Woman: from friend to lover after some time?

[Shostakovich]

Really bad advice IMO.  What "many men and women" say such?  Men who want a sex slave and maid.  Men who want a woman to remain silent.  Women who are not as smart as they think they are.

Go girl!  Don't dumb down.

A smart man would  want to converse with his wife about interesting subjects.    A wise  man would  really appreciate having an intelligent partner to deliberate choices and strategies in life.  A pragmatic man would want a second breadwinner.

Ignore the other men.  Good riddance.

Late to the party as usual.  Shosty's comment should in no way be taken as advice to dumb down.  Shiver me timbers!  No, you do not want the man who wants a dumb woman.  Up the ante.  A smart man will see the bet and raise you - that may be your clue that you are onto something.  Just do not be surprised if it does not happen so often.

       

[Jandar777]

I will chime in my 0.02 worth as well.  I agree with what most of the guys who have posted here.  More than anything though it is not a simple answer all told.  The motivations are there as many have said but equally well many guys are (believe it or not!) able to look past their hormonal instincts and let reason have some say in their actions.  Granted it is a sliding scale.

How I would personally look at it would be is this a lifestyle change that she has honestly made with herself over time?  Or is this a case where she's had a surgery, taken pills, or in some way radically changed her weight/looks.  If I know because she is my friend that this is something she worked hard at (worked out, started eating healthy, and made honest lifestyle changes) then yea I would certainly consider changing our relationship to something more intimate.  If she is still eating the same, not working out, and just had surgery which change things....  I doubt I would want to have any serious long term thoughts about her. 

Michael