RW subtlety and thought process

[alex330]

Hello ladies, I have been corresponding with a woman I am crazy about. We get along great. She never seems to ask me very many questions though which concerns me a bit. To me that would signify that she is not that into me. So I keep asking her questions about herself and her life, etc. and she is pretty good at answering most of them. I am curious about her and her life.

The other day I get a pleasant letter from her and she explains she has just told her family about me. I was pleasantly surprised and as I continued to read she explained that she never comments on my letters or asks me questions like she is "interviewing" me.  Instead she reads my letters very carefully and determines the type of person I am by my daily life and what the events in it. I felt a bad for a moment in case she felt I had been "interviewing" her as it was not my intention, just my style of getting acquainted. I smiled and realized she had been "interviewing" me in her own way all along. 
Smart woman.

Anyways, it is more of a compliment to RW if this is a trait. I find it very attractive. Does this seem a common way of thinking for RW. I can see how she would be able to get her point across without me realizing it till after the fact if we do end up together. I spoke to several members on chat and they seemed indicate they did not ask many questions either. Feedback is welcome on this subject 

[Aloe]

I always asked a million and one question, why not   I never wrote emails tho, always instant messaging, people dont go around writing super long IMs, so you have to ask if you wanna know something. Do you write super long emails describing what you do or did today and stuff? Then her excuse is passable, if you dont, then indeed weird she wouldnt ask about anything. She doesnt even ask any details about something that caught her attention in your last email ?

[Aloe]

I think you should start Im'ing, cuz emailing is even worse. At the very beginning i used emails too, only to find out on IM that i dont have anything to talk about to this guy, the conversation just doesnt go; I even met one of the guys with who we didnt really have a nice flowing conversation thru IM and it turned out to be exactly the same in real life, we had nothing to talk about whatsoever, just stared at each other.
 Also thru IM you can see lots of things, like if the person is funny, makes jokes, or does he/she just stare at screen and waits for you to entertain him/her. AND he/she doesnt have an hour to think how to phrase something, so in some cases somebody's true colors show up

[alex330]

Thanks for the input. We have IM'd at times. She does not have a computer and my Russian is non existent so a friend helps her translate which sometimes can get confusing or missunderstandings can ooccur. She asks questions, but not as many as I would expect normally. Neither of us write very long emails to be honest, but do talk frequently.

I agree with you on the IM's in regards to personality and the flow of the conversation. It tells you more about the person and can give you some insight. I have talked to ladies via IM where the conversation just dwindles off. You just know that is how it would be in person.

Thanks

[Mylifeisdrive]

The best way to know somebody for me is video talk...in 10 seconds you already feel can be perspective or not at all

[alex330]

The best way to know somebody for me is video talk...in 10 seconds you already feel can be perspective or not at all

I agree. Photos can be altered or convey the wrong image, and chats and letters missinterpreted.
It is much better to meet in person or via video as it allows a much better judge of character 

[Mylifeisdrive]

Yes, I agree...rigth now I even can not imagine to pan to meet somebody without a real video before...too much of stress for me

[JR]

Alex, you're "crazy" about a woman you have never met, never seen on video and communicate with thru/to a friend.....

Drive a little slower Alex. You don't know this person. You are crazy about what you want/hope her to be. Get to know her, who she is then perhaps you will be able to forge a lasting relationship with all the craziness that goes along with it. Right now all you are is crazy...

Besides, Marina is right here...are you blind? LOL?

[alex330]

Alex, you're "crazy" about a woman you have never met, never seen on video and communicate with thru/to a friend.....

Besides, Marina is right here...are you blind? LOL?

I use the word crazy very loosely. Like you said I have not met her so am taking it slooooow.
I communicate with the woman directly as well of course, but yes, definitely not an ideal scenario.

I am hardly blind and Marina is beautiful.
Like you JR I have a young daughter which I put before anything else in the world.  I personally think Marina could find a very nice guy if she loosened up her requirements a little 

[mies]

She never seems to ask me very many questions though which concerns me a bit.

i don't ask many questions. i rarely ask common questions - because i cannot remember what person replied - such as how many cousins they have. I may ask questions about some peculiar features the person has - if I notice something interesting for me. If I have not asked it - either i do not feel comfortable enough asking personal questions, or I have yet to find peculiar features in this person - that would make me willing to ask further questions. That doesn't mean I am not into this person - just means I don't know this person well enough and need to observe him/her more.

[Mylifeisdrive]

I personally think Marina could find a very nice guy if she loosened up her requirements a little 

Ha ha...Which one it can be? or two? or all?

[alex330]

If you mean which requirement I think Gator made a good point in the other thread. 

[Mylifeisdrive]

Hhmm...I never meant it so strictly btw...It seems it sounds for people like I am eating lil babies I thougth it could be more easy to start new family avoiding permanent relation with ex-wife...that was a point. I have heard some horror stories about. So maybe Gator was right

[alex330]

It seems it sounds for people like I am eating lil babies I thougth it could be more easy to start new family avoiding permanent relation with ex-wife...that was a point. I have heard some horror stories about.

I don't think anybody took it to mean you wanted to eat any kids LOL

It may just come across to some that you do not like children, or do not want children of your own in which case you may miss a man who wants more children.
Gator was right in that many American men may get married older and may already have children in this age bracket. A lot of them are great guys. In fact many guys without kids in this age range may not want children at all or are not seriously looking for something stable. I could be wrong though, what do I know? 

Good point on the ex in some cases I guess. Hopefully the man you are interested in has a good judge of character and does not date psychos. You never can tell though 

[Mylifeisdrive]

It may just come across to some that you do not like children, or do not want children of your own in which case you may miss a man who wants more children.
Gator was right in that many American men may get married older and may already have children in this age bracket. A lot of them are great guys. In fact many guys without kids in this age range may not want children at all or are not seriously looking for something stable. I could be wrong though, what do I know? 

I love children...couldn't imagine it could sound I am not who doesn't like children?

[ECOCKS]

I don't think anybody took it to mean you wanted to eat any kids LOL

It may just come across to some that you do not like children, or do not want children of your own in which case you may miss a man who wants more children.
Gator was right in that many American men may get married older and may already have children in this age bracket. A lot of them are great guys. In fact many guys without kids in this age range may not want children at all or are not seriously looking for something stable. I could be wrong though, what do I know? 

Good point on the ex in some cases I guess. Hopefully the man you are interested in has a good judge of character and does not date psychos. You never can tell though 

Course sometimes they get obsessed with the ex:

http://www.novinite.com/view_news.php?id=112863

Bulgarian Tycoon's Sister Murdered in Fit of Uncontrolled Anger
Crime | February 5, 2010, Friday

Russian woman Natalia Wilson who killed Bulgarian Slavka Naydenova in Dale City, Virginia, on Monday, committed the murder in a fit of uncontrolled anger.

47-year-old Natalia Wilson does not deny her guilt but claims that she was in an emotionally affected condition when she killed 41-year-old Naydenova, the sister of Bulgarian tycoon Iliya Pavlov who was shot dead in 2003, and her 8-year-old son.

This has been reported by Russian agency ITAR-TASS which cites unnamed sources close to the prosecutor’s office.

Natalia Wilson is the second wife of Lester Wilson, an American national whom Slavka Naydenova divorced. Court documents cited by Virginia news website Inside NoVa say that Natalia Wilson committed the murder out of jealously.

ITAR-TASS reports that the Russian authorities are cooperating with the American investigators by providing information on the suspected murderer.

Natalia Wilson, formerly named Natalia Leshtenko, was born in Stavropol, and before leaving for the US used to live in the Russian Black Sea city of Novorossiysk. Her daughter (born 1985) also lives with her in America.

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Oh yeah, the brother of the dead woman was a Bulgarian billionaire reputed to be one of the "mafia" leaders of of the country. he was killed, execution style in 2003. Sordid and the kind of stuff that perpetuates the stereotypes from Hollywood and the media on FSUw.