Pleasing your RW

[alex330]

and I don't mean in bed you dirty bastards....

What have you done or noticed for your RW that they really appreciated. Something an AM may not have appreciated. Even something small that made her smile or she said had never been done for her before.

[Aloe]

He went to the store and pharmacy all by himself, i was pleased that even in a strange country where he doesnt speak the language, he still acts like the strong man he should be 

[Shadow]

and I don't mean in bed you dirty bastards....

What have you done or noticed for your RW that they really appreciated. Something an AM may not have appreciated. Even something small that made her smile or she said had never been done for her before.

I have done some things that not many AM or other men would appreciate... but this is not the place to tell about that. 

[JR]

I have done some things that not many AM or other men would appreciate... but this is not the place to tell about that. 

So, you're a dirty bastard

[groovlstk]

What have you done or noticed for your RW that they really appreciated. Something an AM may not have appreciated. Even something small that made her smile or she said had never been done for her before.

I'm assuming you meant AW and not AM, but regardless of how many unique and wonderful ways you have to surprise or please your gf, the lynchpin is her attitude towards you. If she genuinely likes you she will be appreciative. If she is indifferent you'll have to keep raising the bar to impress her, and ultimately you will fail.

Seems kind of obvious but you'd be shocked to see how many guys crave that appreciation and turn to their wallets to compensate when they see themselves coming up short.

[XMan]

I'm assuming you meant AW and not AM, but regardless of how many unique and wonderful ways you have to surprise or please your gf, the lynchpin is her attitude towards you. If she genuinely likes you she will be appreciative. If she is indifferent you'll have to keep raising the bar to impress her, and ultimately you will fail.

Seems kind of obvious but you'd be shocked to see how many guys crave that appreciation and turn to their wallets to compensate when they see themselves coming up short.

So true.   

I see the lack of appreciation as an enormous red flag no matter what country the woman is from.  And I have found myself in the unwinnable, uphill battle to get that appreciation from an AW, though I used a variety of methods and not wallet-only. 

If one finds oneself knocking oneself out for a woman, and there is little reciprocation, as painful as it might be, reach for the eject button.

[Amerkanski]

and I don't mean in bed you dirty bastards....

What have you done or noticed for your RW that they really appreciated. Something an AM may not have appreciated. Even something small that made her smile or she said had never been done for her before.

I make breakfast every morning when she is sleeping. I am talking the full-spread too. Omelets, toast, tea, etc. I've made it a habit for years to shower, shave, and even iron my clothes daily. This goes a very long way with them and it's cheap.

[Ludmila]

Amerikanski,

you forgot brushing your teeth and wiping your nose, when it is running. Donno about LA or the mexican border where you were born, but in Russia it's a must, last time I checked.

[Ludmila]

And yes,
using toilet paper too. It's cheap and in style.

[Admin]

And yes,
using toilet paper too. It's cheap and in style.

Which 'model' - quilted or multi-ply?

- Dan

[Admin]

and I don't mean in bed you dirty bastards....

What have you done or noticed for your RW that they really appreciated. Something an AM may not have appreciated. Even something small that made her smile or she said had never been done for her before.

Olya did not bring any children into our marriage, hence, her priorities early on were different from a woman who has children of a former marriage.

I honestly cannot recall anything I did in the early days that might have elicited the response you describe - though we spent a LOT of time talking and the ease of laughter are something we both still recall fondly. Cannot quite ascribe it to any one stimulus, however.

Now that we have Katya, I can absolutely tell you that those days when I take total responsibility for care of our daughter and allow Olya the entire day to herself for . . . whatever -- those days are the ones she cherishes now.

Kids are a blessing - but LP used to describe them as "two-legged tumors" - and occasionally, I understand his sentiment. (would not trade my little 'tumor' for anything - but still . . .)

- Dan

[Ludmila]

 Dan, I have never compared the prices :-)

[Assamena]

I make breakfast every morning when she is sleeping. I am talking the full-spread too. Omelets, toast, tea, etc. I've made it a habit for years to shower, shave, and even iron my clothes daily. This goes a very long way with them and it's cheap.

It does not make you special, doing such things. But it does make you funny for me, that you so much proud of yourself

Appreciate your omelets toasts and tea? Every day? I can't eat everyday the same, I love myself too much.

[ECOCKS]

You know, most of the time I really want the women to participate more, sometimes though....

[DaveY]

and I don't mean in bed you dirty bastards....

What have you done or noticed for your RW that they really appreciated. Something an AM may not have appreciated. Even something small that made her smile or she said had never been done for her before.

The best I've done is not ask for a second date. You would be surprised how happy this makes them, knowing they should never see me again.

[Boethius]

Anyway, it called the "little things" that count and I am for certain you would not have a clue of what this means in a relationship.

Don't you shower, shave and press your clothes out of self respect?  This really isn't one of the "little things" in a relationship. 

[Doll]

Breakfast in the morning (and all the things Amer does) IS HUGE. I would appreciate it. Never happens here.
I don't understand RW's reaction in this thread.
Yeah, reading comprehension 

[Gator]

What have you done or noticed for your RW that they really appreciated. Something an AM may not have appreciated.

I offer the following examples.......hmmmmmm... :noidea:....my mind is drawing a blank...... :noidea:......I will  need to get back to you... :noidea:...surely there is something.

Seriously, what would you expect with the typical RW mentality about the traditional role of the man.  If you took a poll I bet 90% of the AM would say this list is much shorter than the contraposition list (something that an AW would appreciate yet not a RW). 

[Misha]

I don't understand RW's reaction in this thread.

I don't either  :noidea: I prepare my wife eggs every morning and she is always pleased.

[Gator]

Getting back with my sincere, positive opinion.

The RW appreciation is not manifested as demonstrative gratitude for individual acts.   It comes as something far more substantive - the deep appreciation for the relationship and all that it entails.

You will first sense it when a RW lowers her skeptical defenses and trusts you completely.  It is a rare moment.  Only happened to me once, maybe twice.  The fact that I say "maybe" suggests in my mind that the second never happened. The first was earth moving.

[Gator]

I don't either  :noidea: I prepare my wife eggs every morning and she is always pleased.

Do you guys really do this?

The operative phrase was "something that an AW may not have appreciated."  I am certain that an AW would appreciate breakfast. 

[ECOCKS]

Yeah, my wife's pretty happy that her kasha and tea are waiting when she gets out of the shower in the mornings.

Visiting bookstores together where she can read for hours on end and a car that is "hers" went over pretty well also.

Along the same line as the car, a desk, chair and bookshelves in "her place" seemed to be pretty well appreciated.

[Faux Pas]

Do you guys really do this?

The operative phrase was "something that an AW may not have appreciated."  I am certain that an AW would appreciate breakfast. 

My wife wouldn't hear of it. Cooking breakfast seems to bring her quite a bit of joy and I do not mind. I do some cooking but for the most part she takes a lot of pride in her kitchen and I take a lot of pride in letting her.

[ECOCKS]

Do you guys really do this?

The operative phrase was "something that an AW may not have appreciated."  I am certain that an AW would appreciate breakfast.  

Hmmmm, would my ex have appreciated breakfast every morning? As an exception perhaps, she definitely wasn't interested in appreciating it as a routine thing. Her preference would have been heading out for a restaurant or diner since breakfast at home was "boring" in her estimation.

The car is certainly appreciated a lot more along with the concept of "her space" and have been places she could stretch herself out a bit as she works to define her new lifestyle in the US.

[Amerkanski]

Don't you shower, shave and press your clothes out of self respect?  This really isn't one of the "little things" in a relationship.  

Think figuratively. Meaning once a certain part of the relationship developed, like why you are cooking her breakfast in the first place continue that and not act like the conquest is over.