Definition of a good man and gentleman.

[DaveY]

thank you for nice words, Dave

Regarding the phrase "think of me as yourself, only with a vagina" - I am not quite sure whether it was only a catchy phrase used by female heroine to increase interest of the male character, or it was a phrase with a deeper meaning. I tend to think that this phrase is important in the context of this movie. There are quite many business men who are able to perfectly compartmentalize their life. They travel a lot on business, often - worldwide, they take good care financially of their family, and they are trying to be good fathers and husbands while at home - because family is very important to them. At the same time - they have lovers on a side, or one-night stands - wherever they travel. This behavior is much more typical for men than for women. But as feminism spreads, and more women have executive positions, higher income, greater responsibility, more travel, less time at home - do we assume that women should keep their traditional qualities, or they can adopt typical male behavior? I had highly negative emotions about Alex in the end of the movie, and more so - specifically because she is a woman, and a mother. But isn't this situation quite common among men - when a married guy has a lover, and when lover wants their relationship become exclusive - man tells her "family is really important to me - don't you dare to mess it up!"?
In most cases public tends to justify male behavior, saying that most importantly man is a good provider, and family is most important to him. People believe this is a female lover who is responsible for man going astray. The lover is guilty for seducing a man because men are weak, and the man doesn't really harm anybody as long as affairs stay secret and he respects his wife.  (or something like that - is commonly said in FSU). So what is so different when a woman acts same way?

My feelings towards Alex are actually rather ambivalent. I mean, she didn't manipulate or deceive him. He just made the wrong assumption about their relationship.

It's just that, the line in the movie made me think, that what attracted them both to each other was the fact that they were so much alike.

If you have the chance, go rent the movie "A Guide for the Married Man." It's a comedy made in 1967, starring Walter Matthau. The story is about men cheating on their wives. The situations are funny, if a bit over exaggerated.

[Shostakovich]

For me it is just a normal man, therefore I never make this kind of requirement to a man in my profile. Plenty of them around me at work.

Suggest asking a requestor what is 'good man and gentleman' for her.

And what colors will you be wearing in Canada?

[Lily]

Pardon?

[Avis]

loyal, honest, trustworthy, reliable, caring, kind hearted, wise, respectful, responsible, emotionally stable, confident and positive. 
as simple as it is 

[innakrug]

I would say it is qualities of a very good man I believe gentlemen - man who has a manners Open door for lady, do not dig your nose, do not talk when you eat,do not smack your mouth, be sure that lady always have full glass of water (fill it out or ask waiter to do it), do not burp or spoil air, help her with the chair when she is ready to sit down at the table and so on It might help if you can find some Russian movies about Russian officers from White Army (1918 Y)

[ECOCKS]

He came through the chat room too.

Lurked a bit, started talking then pretty quickly moved to this decision about "prostitution for papers" spiel.