Im talking to my Moscow girlfriends mom. (translate)

[iDjots]

I have i girlfriend i want to be with and marry.
Her mother is really sad because she is the only child in the family.
Yesterday my girlfriend was really sad and said that she cant move to me and she dont want to talk to me
anymore. She's been acting wierd latley and dont answer the phone or trying to avoid speaking with me.
She sees her mother once in a week.

Today i got this message.
Can anyone translate this?

XXX я хочу чтобы были вместе, ты очень хороший я постараюсъ сделатъ все! но ты пока не торопи олесю. я буду с ней разговариватъ много раз!

[Jumper]

It was sent to you?
from what i can tell , it seems convoluted/ confusing.




I would post it in the  "ask the RW" section for more chance at them seeing it ,
and for an accurate translation.

[Misha]

XXX я хочу чтобы были вместе, ты очень хороший я постараюсъ сделатъ все! но ты пока не торопи олесю. я буду с ней разговариватъ много раз!

Rough translation:

I want for us to be together. You are very good [i.e. you are a nice guy] and I will try to do everything [that is necessary]! But, in the meantime, don't rush Olesya. I will talk [to discuss] with her many times!

[iDjots]

Thank you. It seems that in Russia moms have the final word, and in Sweden dad has to approve the guy.
The sent message was from her mom.

Im thinking.
What can a guy do to prove he is faithfull and honest to girl in Russia.
What is the best way for her to know that im serious with her and to prove it to her mom.

[groovlstk]

Thank you. It seems that in Russia moms have the final word, and in Sweden dad has to approve the guy.
The sent message was from her mom.

Im thinking.
What can a guy do to prove he is faithfull and honest to girl in Russia.
What is the best way for her to know that im serious with her and to prove it to her mom.

Have you met this woman in person yet?

[iDjots]

Yes i did, in India on vaccation.
I meet her parents and she meet mine.
Since 1 year back we've been in a relationship.

[molly35ru]

I know the only way to prove it...talk to her about your feelings, your plans for the future, be sincere and honest. If she doesn't want to talk, write a letter.

As for the mom's role...I guess the girl is very young  , Her mom might be concerned about her education, your ability to provide a future family or smth like that.

My older daughter is 21 and i can't imagine the reason for acting like your girl's mom though i have 2 girls

[iDjots]

She is 25, and iam 25 aswell.
She is the only child of the family, i do understand her mom.
It is almost like loosing her.
Im going to meet her in Egypt with her family on vaccation in May and try to talk to her.

The problem from start is that when i meet her for the first time it was 1 year ago and i was still dating
other girls, and she thought we were in a relationship and i didnt understand that in the beginning.
So she feels that i cheated on her even though i didnt understand that we had a relationship.
Since i understood that she wanted a serious relationship i've been 110 % honest and faithfull to her.

[groovlstk]

IDjot,

Have you traveled to Moscow to meet this woman and her family? Joining them for vacations in foreign countries sounds fun, but why do you keep meeting outside of Russia? If you're serious about this young woman you will visit her on her home ground and learn what her day to day life is like, meet her friends, etc.

[iDjots]

Hi groovlstk, i've been to her home town and in moscow and meet her parents and her friends.
She has been in my home and meet my family.
We've meet in Italy, Egypt, India, Moscow, Stockholm.

[BillyB]

I have i girlfriend i want to be with and marry.
Her mother is really sad because she is the only child in the family.
Yesterday my girlfriend was really sad and said that she cant move to me and she dont want to talk to me
anymore. She's been acting wierd latley and dont answer the phone or trying to avoid speaking with me.

She doesn't want to speak to you, she thinks your're unfaithful, she doesn't want to be with you and her mom is influencing her not to be with you.

She is telling you "NO". Love does not conquer all so don't think showing up at her door is going to change her mind. If two people want to be together, they would. It ain't that hard. Go find someone who wants to be with you. If you already bought the tickets to Eygpt, then go but don't expect her to change her mind and it's up to you if you want to donate more months of your life exclusively to a woman who has probably moved on with her life from you and is probably already burning the phone lines with other men now.

[mies]

XXX я хочу чтобы были вместе, ты очень хороший я постараюсъ сделатъ все! но ты пока не торопи олесю. я буду с ней разговариватъ много раз!

"I want you two to be together, you are very good person, and I'll try to do everything i can! But please - don't be pushy with Olesya/don't rush Olesya for now, I'll have a talk with her, many times"

Mom says that she "approved" you, but now this is Olesya who is having second thought. Mom wants Olesya to marry you, so she will talk to her, but you need not to be pushy for now. Let her think it through and decide for herself, and mom will help her to make the right choice.

[Jumper]

i was wondering why it seemed third person.. and if the note was intended for him or *from his girl*..

To me it seemed she was saying she wanted to be with him,,but was speaking in third person..to not be too fast/quick, and  that she'd have to talk to "her" ...  dint make much sense.

the translations clear up things


If you havnt proven to her in a year ,you are the "one".
your choice ,
take the time it takes ,to actually win her heart,
,with the caveat that regardless  efforts she may or may not eventually feel the same.

we all take that chance ,to some degree..

but if you have to go thru the mother,, its not good.
i'd suggust  waiting until your girl wants to talk..
and talking to your girl, not her mom.


Having mom on your side is positive,

trying to have her mom talk to her ,for you ,is not.

[SMS60]

Idjots

I agree with BillyB. You are at the point where some men always make the big mistakes. Your in the frame of mind that you must win her or convince her that your the man. You are setting yourself up for failure.

If this woman was 100% sure you were what she wanted...............well most of the time you know it. There is not much they allow to get in their way if you are what they want. Mountains, seas, storms wont stop them.....That is if she sees you as a good catch.

You should not have to juggle balls to keep her interest. When you find yourself jumping thru hoops to win her over your done. When a woman does not show a high level of interest its your hint to move on to someone who does like to be in your company. Men always think they can change this interest with gifts, talk, and the kitchen sink. It don't work and if it does it is usually fake or temporary.

The woman might have some reflecting to do. She could be torn which way to go. You or her mom. If this is the case your presence or interaction wont help. It will make things worse. You could distance yourself from her. Go about your life and allow her to make a decision. I think this is about the only positive thing you can do if you want a chance it will work out. Kinda disappear for a while. Let her alone. She might come running back with a decision.

Good luck

[iDjots]

Thank you all for the help, i will wait for her and her answer.
I will travel to Egypt because she is worth it.
She waited for me almost 5 month without knowing if we were together.
I'll will go to her in Egypt and ask for her hand, otherwise im going to regret it for all my life.

Im going to let you guys know how it went.

[BillyB]

Thank you all for the help, i will wait for her and her answer.
I will travel to Egypt because she is worth it.
She waited for me almost 5 month without knowing if we were together.
I'll will go to her in Egypt and ask for her hand, otherwise im going to regret it for all my life.

Im going to let you guys know how it went.

Yeah! Let us know how it went. You started this story so now you have to finish it! Good luck and don't let love or lust blind you. If she still isn't reacting to you positively, then you are in her past and she's probably got her mind on another man. If it's true she's the kind of woman that's worth it, you could be sure many guys are competing for her attention everyday. If things aren't going smooth in Eygpt, DO NOT force yourself and ask for her hand. You want to marry a woman who want you or you will regret it.

[iDjots]

Thank you Billy.
Im aware of my competition and i don't worry much.
Im a really nice guy and got high self-confidence, there is alot of girls who are waiting for a guy like me to ask them out and if she's not seeing me as i am.
i'll accept her decision and move on with my life.

The thing is.
I never fought this much for a girl in my life. I've been traveling all around world to see her and so has she for me. I feel there is something more then just being in love with her. I had my experience but this is something diffrent.

I will be myself as usual and if it feels right im going to ask for her hand.
Let you guys know, its a promise.

[rambler]

Hi ...
Congratulations on your forthcoming engagement. I was surprised at how fast the wedding is expected to happen after a proposal.  Make sure you are ready to propose a date and a place and show that you know exactly what the formalities are.  2-3 months from engagement might be all you get so ... plan now!  We went to Czech to get married, the paperwork is quite easy and fast there, rings, hotels and restaurants are less expensive than Moscow or your country, fewer guests than if at home.... wherever you choose  be prepared to propose with a date ... it can slip a few weeks but name it.

R

[feya_meluzina]

Wow...didn't expect that my ex-boyfriend would bring everything up to a public place.
C. you are telling that you didn't cheat on me and that it was a test that you wanted to put me on.
Great!!! I'm not a mouse that you can make tests on. And actually it' snot the first time you are doing this.
So I'm fed up.
The thing is that my mum really likes you, but it's not my mum who are you going to build up the relations.
And probably she can give me the piece of advice but she can't influence already on 25 years old girl.
Looking through the chat I found a strange thing you say. First, you say that you are going to make a proposal and then you are saying that you'll see how it'll be and then decide.
The most weird thing is that you gave me this link so I could read it all.
That is a kinder-garden way of behavior. You wanted me to see how honest and cool you are?! I don't understand.
And asking your mum to write me from her phone all the time is also kind of childish.
So take care, I really loved you! But not anymore. Go ahead and put girls on tests.
I'm sorry but you are not the person who I see my future life with.
Good bye.

P.S. For all who wanted to know the end of this story.

[GregfromGa]

Wow...didn't expect that my ex-boyfriend would bring everything up to a public place.
C. you are telling that you didn't cheat on me and that it was a test that you wanted to put me on.
Great!!! I'm not a mouse that you can make tests on. And actually it' snot the first time you are doing this.
So I'm fed up.
The thing is that my mum really likes you, but it's not my mum who are you going to build up the relations.
And probably she can give me the piece of advice but she can't influence already on 25 years old girl.
Looking through the chat I found a strange thing you say. First, you say that you are going to make a proposal and then you are saying that you'll see how it'll be and then decide.
The most weird thing is that you gave me this link so I could read it all.
That is a kinder-garden way of behavior. You wanted me to see how honest and cool you are?! I don't understand.
And asking your mum to write me from her phone all the time is also kind of childish.
So take care, I really loved you! But not anymore. Go ahead and put girls on tests.
I'm sorry but you are not the person who I see my future life with.
Good bye.

P.S. For all who wanted to know the end of this story.

Well I guess that's that. Too bad for the ole boy. There is nothing weak or childish in the boy trying to prove to you that he really cared for you and wanted to marry you. He hoped your mother who is hopefully wiser would help him out, explain some things, give him her blessings. Hopefully the iDjots will rebound. I can promise him that if he's a nice guy there is no reason in having to jump through rings of fire to please some girl. If you're only 25 then you have lots of time. If you have the resources and the time to travel there will be lots and lots of more appreciative women out there. Dont get yourself all worked up and bent out of shape for 1 mama's girl in Moscow. When you find your sudba, you'll look back on this and thank your lucky stars. By the way, who was paying for all these great vacations? Just curious.

[Ade]

Well I guess that's that. Too bad for the ole boy. There is nothing weak or childish in the boy trying to prove to you that he really cared for you and wanted to marry you. He hoped your mother who is hopefully wiser would help him out, explain some things, give him her blessings. Hopefully the iDjots will rebound. I can promise him that if he's a nice guy there is no reason in having to jump through rings of fire to please some girl. If you're only 25 then you have lots of time. If you have the resources and the time to travel there will be lots and lots of more appreciative women out there. Dont get yourself all worked up and bent out of shape for 1 mama's girl in Moscow. When you find your sudba, you'll look back on this and thank your lucky stars. By the way, who was paying for all these great vacations? Just curious.

I see you are being objective then... 

FWIW, this is just another example that at least some women seriously do not like that men write about them on public forums even if it's anonymous. Expect the worst if your prospective other half ever comes across a trip report or innocent little post about you and her...

[Faux Pas]

I see you are being objective then... 

FWIW, this is just another example that at least some women seriously do not like that men write about them on public forums even if it's anonymous. Expect the worst if your prospective other half ever comes across a trip report or innocent little post about you and her...

Now who is not being objective?  SJ, If a post or a couple of posts on a forum by some man or woman seeking and hoping to find answers in a relationship that they are not understanding, ends the relationship, wouldn't it be reasonable to think that there wasn't much of  relationship to begin with?

[SMS60]

I see you are being objective then... 

FWIW, this is just another example that at least some women seriously do not like that men write about them on public forums even if it's anonymous. Expect the worst if your prospective other half ever comes across a trip report or innocent little post about you and her...

100% agree

I think there are some silly men involved in this form of dating. Im usually dismissed because I dont discuss my personal life in details when I give an opinion. Silly!!

I still dont understand why some men feel they need to discuss their relationships on the world wide web. They can give opinions based on experiences without going into details.

If I had a GF who discussed my personal life on a forum in a detailed enough way to know it was me. I would dump her butt.

[brave girl]

The most weird thing is that you gave me this link so I could read it all.

Agree strange behavior  brave girl

[brave girl]

Sorry!!
the mistake!!