is there life after thirty years? :)

[mialia]

                            hello everyone again
here i am, starting a new topic, because i got confused with you, guys
when i was reading the posts about the age difference, the majority raised  their hands for the little difference in years
and now i was told by one of you here, that as soon as i turn to my 30 - i will not exist for many of you.
so where is the Truth, guys?

is there life after thirty?    

[Jumper]

i'm 47 , it was all downhill after 30!!

 



ok seriously,,after 30,  nothing changed for me ..  i gained  a bit more life experience and hopefully learned from the mistakes, and grew as a person.

when i was 29, i felt like 30 was some number that meant old age..
as in: " oh!  you are in your thirties"

but it's just a meaningless number ,  you did not feel different when you turned 28 or 29 ..
no reason to when you turn 30

[mialia]

I'm 47 , it was all downhill after 30!!

 



OK seriously,,after 30,  nothing changed for me ..  i gained  a bit more life experience and hopefully learned from the mistakes, and grew as a person.

when i was 29, i felt like 30 was some number that meant old age..
as in: " oh!  you are in your thirties"

but it's just a meaningless number ,  you did not feel different when you turned 28 or 29 ..
no reason to when you turn 30

yes, personally me - i think the same.. i don't think I'll change much in a year or even 3.

but what about the woman in the eyes of man? is it true that most of you are looking for the girls before 30?

[Gator]

...and now i was told by one of you here, that as soon as i turn to my 30 - i will not exist for many of you.

Is that not what the majority of Russian men say?

American men are entirely different.  40 is still young unless one wishes to have children, and even then 40 is possible. 

[Chicagoguy]

I met my wife when she was 52 and we got married when she was 53.

Her first marriage 

[Blues Fairy]

I was almost 32 when I first met my now-husband face-to-face and 33 when we married.  He is 5 years my senior.

I knew some men for whom any woman older than 20 was "too old"; such men are not worth your time IMHO.

[mialia]

Is that not what the majority of Russian men say?

American men are entirely different.  40 is still young unless one wishes to have children, and even then 40 is possible. 

if  i would want to know what the majority of Russian men say - i wasn't here, asking what the majority of the foreign men is thinking  

thanks for the reply

[tim 360]

Don't worry Mialia, you'll be great at 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, etc and many foreign men will be interested in you.

[FredC]

I answered this in your other post and then saw that you started this one, so I'll answer it here too. I think that all Kievstar was trying to tell you is that some men limit their agency search to ladies in their 20's. After all that is the fantasy that the agencies are selling. Personally at 48, I think that even 30 is too young for me, I don't care what the agencies say. Luckily for me, my fiancee is closer to my age.

All that said, when I did get a letter from a younger lady, I would at least read what she had to say and look at her profile. I tried to at least keep an open mind. You never know, my dad was 24 years senior to my mom, so it can happen.

[Handycam72]

I'm 37 and think women in their 30's are fine, in fact women in their 40's too.

As long as we have the same outlook in life and desires, I see no problem

[irish]

Yes there is life after 30.

But I grasp the point that for wanting children 30 seems to be the cut off point for many.

I am 35 and the majority of ladies I have corresponded with over 30 do not want children.

Those under 30 do, so I now limit my search to 25-30 unless the profile says they want children.

Obviously I want kids, so limiting my search makes sense for me.

[Voyager36]

i'm 47 , it was all downhill after 30!!

 

Might as well just put us out of our misery... 

I knew some men for whom any woman older than 20 was "too old"; such men are not worth your time IMHO.

Blues Fairy, did you perhaps mean any woman older than 30 was "too old"?
Guys only looking for 20 yr olds is a bit extreme. 

[Daveman]

What was that movie from the 70's where they killed people on their 30th birthday?  "Logan's Run"?  I can't remember. 

Basically my life began about 30, maybe even 35.  Yes, some guys want to find the 20 somethings, but there are many who specifically search for ladies over 30, or over 35, etc. 

You seem very astute, open minded, etc... you seem to speak and understand English very well.   I see no reason, that you won't have lots of attention after your turn 30.  That is, of course, if you have "great legs and not ugly feet" as Greg put it..     

Finding the right partner can take time as all the attention in the world means very little if it isn't from the right person... some people get lucky and find that special one quickly, some take longer.  I think any fool can get married to *someone* as quickly as they are willing to do so, but the search for something more magical and rewarding can take some time.  Turning 30 shouldn't stop you. 

[BillyB]

is there life after thirty?  
 

I can't speak for women but based on who gets the most attention at dating site and marriage agencies, there is less life for women after 30. The young ones get the bulk of attention. A beautiful older woman gets lots of attention too. Beauty is very important for a woman and never ever let yourself not believe it. Good values attract good people but beauty will attract a lot of people so you can have a large group of guys to choose from.

For men it's different. I am much more a man now at 40 than when I was 30 and 20. I have less hair and my flat belly is gone but I can attract more women than ever. I still have decent looks and I am much more mature and behave well around women. I'm older but a more attractive male than when I was younger.

[Shadow]

The majority of men get stuck emotionally at 20, that is why they think women over 30 are old.

Don't worry you are not yet becoming a spinster... have to wait 15 to 20 years for that.

[Dave13]

Mialia, Yes there is life after 30, my wife was 30 when we married. We both are very active, in the outdoors ( backpacking)and hit the gym five days a week.

[seraphimangel]

My 2 cents. 

Your taste in men seems to be the more rugged and older man.  I don't see why you would have any problem finding a man at 30+. 

I think it's a matter of what you want.  At 32, still going dancing 3 times a week and going to a concert at least once a month.  I think I like a younger mindset.

I want someone who likes to go out very often and who doesn't think a walk in the park is good enough, but a person who wants lights, events and shows. 

I, still go to punk rock shows and come home bloody one night.  Then next night go Salsa dancing and enjoy that. 

I just don't see a 30+ person digging on my scene.  Most people in the U.S. who do enjoy my scene are in their early to mid 20s.  This works for me here, I just wouldn't imagine it would be different there. 

It should be of no consequence to you though, you want a more mature, rugged older man anyhow, and an older man shouldn't be trolling for 20s anyhow.  Unless all they want is an arm trophy, I'm more in line with looking for a partner in causing trouble =P

[SomeGuy]

There will always be those while often much older themselves, may limit their searches to women in their 20s only. 
From your standpoint, this might actually be a good thing, as perhaps some will eliminate themselves for the better. 

As has been mentioned, if you or he wish to have children, that may impact the situation at some point, when you consider the time to establish a relationship to the point of marriage...this can take time, plus any Visa process.  I wouldn't expect that to be much of an issue for many until around age 35, and if no children are desired, that isn't a factor either.  It might be a good idea to indicate if you are wanting or not wanting children on any profile, though. 

30 certainly is far from the end of life.  At 39, I was looking in late 20s up to mid 30s.  Others will have different preferences, just remember, it should not be about quantity but quality.  You only need one good man, right?  I'm sure that you will have plenty of opportunities in your 30s, if you want them.

[molly35ru]

You made my day!
Should I start a thread about life after forty? 
Sorry, couldn't help laughing  . Mialia, этот камень не в твой огород.

I thought it's not a secret that our personality has nothing to do with our age. You may be old in 30 as well as someone is young in 50, isn't it obvious.
Ok, I'm 43, still don't think I'm old and yes still want to have one more baby with the right man. Life is wonderful and I'm looking forward to at least more 40 years of it 

[Miri22]

Good for you Molly! What a great attitude and outlook.

[BrianW]

I'm 27. I like older women. I think they are more mature, know what they want out of life and have much more life experience. I could see myself marrying someone a few years older than me.


30 is the new 20. Age is all relative. My grandmother just passed away at 102 years of age. She was 30 before the second world war

[Seeker]

I'm 27. I like older women. I think they are more mature, know what they want out of life and have much more life experience. I could see myself marrying someone a few years older than me.


30 is the new 20. Age is all relative. My grandmother just passed away at 102 years of age. She was 30 before the second world war

Up until I hit 34, I was always with older women too (marriage, dating, etc.).  I think we all really "grow up" (as much as we are going to) in our early 30's.  Since then I have dated and been in relationships with 17 year younger and 10 year older (and in between, those are just the extremes).  At this point,  I am looking at the heart and the person, not just age.  In fact age is the last consideration unless it is WAY out of the norm.  10 either way is fine with me.  Okay... 15 on the younger side might work.     Hey... no comments!      But I don't really look for any age, just someone I am interested in that is interested in me.

[XMan]

It's interesting how we assign certain activities to certain age ranges.
I like "X" so I want to be with an person in (fill in the blank) age range.
 
I did not enjoy heavy metal, bars, sky diving, skiing, tattoos or body piercing when I was 20. 
Why would I enjoy them now? 

I did enjoy romantic evenings, books, football, writing, running, playing music, and many other things when I was 20. 
Why would I not enjoy them now? 
(OK, my torn rotator cuff means I cannot throw worth a damn anymore. Irritates me greatly.) 

Of course, taste can also change with age.  But core things often remain the same. 

I say toss the age thing out the window and pursue your own version of happiness. 
Carpe Diem.
You may not be around the following day.

Life after 30?  Sure.  Choose the one you want.

[molly35ru]

Good post, XMan, thank you

[Seeker]

It's interesting how we assign certain activities to certain age ranges.
I like "X" so I want to be with an person in (fill in the blank) age range.
 
I did not enjoy heavy metal, bars, sky diving, skiing, tattoos or body piercing when I was 20. 
Why would I enjoy them now? 

I did enjoy romantic evenings, books, football, writing, running, playing music, and many other things when I was 20. 
Why would I not enjoy them now? 
(OK, my torn rotator cuff means I cannot throw worth a damn anymore. Irritates me greatly.) 

Of course, taste can also change with age.  But core things often remain the same. 

I say toss the age thing out the window and pursue your own version of happiness. 
Carpe Diem.
You may not be around the following day.

Life after 30?  Sure.  Choose the one you want.

Damn I wish you were a woman...

But to address the original post, 30, 40, 50... for men and women it depends on the man and woman.  I am not saying to anyone to look outside of their own age.  I think it depends more on the people involved and the honesty they have between them (and in themselves).

No relationship is easy.  And any thing that is different between the people involved either adds to the whole (of the couple, as they compliment each other) or drives them apart. 

If it was easier, none of us would be here.