Does your radar sound the alert when a gal seeks men much older than herself?

[ECOCKS]

We talk about it as an indicator of the likelihood of failure but what do you REALLY think when you see a gal saying she will consider men up to as much as three times their own age?

[Assamena]

Does this question only for me, or I can answer also?

[ECOCKS]

Of course, in fact, in discussion it will be interesting to see some of the women's reactions (I think).

[JR]

Re: Does your radar sound the alert when a gal seeks men much older than herself?

Yes and it tells me "Go het her!!!!!!"

[Assamena]

I like older men.
Maybe somebody do not believe me.
Age difference like 10-20-30 years is ok for me. But more, it's already difficuly question, I have not been dating older then 52 years old man. So I can't know exactly.

But what about Hugh Hefner age 83? He is always with young women )
But, sure, it's not so right to compose stars and us, but celebrity also is a person, alive with bllod and heart.

What I can say, the best man in my life was age 48. And I do not see anything bad in big difference in age.

[possum]

We talk about it as an indicator of the likelihood of failure but what do you REALLY think when you see a gal saying she will consider men up to as much as three times their own age?

It's quite possible that some girls are genuinely attracted to older dudes.. I personally know a woman, now age 29, who in her late teens and early 20's would only date much older men, up to 15+ years her senior.. The reasons for this are varied and complex, and probably deserve a thread of its own..

[Shadow]

It all depends on the man.

If you look like a grandpa with less than 5 years to live, you wallet may be the most interesting part.
But if a guy looks healthy and active, women will not mind age difference.

[ECOCKS]

It's quite possible that some girls are genuinely attracted to older dudes.. I personally know a woman, now age 29, who in her late teens and early 20's would only date much older men, up to 15+ years her senior.. The reasons for this are varied and complex, and probably deserve a thread of its own..

Wouldn't that be this thread?

Also, not all people agree on the number which represents "much". For instance, you say 15+ but someone else already is saying up to 30. How much is "too" much and what sort of things leads some to say it's normal and others to say, "Yeeeeew, icky poo!"?

[Simoni]

We talk about it as an indicator of the likelihood of failure but what do you REALLY think when you see a gal saying she will consider men up to as much as three times their own age?

I don't like the poll questons.  The lead item is slanted:

"No, of course not, Russian women are looking for older, more mature men, it's perfectly natural for them"

It should have been a neutral statement, perhaps something like this

"No, the age difference in the couple is their business and not mine."

As I have stated before, I live in a condo in Florida where the typical couple includes a man 10-30 years older than his woman.  And these are mostly American marriages.  The most important variable is the love the couple holds, and shared values and interests.

[possum]

Wouldn't that be this thread?

Also, not all people agree on the number which represents "much". For instance, you say 15+ but someone else already is saying up to 30. How much is "too" much and what sort of things leads some to say it's normal and others to say, "Yeeeeew, icky poo!"?

As I understood it, the purpose of this thread is to establish whether or not a young girl can be attracted to a much older man and not be a scammer of some sort..

[myrddin]

My information fades from usefulness as things can change quickly, but I do recall searching through hundreds of profiles.  For me, a flag might go up with a large age difference in the "seeking" field (typically 20+ years), but for the red flag to take there would be something else, too. Usually it was a wide age range (50-85).  (I do recall seeing a profile or two of a 30 year old seeking a man 50-60 and getting the impression it was a true preference of an honest woman.)

Difficult to put my finger on some of those other factors, but after seeing hundreds of profiles there are things I picked up, maybe subconsciously. Sort of how many men learn to "smell" scam letters.

Of course, this is all just speculation on my part since I don't know the truth behind most of those profiles.    But as far "radar going on alert", for me it usually wasn't just that age gap.

[Faux Pas]

My personal experience is, anytime there is a generational difference of 10 years or more, there is usually other factors that create such relationships. Not to say people in these relationships do not fall in love. I know many instances where they did. I dated many younger AW with a greater age difference of 10 or more years. Some serious and some just for a good time. I found in every instance we had very little in common.

[wiz]

When I was on my searcing game my Top Limit for age difference was 20 years.

At my age at the time (I was 58 yrs old) I would have never considered a lady under 40 years old.

Whenever I received any messages from younger women, and I did reveived plenty, never bothered to check if they were from a real RW or scammers, I just did not replied.

On the other hand I have no objection when some women looking for a sugar Daddy or a visa and a meal ticket sponsor. It is up to the individuals and none of my business despite my views on this matter. 

[cranehand]

I would tend to agree with Shadow on this.  It all depends on the common interests and goals of a couple. 

[Misha]

We talk about it as an indicator of the likelihood of failure but what do you REALLY think when you see a gal saying she will consider men up to as much as three times their own age?

It depends where you were looking as well. I know that on the free Russian dating sites such as singles.ru most women tended to look for men within 5 years of their age, sometimes within 10, very, very rarely more than 15. From what I gathered, the criteria that women set when looking for a man on a Russian dating site will generally be closer to their ideal.

[Olgam]

We talk about it as an indicator of the likelihood of failure but what do you REALLY think when you see a gal saying she will consider men up to as much as three times their own age?

it is most likely the girl wants to move aborad   I know it's mean, but most of the time it is true

[Faux Pas]

it is most likely the girl wants to move aborad   I know it's mean, but most of the time it is true

It's not necessarily mean. Quite acceptable to many and nothing deceiving if both parties know and agree. I have come to find, there are many men not looking for love per se' but the comfort of a young woman and all it entails.

[ECOCKS]

My personal experience is, anytime there is a generational difference of 10 years or more, there is usually other factors that create such relationships. Not to say people in these relationships do not fall in love. I know many instances where they did. I dated many younger AW with a greater age difference of 10 or more years. Some serious and some just for a good time. I found in every instance we had very little in common.

That is what I found as well. While I didn't chose to date below the mid-30's line, I certinly came in contact with hundreds of the under 25 set along with several dozen in the 24 to 40 range through the university, 0business contacts and some social activity. While there were many great talks and some wondefully engaging young ladies, your observations seem pretty valid as to "enough" things in common to consider building a relatrionship.

[ECOCKS]

it is most likely the girl wants to move aborad   I know it's mean, but most of the time it is true

Honest opinion isn't really "mean" in this context Olga. It is a discussion regarding the realitiies of the situation we find ourselves in and extremely interesting to get the opinion of other women from the same background. Thank you for your opinion.

You're thinking that willingness to look at a "much" wider than normal age range indicates the girl has stronger motivations than simply building a loving relationship, something a few WM also suspect or believe.

[Olgam]

It's not necessarily mean. Quite acceptable to many and nothing deceiving if both parties know and agree. I have come to find, there are many men not looking for love per se' but the comfort of a young woman and all it entails.

in other words, both are taking advantage of each other

[Olgam]

Honest opinion isn't really "mean" in this context Olga. It is a discussion regarding the realitiies of the situation we find ourselves in and extremely interesting to get the opinion of other women from the same background. Thank you for your opinion.

You're thinking that willingness to look at a "much" wider than normal age range indicates the girl has stronger motivations than simply building a loving relationship, something a few WM also suspect or believe.

absolutely correct

[Rina_G]

Re: Does your radar sound the alert when a gal seeks men much older than herself?

Yes and it tells me "Go het her!!!!!!"

lol JR tell me please - are there such questions in the world on which you don't perly - Go het her?

[ECOCKS]

 

[Olgam]

lol JR tell me please - are there such questions in the world on which you don't perly - Go het her?

isn't it what all men would say to themselves? 

[KenC]

We talk about it as an indicator of the likelihood of failure but what do you REALLY think when you see a gal saying she will consider men up to as much as three times their own age?

I used to think "if she doesn't care, why should I?"  Well, the heartache of a dissolved marriage after 10 years is the reason.

In dabbling with some sites right now, I delete 70 to 80% of the responses because of age.  Even if some of the "too young" women are sincere, why take the chance that they may change their mind later?

I do feel that ones life stage has more to do with compatibility than chronological age.  Many fsuw marry early and have their children at an early age, therefore are further down their life's path earlier than say AW.  For example a fsuw in her early 40's very well could have an adult child living on their own.  Even with a 15ish year difference from me would not necessarily make her incompatible IMO.
KenC