New question, sexual in nature.

[facetrock]

  You've only had one satisfying sexual experience since you have been single. Either you have only had a few or you are into some weird kinky stuff.
  Like SMS60 said in a different thread. " Bang her til her toes curl and then do it again an hour later"  The greatest compliment a man can have as a lover is a totally destroyed barely coherent woman lying next to him when he is done. If a man cant be satisfied with that he needs therapy.

[fabiodriven]

How long were you married for?

I don't want to get into too many details because this conversation can take a whole different direction if it turns into "days of Fabio's lives" here.

I will tell you we were together for almost 6 years and I have been single for a little over one, but it seems like an eternity.

[facetrock]

  Fabio maybe your still used to having sex with your wife? All women are different.

[ML]

 Most women need lots of foreplay.  

'Most' is a key word here.  In other threads, we speak about the wide variation in men and women relative to various factors.  Same applies here.

Probably hard for the women here to believe (and maybe men also) but there are women who can go from a cold start to finish in about 20-30 seconds.  No, I am not talking about fakes, because these women generally go on to multiples which would be quite tiring to fake, particularly day after day.  

Quite a stunner for me, after spending years with a woman who was very, very slow.

[ML]

All women are different.

Well not quite.  I would say rather, that there are some general categories that are somewhat different.  Then the various women fit into these categories.  Probably the same can be said for men.

[Misha]

'Most' is a key word here.  In other threads, we speak about the wide variation in men and women relative to various factors.  Same applies here.

We can speak of wide variations in the same woman over the course of a few weeks  What may work on Tuesday, may not on Thursday 

[fabiodriven]

  Fabio maybe your still used to having sex with your wife? All women are different.

You are quite right. The thing is, not only was she the most beautiful woman I have ever been with, but we had unreal sex and a lot of it.

[GQBlues]

You are quite right. The thing is, not only was she the most beautiful woman I have ever been with, but we had unreal sex and a lot of it.

....and yet the marriage was unsuccessful. So it isn't so much a successful marriage that you aspire for, but rather a sexually satisfying experience even if it's temporary. I can understand though I'm thinking maybe sowing your wild oats for a while may be the better choice for you at this time (?). Cow...milk...

[fabiodriven]

....and yet the marriage was unsuccessful. So it isn't so much a successful marriage that you aspire for, but rather a sexually satisfying experience even if it's temporary. I can understand though I'm thinking maybe sowing your wild oats for a while may be the better choice for you at this time (?). Cow...milk...

No, I think you should read my original post a bit more carefully. Although this question has to do with sex, it's not all I'm after and not all I'm about.

[ML]

We can speak of wide variations in the same woman over the course of a few weeks  What may work on Tuesday, may not on Thursday 

I have not experienced wide variations in the same woman.  Minor variations from day to day, yes.

Keep in mind what was the subtopic here.  i.e. Boethius' statement that 'Most women need lots of foreplay.'

[Misha]

I have not experienced wide variations in the same woman.  Minor variations from day to day, yes.

Keep in mind what was the subtopic here.  i.e. Boethius' statement that 'Most women need lots of foreplay.'

Let's say that some women, when they are really in the mood, they may need no foreplay at all. The same woman, on another day, may need much more. The point that I am making is simple: you can't even generalize about one woman, let alone all of them 

[GQBlues]

No, I think you should read my original post a bit more carefully. Although this question has to do with sex, it's not all I'm after and not all I'm about.

I actually did. Especially the part that said...

"...Any and all suggestions are welcome..."

So to react defensively to my suggestion and presumed I simply did not read your OP carefully tells me you're borderline trolling.

My recent suggestion is actually the very best answer you received so far, based on the premise you laid out in your OP if you think about it a bit more carefully. Which to me is what you seem to be subliminally implying but seem to need the forum's blessing. Sow your wild oats young man, how else would you know who Ms Right is FOR YOU? Not for me or any of the other members here. Unless if 'we' took her for a test drive and lay out some serious skidmarks on her, then give you raving reviews then I reckon we'll be far more directly helpful to your cause...

Besides, as Andrew Dice used to always say.....No woman was ever born being good in sex and no man should ever have the need to wonder how she got to be that good. She got better with practice and experience. Just like you do...

[fabiodriven]

I am in no way getting defensive by asking you to read my original post more clearly. I just don't think you see where I'm coming from and all suggestions are appreciated.

I do not expect everybody to understand my point of view here. I need not the blessing of anybody, let alone from this forum. I am simply looking for experiences from people who have walked down this path before I.

[Daveman]

I am in no way getting defensive by asking you to read my original post more clearly. I just don't think you see where I'm coming from and all suggestions are appreciated.

I do not expect everybody to understand my point of view here. I need not the blessing of anybody, let alone from this forum. I am simply looking for experiences from people who have walked down this path before I.

Pretty much all of us have been down this path... for whom is sex NOT important?  Perhaps the needle dick bug banger, but for most any normal man or woman, sex is very important.

I think it's rather obvious where you are cu..er coming from... the sex hasn't been great since your marriage and with the travel, time, potential pitfalls, et al of this venture, you'd like to know sooner rather than later whether the sex would measure up and/or if the lady enjoys it as much as often as you.

If you date an RW and have a decent attraction/chemistry/whatever, she'll pretty much expect you to toss her into the sack and rock her world fairly quickly. If you don't, she'll think something is wrong with you. SO... you'll have your answer rather quickly with any RW who likes you.  It's just normal.

If you are wanting to ask her a lot of sexual questions prior to meeting, then you'll have a hit or miss. some love to talk about sex and some don't.  But if you are tactful, you can ask pretty much anything, talk about anything, etc etc.. and get some ideas.

I have no experience with the kind of scenario you mentioned with the friend of a friend... I really haven't heard of something quite that point and shoot for marriage.

[Shadow]

Fabio the most important organ in sex is the brain. It is also the part that shows if you are ready and compatible or not.

RW will not have a problem 'testing' you either, but it has to be when both are ready and willing. Having sex without having a relationship is masturbating using a body instead of your hand.

If she is in to you, and you are in to her, sex will usually be good. Anything else will not work.

[I/O]

I still think, snowflakes chance in hell. 

[Ade]

So I have had one thing looming in the back of my mind and I was just discussing it with a friend who has a friend that married a Russian woman. I seem to have met a lot of people who know somebody who has done this but I have yet to meet anybody in person who has married a Russian woman. I don't like going by "friend of a friend" stories, and I am a bit nervous about asking this question here, but what the hell. You guys are the experts.

I happen to be a very sexual person in nature. Please do not mistake this for a "man whore" or anything like that. I am very much a monogamous person. It's just that sex is very important to me in a relationship and I would hate to meet a woman who is seemingly "the one" only to find out that she isn't for me in bed. It worries me because I have had only one truly enjoyable sexual experience since being single. I really don't like that percentage.

I learned a long time ago that without a strong emotional attachment, sex is little better than masturbation but comes with more associated complications and risks. YMMV of course and I know one guy that admitted to me that sex with his wife (who he claims to love) is no different than with the virtual strangers with which he cheats. FWIW, I think he has emotional intimacy issues and has never really experienced how amazing physical intimacy can be with someone you are fully emotionally connected with.

Anyway, I'm a long term serial monogamist because I found meaningless sex with women I have no emotional connection with to be less than satisfying and ever so slightly depressing.

So perhaps you should consider making an emotional connection before you decide to jump into bed with strangers...

[wiz]

The performance of a good car depends on how good is the driver driving it. 

A good driver has to have a good knowledge of all the various parts of the car and have also intimate attachment and knowledge to it! The decision to buy it or not does not depend in only a test drive but in many other factors.

Actually life is not as simple as that and finding the right partner for life it doesn't depend on how good is a woman in bed, when you first meet her.

As we all very well know, a racing driver needs to practice a lot and fine tune the car to get the best performance out of it! 

[Shadow]

The performance of a good car depends on how good is the driver driving it. 

A good driver has to have a good knowledge of all the various parts of the car and have also intimate attachment and knowledge to it! The decision to buy it or not does not depend in only a test drive but in many other factors.

Actually life is not as simple as that and finding the right partner for life it doesn't depend on how good is a woman in bed, when you first meet her.

As we all very well know, a racing driver needs to practice a lot and fine tune the car to get the best performance out of it! 

And all this time I just turn on the switch and all other things go automatic. 

[wiz]

And all this time I just turn on the switch and all other things go automatic. 

Didn't know you own a car with automatic pilot....err ... driving system! 

[Gator]

I thought I had posted something earlier about the worst sex in my life was still pretty good.  Perhaps I did and it was considered offensive and deleted.

In summary, your question is poorly phrased.   I have no idea what you want to know.  Your question is nebulous, as if you wanted to have an open ended discussion about sex. 

And you are getting it.  In that theme I add:

1.  I agree with the opinion that sex is far better if one is emotionally connected with his partner.

2.  Most men, such as me, probably do not have a statistically representative sample size to draw valid conclusions about RW vs. AW, if there is indeed a significant difference.  And one would need to account for factors such as age differences, etc.

[fabiodriven]

Having sex without having a relationship is masturbating using a body instead of your hand.

I couldn't agree with that statement more.

[fabiodriven]

In summary, your question is poorly phrased.   I have no idea what you want to know.  Your question is nebulous, as if you wanted to have an open ended discussion about sex. 

 

There have been plenty of responses from people who understand my question just fine. If you don't understand my question or where I'm coming from, feel free to not reply.

[daveyj]

I still think, snowflakes chance in hell. 

Of course.  That is your assessment of every unmarried poster's chances.

[ML]

some love to talk about sex and some don't.  But if you are tactful, you can ask pretty much anything, talk about anything, etc etc.. and get some ideas.

Before a face to face meeting, I don't believe you can ask or expect any answers from any woman about anything sexual.  This is really unfortunate as it leads to a lot of wasted time for both parties, but it is just a fact when dealing with women.

However, I have found some success (that is in determining a woman's level of sex drive in general) by exchanging jokes.  Start with some minor sex jokes and see how she reacts.  She may either send you some similar jokes back, or she may completely ignore  your jokes.  If she does send you some sex jokes back, you can up the ante a bit and see where it leads.  I have found that to be a pretty accurate meter as to what is going to happen when you meet.

But direct questions about sex . . . that doesn't ever go over well; again, it is unfortunate but true.