RW and the dreaded P word...

[tfcrew]

Who are you looking to protect?  Yourself, or someone else, such as children from a prior marriage..

This is better accomplished [at least here in Texas] with a will.
Making another relative [brother..sister] executor.
It also is much cheaper.

 

[NJ]

I wouldn't feel bad if I was offered to sign a prenup. Of course the main thing is that it should protect woman's rights as well. IMHO there is nothing bad in having thoughts that something can not work out. I know that if I'll ever marry a foreigner I will do all I can to make sure that I'll survive whatever happens. But I believe that prenup is a protection from MISSTAKES (marriages that don't last long or when one of the spouses has unfair intentions). So I think prenup should be limited by time borders (10 or 15 years). If the couple divorces after this period of time, the assets should be splitted according to a law regulations of a country\state. 

[alex330]

But I believe that prenup is a protection from MISSTAKES (marriages that don't last long or when one of the spouses has unfair intentions). So I think prenup should be limited by time borders (10 or 15 years).

Great point. If a woman could put up with me for 10-15 years I would let her take everything in the prenup 

[boaterguy]

I have 1 for seeker's thoughts. We knew a RW who married an older guy. He was loaded...and wanted a prenup. He got what he wanted...it was a fair prenup. Well...the marriage only lasted 2 years. He agreed to pay her 50K if their marriage didn't work. Tried to balk on it at 1st...but ended up having to pay up. I didn't agree with their marriage in the 1st place. Obviously she married him for money. But...she gave up eveything to marry him. She had a good job,etc. Fair exchange.

Aloe..don't know about Dutch law...but in the US if you do not understand what you signed...the prenup is worthless.

I'm also a non believer in a prenup. I could never marry a woman I did not trust.

[SMS60]

Anything I would have in a prenup is buried on the south 40.

[CanadaMan]

It was probably saying you should vacuum twices a week  

That was the funniest post I have read here in a long time!
It made my day. 

[spectris]

If you have accumulated or inherited some degree of wealth and you are older than 35 and/or have children, you should always enter into a Pre-nupt before marrying anyone (AW, RW, whatever).  It's just stupid not to.  If your heart is so big that you CHOOSE to give your divorced bride 1/2 of your estate and future earnings - there is no law in the US to prevent it!  If however, you are like every man I've ever known whose marriage ended poorly - you will understand very well why there should be no question here.

A well drafted PA does not take advantage of either party.  In TX at least, a person is "technically" not entitled to anything their spouse owned prior to or on the date of their marriage.  Afterwards they split 50/50 the "gain" in all assets (newly acquired and what was prior to the marriage).  Same goes for debts unless specifically spelled out, but it gets very murky (potentially expensive in court) without documentation such as a PA.  US law (and particularly Texas Family Law) is very interpretive and is usually decided by the better (often more expensive) attorney.  Point is, the PA should protect both people - to be binding it must clearly state ALL the assets being protected (and if it's not listed, it's not protected) and should make provisions for the other partner (life insurance, settlements, alimony, etc.) going forward.  If done correctly it's actually much more disclosure and more protection than a marriage without one for both people. 

[ECOCKS]

Please let us know how it goes when you explain this to your FSUGF.