Legal - as I wrote upthread, some folks may not appreciate the style, or what is written.

The fact that you and Olga have a polar opposite 'take' on the situation with djgothman than does BF, does NOT make her unintelligent or classless. In fact, I would (again) argue that she possesses insight and an ability that most of us lack - AND - she may well have demonstrated it in this very topic. She saw something in the OP's posts that said something to her. She has explained, to some extent, what that was. I happen to agree with her.

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Re: I'm new here
« Reply #304 on: September 30, 2009, 09:40:59 PM »
Sorry, but it speaks just your ignorance of Bipolar Disorder.

That is one possibility. The other is that BF does not tolerate the 'enabling' behaviors so common in modern American society. I find her position on this, and most other things, incredibly straight-forward honest and refreshing.

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Re: I'm new here
« Reply #305 on: September 30, 2009, 09:41:33 PM »

If Mark and Alina are destined to be together why do you or anyone else have the right to bash them for not fitting into your small viewport on reality?  If you really wanted to help him instead of projecting YOUR narrow value system on HIM you would have taken a much different approach.  But, I think you just like trying to prove you are better than everyone else.. princess.  :)

2012isFiction  You are spot on! IMO A educated classy women does not behave like this.


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Re: I'm new here
« Reply #306 on: September 30, 2009, 09:43:15 PM »
Blues Fairy, all your justification for your insults towards Mark is people for you on the forum are nothing


We are a bunch of impersonal folks who hang out on a forum and whom he will never meet face to face. 
 

And what you wrote about real life: "whereas in real life you have to, at least, nod and smile..."

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« Reply #307 on: September 30, 2009, 09:45:45 PM »
2012isFiction  You are spot on! IMO A educated classy women does not behave like this.



Legal - the same might be written of several participants in this topic. Said topic is now going nowhere, and certainly not benefitting the OP, as he has abandoned RWD for a cushier "Home" - right Legal  ;D

Topic locked.

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