Should men seek advice from RWD?

[RussianWind]

'Well thank you for your compliment!  I only chat with 12 inches or more. Do you have a webcam?'

Bravo BC

Will you be my adviser?  

[BC]

Bravo BC

Will you be my adviser?  

Bez problem RW.. Have a soon to be 16 year old daughter so get plenty of practice.

[Gator]

My today's arrival: "Hi sexy! You look hot, would you like to chat"?

Please compose collectively a polite answer, I will send it to him.

"Try again, but this time pretend you are intelligent, unless that is too much of a reach."

[Jooky]

You say waitresses smiled and said thank you in 2002?

No, I'm talking about right now, 2009. I definitely got a different impression my first trip here back in 2001.

Back in 2001 I met with a girl who cracked a smile maybe once in three weeks. Smile for photos? No way! It's not Russian! Only fools smile in photos! Move forward to a few weeks ago in a Moscow shopping mall. Customers are lining up for photos taken for some kind of promotion. Photo after photo and everyone is flashing smiles. I'm chided for not smiling enough!

Not that everyone is friendly. The girls at the corner store here don't smile much, but they do say 'thank you' or 'you're welcome'. The clerks at the local 7-11 back home don't smile much either.

But, times are changing, and spending time with young people here I don't see much of a difference comparing them with young people back home.

PS: The girl from 2001 sends me updates with photos now and then. She's learned to smile too.  

[Jooky]

"Hi sexy! You look hot, would you like to chat"?

It's funny, but if that's on a normal dating site, I bet it often gets a conversation started. I know that a lot of guys approach women with a lot worse than that!  :hairraising:

[Blues Fairy]

My today's arrival: "Hi sexy! You look hot, would you like to chat"?
Please compose collectively a polite answer, I will send it to him.

Do you like this dude's profile?

I remember sending a website-generated "icebreaker" saying something like "Hi, you're sexy!" to my now-husband more than 6 years ago.  His response was: "Thanks, you're very kind.  However, I think you out-rank me in terms of being sexy. The proverbial face that launched a thousand ships. Also, your writing is absolutely exquisite. Are you a poet/musician? In what field is your Master's degree?"

Needless to say, I was hooked.

But if you don't like his profile, then use BC's answer.

[GQBlues]

The girls at the corner store here don't smile much, but they do say 'thank you' or 'you're welcome'. The clerks at the local 7-11 back home don't smile much either.

LOL. Sorry, I can't resist but maybe things are different in cities high up on the altitudes but in my sea-level city of Los Angeles, the 7-11s are staffed with Indians or Middle-eastern men anyway so it won't make any difference if they were smiling my way. 

[Jooky]

Ha ha! True! But, I don't think you'd care if the girls at this corner store smile or not either. They're not exactly Anastasia Web front page girls. Some are hard at work to dispel the myth that young Russian women are all slim.  

Now the girls working at the Sushi place or Il Patio... that's another story, but they do smile.   

[OlgaH]

And she ate meat without a knife, letting the whole piece dangle from a fork while chewing from the bottom.      :hairraising:    And she was a physician.

Reminded me a case when we had a Moscow commission. Of course we organized a dinner for them. A 40 y.o. woman knew how to use a knife but during dinner she was also swinging her knife and folk in the air and time to time pointing at "listeners" while she was telling us a story about her parents, native Muscovites and what degree she had. The culmination was a tea time when she licked her tea spoon and dipped it into a sugar bowl.  

[GQBlues]

Some are hard at work to dispel the myth that young Russian women are all slim.

WHAT?!? You mean that isn't true? Oh my!  

[RussianWind]

Needless to say, I was hooked.

Such answer definitely needs attention 
A nice one.

[Vaughn]

The culmination was a tea time when she licked her tea spoon and dipped it into a sugar bowl.  

Pass the sugar, please - NOT !!

Smiling faces were rare in Yoshkar Ola, but table manners are better than the dangling-meat girl that
Gator described. In the summer of 2006, I volunteered to take out the garbage every day, which relieved
my MIL of the task. The dumpster is quite a walk into a field adjacent to the flat. As I passed by an older
woman making her way back, I smiled and offered a Здравствуйте. Stone faced, she ignored me. We
passed one another again and again as that week wore on - eventually she cracked a grin and returned
the greeting.

Needless to say, I was hooked.

That's a nice story, Blues.

[I/O]

Needless to say, I was hooked.

And.....................it still took you two 3 years to get together. Imagine if you'd dropped a clanger first up, you'd still be writing, not that it is any of my f*****g business. Sorry, but you really can't imagine how I laughed for hours when I read that one.

[Vaughn]

I/O, nice avatar.

[JR]

My today's arrival: "Hi sexy! You look hot, would you like to chat"?

Please compose collectively a polite answer, I will send it to him.

Response: "No, I'm too hot for you"

P.S. Are you hot?

[I/O]

I/O, nice avatar.

Yeah, 'n the bloke's OK too if ya look real close like.

[I/O]

P.S. Are you hot?

JR: She is.

[Blues Fairy]

And.....................it still took you two 3 years to get together. Imagine if you'd dropped a clanger first up, you'd still be writing, not that it is any of my f*****g business. Sorry, but you really can't imagine how I laughed for hours when I read that one.

We still wish sometimes we could go back to the writing.   Those 3 years were fun!

[Mars]

My today's arrival: "Hi sexy! You look hot, would you like to chat"?

Please compose collectively a polite answer, I will send it to him.

I have never sent such a first message.  However, I don't think it is the worst thing in the world that a woman could receive.

I suggest to you, like BF did, that you look beyond a simple message that may not appeal to you and think about whether you might have any slight interest in the man.

The whole point of this endeavor is to get started with people of the opposite sex (if that is your preference) and give it a chance to see where it might lead.

So I don't think it is wise to rule someone out based on a first message.  Rather, use your screening criteria of age, height, weight, education, etc., to rule potential mates in or out.

Also, read the message posted by GQ in another thread in this section:

"Speaking of marriage and romance, the couple I currently work for now just celebrated their 63rd anniversary and they feel as much in love as they did when they just first started dating.

The story goes that they met in a skating rink and he spotted her for the first time and skated alongside her and his first words to her were, "Hi, we dont know each other yet but I just want to tell you now that I know we'll be married soon." Her first words to him were, "You're crazy! Get away from me!"  "

[I/O]

We still wish sometimes we could go back to the writing.   Those 3 years were fun!

I'll bet good money those "sometimes" aren't when you're lookin' at Bub.

Having said that, we put in about a year of penning before we got to skin sensations plus much later nigh on a year apart before Mrs I/O (Still Miss at that time) arrived here permanently. I must admit, they were pretty special times in their own way. Not sure I'd really want to go back there but fond memories nevertheless.

Anyway, does any of that constitute "advice" men should or shouldn't be seeking at RWD?

[OlgaH]

I must admit, they were pretty special times in their own way. Not sure I'd really want to go back there but fond memories nevertheless.

I agree with you, I/O. Robert and I also would rather cherish our special time of writing as memories. We enjoy our present time 

[RussianWind]

P.S. Are you hot?

None of your F*** business! 

[I/O]

None of your F*** business! 

Too late, I blew your cover (metaphorically speaking) earlier.

[JR]

None of your F*** business! 

I'll it my business you little Russian Tart you!!!!!

[Bored1]

Bored1-

Don't mind me joining the thread since we're on a good subject of viewing things from a Russian woman's point of view...I would like to ask you these questions.

1. How do you view a man, or those who promote and advocate it, when they talk about bringing along names and phone numbers of other women, generally referred to as back-ups, in case things didn't work out on that man's trip to his woman whom he professed life and love with? Do you see the logic in this thereby making it understandable for you as a Russian woman? For the benefit of the men reading this, or is it disrespectful to women to do so?

I have never met such a mans and if I did our meetings would last less than 1 minute.   

I would say though this mans should like shopping for a new car.  He really want the red Porsche but will have the black one or the blue one if the red Porsche really doesn't feel right.  It seem that this man onlys wants a Porsche and which it is does not matter to him.  He has spent not enough time to learn why he like the red Porsche most and should not go shopping until he is absolutely certain he only want the red Porsche.  He should not have the attitude that any other Porsche will be good enough.

If I was the blue Porsche and new he wanted red but then the mans came to me I would not be for sale at any price as I think I will always be second choice.

If the mans does not know what Porsche he really want other than any Porsche he should not go shopping until he does.

I admit it is a long ways to come to find the Porsche you want is not going to be available to him but if the red Porsche is THE machine and the blue Porsche is only an intersting back up then why even look at something which is not what is really wanted.  You would not treat it the same way.

2. Being you've been to USA and have had a few experiences being around AM in real life, what if the roles were reversed and this site is actually for Russian women dating American men and questions & answers are being exchanged regarding relationships with American men and life in America. Would you be compelled to give your opinions, good or bad, based on your experiences? If so, to what extent? Would you advise these women, prior to their trip to USA to meet and visit their American inamorata, to bring along names and phone numbers in case they didn't like the man (vis-a-vis) after meeting them in person?

Lastly, in both scenarios, let's just hypothesize if you are the main woman (or the back-up), what is your view in this?

My experience with foreign mans has been in America and Moscow and not one experience has been the same.  How can I give advice on such things when my experience with each mans has been different other than to say follow your head and your heart as I do not know anything of your mans?

I have not and never would meet a mans from the internet Russian or foreign with the intention of physcial or emotional relationship.  I see no problem with writing to any mans on the internet if you wish to talk with him but I would not enter into any discussion with someone I have not met with the specific purpose of romance or marriage. 

The friendship which may grow from writing may lead to romance and marriage but I would not set out of such a quest with this primary intention on the internet with any mans.  This is just talking about me I must make clear.  My circumstance do not allow for such due to family business reason and the peoples we are connect with in Moscow.  When I marry I will be quite certain of the mans if he is Russian or foreigns because of this.

This does not mean that I do not date mans of course. 

When I was in LA I did not have one mans number other than family should I become lost.  There seem no point for a RW to need one mans number there so definitely no need for several back up number as the mans seem to be able to find me quite easy when I was there.