Does your radar sound the alert when a gal seeks men much older than herself?

[Boethius]

isn't it what all men would say to themselves? 

Not all men.  Not even all men in this particular type of "quest".

[ECOCKS]

isn't it what all men would say to themselves? 

Maybe fair to say many, but not everyone is chasing after that sort of thing.

[Jumper]

To me , no  it  doesn't sound a  huge *red alert*

Because everyone's an individual and has different tastes and outlooks..

but anyones  radar would probably be set a little higher in overlooking her initial words and actions??
 human nature to have some concern ,i would think..




just like a  35 year woman would have some natural  concern, in reading a   50 yo mans profile that listed acceptable range as 18 to 35 ? 

She likely wouldnt rule him completely out,(if interested in him and his age )
and would correspdone with him.. ..
 but might be wondering why he'd seriously consider marrying someone so young and cause some concern...
that she would watch his words and actions for hints at the reasons... ??

 

[Doll]

I didn't vote for any option because I think the real reason is something else (for the age gap).

I don't like the poll questions.

Me neither.
Again- I don't consider the age gap, I mean searching for older men the red flag.
Needless to say  RW are NOT perfectly OK with the age gap.
I don't mean the ones who are searching- I mean the ones who did marry older men.

[OlgaH]

Doll 

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[Doll]

Doll 

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[wiz]

Can somebody translate the dialogue on the video please?

Thank you

[Doll]

Can somebody translate the dialogue on the video please?

Thank you

-Here is the husband (to-be) for you.
-He is ooooooooooollllllllldddddddd!
- Yes, but you're not going to cook him!

 

[OlgaH]

Doll and other important thing is a man singing:

and of course that thing I put my hat on is dear to me somehow

[Doll]

Doll and other important thing is a man singing:

and of course that thing I put my hat on is dear to me somehow

Yes, but the actual translation will take another 10 pages and will cause fights here Or not 
This "hat" won't be understood, I think. 

[OlgaH]

This "hat" won't be understood, I think.  

By someone who does not have that thing to put a hat on... do you think?  

[Doll]

By someone who has not that thing to put a hat on... do you think? 

You got it!

[Seeker]

Yes, but the actual translation will take another 10 pages and will cause fights here Or not 
This "hat" won't be understood, I think. 

I do not wish to intrude... But I do wish to understand the references. I promise not to fight and try to understand.

[Doll]

Rendering: "it is important who wears the hat" (What this hat is put on)
This is what the man is singing about. Then comes the dialogue between the two women (about the man's age).
Hahaaaaaaaaaaaaa- it is all about AM-RW marriages! Good job, Olga! 

[Doll]

By someone who does not have that thing to put a hat on... do you think?  

They all think they have that thing.
Don't beat me, guys! 

[OlgaH]

They all think they have that thing.
Don't beat me, guys! 

Doll,  actually they have two (in folksy expression) ... but some of them confuse sometimes one with other 

[ECOCKS]

I didn't vote for any option because I think the real reason is something else (for the age gap).Me neither.
Again- I don't consider the age gap, I mean searching for older men the red flag.
Needless to say  RW are NOT perfectly OK with the age gap.
I don't mean the ones who are searching- I mean the ones who did marry older men.

The question, as best I can tell doesn't promote a particular reason?

It involves what the immediate impression is when someone notices the age range for a woman. While it does offer one "reason" as one poll response it mostly attempts to identify at what point the question of sincerity and reality becomes questionable.

Even if you didn't vote, your answer and any thoughts you might have on certain ranges would be interesting I am sure. I know that I, for one, would appreciate them.

Usually you're pretty outspoken Doll, so what are you really trying to say?

[Doll]

Ok, you're right- any of these options would work.
I just am not sure what you, guys, imply by saying "red flag".
My version of most of RW's "I am ok with older men" comes from the situation on the marriage market- to get more chances to be picked. It is insecurity, it is desperation, it is whatever.  The "old men lovers" are not more than 5% or even less.
Again- it's not about GCG, it is about getting more chances to be noticed.
IMHO.

[Gator]

By someone who does not have that thing to put a hat on... do you think?  

There is much truth in the hat. 

When playing high school football "it" could suspend a heavy football helmet, now just a golf hat on the best of days. 

Things change.  Back then, I had a fraternity brother who could piss over a car.  I have never seen that done by anyone else. 

And for the women, there is always the pencil test for breasts.

Maybe I am missing the point.

[Turboguy]

The question was:
Does your radar sound the early warning alert when you see a profile saying the girl seeks men more than a reasonable number of years (indicate reasonble amount) older than herself?

My answer would be, yes, but not the kind you are talking about.  For me it was an alert that I could read the profile and see if she seemed to be of interest to me.  Yes, I also tried to understand her motives and agree with Ed's comment on this, but I also considered that there were other risks looking for a woman with a smaller age gap.  To me older women would have far more trouble adapting to a different culture, learning the language and making the transition.   On my final go round I targeted women 35-45 which would still have been a larger age gap than many of you would have been comfortable with and did correspond with ladies who were in their 50's.  I only wrote one woman under 30 and that was the one I married but the age had little to do with it.  You may not believe that and quite frankly she doesn't but it is true. 

I will agree with Doll that younger women who were accepting of a much older man were probably about 5 percent of the women.  I also agree that the wider the age range someone will accept increases the chances of finding a good mate.

Humm, don't think I could ever piss over a car.  Nowadays I am lucky if I can hit the closest tire. 

[sunandsail]

Humm, don't think I could ever piss over a car.  Nowadays I am lucky if I can hit the closest tire. 

Careful please.  I just washed my car.

[JR]

lol JR tell me please - are there such questions in the world on which you don't perly - Go het her?

Hmmmm, er....well.....NO!

[MattyB4]

The OP is a valid question, but i dont think there is a correct or definitive answer or explanation. if the lady is old enough to know what she wants, and is not pushing the line a bit too far, I.e a 19 year old looking for a 60+ to me would seem a little odd, although not necessarily fishy as such. Different cultures will tend to have quirky things that we consider strange. As far as i understand it, a lot of eastern european women prefer an older man because they are less inclined to wander off, treat them badly, or be immature. Which seems like a valid enough reason to me, i guess im just lucky enough that at the moment i am not so young as to put them off, but not so old as to be unable to make the most of marrying/dating a beautiful woman

[ECOCKS]

Hi again Matty, good that you are exploring the threads and getting involved, it's a great way to drag yourself up the learning curve.

I keep considering this issue and believe me you will have plenty of chances to comment on it throughout your tenure on the forum board. Lately my opinion has melded over to where I would suggest there are two answers really, societal and personal.

Society and social tradition forms a "right" and "wrong" which serves as society's measuring yardstick.

Yet, there are always those who will march to the beat of a different drummer, which is fine yet rare.

The sad ones, usually men but also including some immature persons of both sexes, are those who fight to defy that societal judgment without realizing that the anger and defensiveness they react with to criticism reflects their attempt to somehow prove they are not normal and are, in fact, deeply affected by this societal yardstick.

Decide what is best for you, but be prepared for individuals and society to have a reaction and don't expect much sympathy if you attempt to defy accepted mores and fail.

Good Luck!

[possum]

As far as i understand it, a lot of eastern european women prefer an older man because they are less inclined to wander off, treat them badly, or be immature.

This belief is the main driving force behind the international dating industry; however, in my not-so-limited experience, most Russian women marry local men very close to their own age.. Out of about a dozen women I know who are in their mid 20's like myself, only one is married to a man about 10 years her senior, and the rest are either married to or dating guys 2-3 years older then themselves.. The idea that young Russian girls prefer men 15-20+ years their senior seems a little far-fetched to me.. I'm inclined to believe that it's a myth, propagated by international dating agencies to lure more men with money, and the fact that there seem to be so many age gap marriages in the industry is a mere indication that most foreign men looking for RW are older, and most women in the FSU with enough sense of adventure to get into this sort of thing are younger.. That's my take on it, feel free to crucify me..