hello everyone :)

[mialia]

Yuliya,

It is not that you do not exist it is only that some men only search for ladies in their 20's. Afterall this is the fantasy that a lot of agencies sell. Personally I wanted a lady closer to my own age and consider 30 too young, but that is just me.

As for your view on the wmvm trip reports, I understand your point of view. There is also the other side of the coin. There are trip reports on here from men that only wrote and went to visit one lady. Within minutes of meeting they knew that the spark was not there. Now you have a man that spent thousands of dollars to take a vacation and then he gets stuck in a place that may or may not have any activities that he enjoys doing on vacation where he is now alone.

I have done both the visit many and visit one trips. Personally after my visit many trip, I would never do it again. For me it was just too overwhelming, but I do not condemn those who enjoy that style of trip.

Just something for you to consider.

yes, i understand.... its tough for you guys... we, girls, are home at least... but how about honesty?  or if everybody knows the rules - nobody is lying?

[mialia]

Yuliya, I use to be a one woman at a time kind of guy all my life until last year. A woman may have to meet 20 men to find the right man. Some women find their man right away, other women may have to go through 40 guys to find him. If you spend 3 months writing to one man who may or may not show up, you may find your guy in 10 years or if luck is with you, tomorrow.

There are some women who would want a relationship with me and if I had no other choices, I would enter into a relationship with them and probably regret it. I'm looking for something more and willing to date multiple women to speed up the process in finding the right woman. You may screen and eliminate one guy after 3 months communication and a 5 minute meeting and I'm eliminating 20 women in the same time.

You don't have to feel you are on a list if a guy is dating you and another lady. You are not in a relationship with him on the first date and he doesn't not need to show commitment to you and you do not need to show commitment to him since it's your right to dump him within minutes if something isn't right.

hello again

yes, got your point, you don't want to be disappointed and don't want your time and money to be wasted.. i am with you on it.. but:

how possible  among 20 women at the same time to see how special each of them are? aren't you get overtired from spraying, spreading, giving your attention to so many people at the same time? What makes you sure you didn't miss anything?

[mialia]

"You don't have to feel you are on a list if a guy is dating you and another lady. You are not in a relationship with him on the first date and he doesn't not need to show commitment to you and you do not need to show commitment to him since it's your right to dump him within minutes if something isn't right."
Absolutely i agree 

i agree too

yes, that's my problem i take everything too personal, i shouldn't do it, i know now, in thanks to you guys you are taking it easier than i do

[SFandEE]

I have really enjoyed following this thread.  It is nice to hear the different perspectives.

I think I need to take it more easy, but I also am prepared to make a decision.  Not on time, but on compatibility and chemistry.

[BillyB]

how possible  among 20 women at the same time to see how special each of them are? aren't you get overtired from spraying, spreading, giving your attention to so many people at the same time? What makes you sure you didn't miss anything?

If a guy goes to the FSU and date women with a friends first approach, then he is doing nothing wrong. If he goes to the FSU and tell all women he wants a serious relationship with a RW, then he's wrong.

Everytime I went to the FSU, it was for one woman only. She has a choice to accept me and I will give her all my time. If I or her don't accept each other, then I will look elsewhere.

In America, I date multiple women at a time as friends first. I don't promise them anything in the form of a relationship unless I am ready that they are right for me and then we can build a relationship of trust and commitment to each other.

When men go to the FSU, it's not natural or a normal way to date people so it's hard to criticize a man OR woman for whatever methods they use to search for a long distance romance.

Many people are wasting their time asking Mars in his current trip report if he's found the one. Maybe he's finding which women he can be friends with first and he will later make a decision to visit the ONE on another trip. It's important to be friends first before marriage. Don't you think?

[kievstar]

A couple of agencies in Kiev told me about women who would not see a man if they had already planned a date with another woman before meeting them (these are blind meetings no letters).  Agencies said this so I would not tell the woman I had another date.  I made it easy and dropped the woman as I do not lie but I could see why she wanted this. 

I than changed my behavior to not plan meetings more than 1 day out with different women.  I would line up 3 or more in a day which tended to backfire as once I like someone not interested in the next. Which is how I believe it to be if your a serious man.  Than I felt like a player (guilty) and would not meet any of them again. 

Than realized best to plan 1 meeting at a time.  That way I could always tell the woman I am meeting you and no other woman.  There are so many women in Kiev and even with picky standards you can always get them to show up last minute so not hard to do the 1 after the other approach until you met 1 to stop and date. 

Now I lived in Ukraine or was working in Europe so going there every week if needed was not hard.  Men have it easy in finding women.  Just a lot more higher quality women than men in this process. Very easy process for men.  Very hard for women.  Women have to work a lot harder to make this work than men.

[SFandEE]

I am confident this would not be an issue for you, but this seems to be a thread appropriate for this opinion.

Pictures with a stuffed animal are not good for a dating introduction site.