Wish good luck for me

[ECOCKS]

Perhaps this could be split so Lana could have her thread back to work on HER question? Kevin has his own thread about DM for this stuff.

[FredC]

Welcome Lana......I agree with Lily, I think that you have a lovely smile. If I wasn't taken already, I am sure I would enjoy getting to know you better. You could also try looking on a few American dating sites. Just be sure to be up front with any man that you may write there. If not you will appear to be a scammer, I'm sure that's the last thing that you want.

[Lily]

FredC.

Many American dating sites do not allow people from the FSU and certain other countries to register with them .

[bobcat]

Welcome Lana......I agree with Lily, I think that you have a lovely smile. If I wasn't taken already, I am sure I would enjoy getting to know you better. You could also try looking on a few American dating sites. Just be sure to be up front with any man that you may write there. If not you will appear to be a scammer, I'm sure that's the last thing that you want.

There are other countries too--why assume everyone wants to go to America?


 

[Faux Pas]

Perhaps this could be split so Lana could have her thread back to work on HER question? Kevin has his own thread about DM for this stuff.

Done. The side-track is sidetracked. Carry on Lana 

[Faux Pas]

That's just a part of a_murrican upbringing I guess - they sincerely believe their country is the center of the universe! So when somebody doesn't share this particular point of view & is NOT wanting to go to the starred & striped land, a_murricans seem to be genuinely surprised (at best...  )

Please try to stay on topic 

[Gator]

Lana,

I am helping a young 40s RW make a connection with Western men.  Last week she joined Cute Only and Russian Euro.  She found Russian Euro far better even though she rejected 90% of the men who wrote her.  It is too early to tell where it will go; however, she is having fun communicating with some interesting men, all from Europe.

[Sculpto]

Olga.. what about love?  What I hear in your post is love for a place.. and absolutely nothing about finding a man that you love.  Why not do what Lily has done and simply immigrate?    I am just asking so don't get flipped..

[ECOCKS]

Thank you, Dan.

Poor thread has been treated like a doormat.

We're still here for you Lana.

[LanaRUS]

I would like to thank everybody for the kind wishes
 Kevin's opinion to my topic is very interesting.
Both him and me want to get the answer to the same question, but from the different angles.
 I am also much interested which problems the men face while searching the woman.
 What do they want?
 The male view on dating is very interesting for me.

Having read  the messages on the forum I have come to the opinion that it is much easier for men to find their soulmate in internet.
I just think that 70 year old men should not communicate with 40 year old women
 and than they will never meet a scammer.
 For women it is more difficult.
 The players can be met at different ages.
 What do you think?

[possum]

I would like to thank everybody for the kind wishes
 Kevin's opinion to my topic is very interesting.
Both him and me want to get the answer to the same question, but from the different angles.
 I am also much interested which problems the men face while searching the woman.
 What do they want?
 The male view on dating is very interesting for me.

Having read  the messages on the forum I have come to the opinion that it is much easier for men to find their soulmate in internet.
I just think that 70 year old men should not communicate with 40 year old women
 and than they will never meet a scammer.
 For women it is more difficult.
 The players can be met at different ages.
 What do you think?

IMO, 70 y.o. men should only be communicating with God, i.e. preparing to meet their Maker, not chatting up women on the Internet.. 

Finding a mate is fairly easy for both sexes as long as they have realistic expectations regarding looks, status, etc.. A soulmate, on the other hand, is someone you are 100% compatible with, thus very hard to find regardless if you're a man or a woman.. My advice is: shoot for the former and hope you get the latter..

[ECOCKS]

Oh I don't know about that. 70 year olds need love too. Just not in some pathetic attempt to recapture their youth. Nothing wrong with them chatting up women in their age grouping, say 50 or so on up. Those gals get lonely also.

[possum]

Oh I don't know about that. 70 year olds need love too. Just not in some pathetic attempt to recapture their youth. Nothing wrong with them chatting up women in their age grouping, say 50 or so on up. Those gals get lonely also.

70 Russian years = 120 years American.. that be the exchange rate.. 

[ECOCKS]

70 Russian years = 120 years American.. that be the exchange rate.. 

 

[TheTraveler]

Hi Lana!

I don't think it's necessarily a bad idea to sign up on the dating websites and wait to be contacted... but why not browse through the available men on those sites and then initiate the contact yourself with guys who you might be interested in?

A thoughtful, interesting, and personalized letter with pictures is a great way to make contact.  And I'd recommend sending out letters to many guys so as to give yourself as many options as possible.

I can't really recommend any sites, because I've been married for 9 years, and I'm sure all the dating sites have changed... But that's basically how I met my wife.  She initiated the contact with an introductory email she sent to me, and things took off from there.

I wish you the best in your search!

[Lily]

I just think that 70 year old men should not communicate with 40 year old women
 and than they will never meet a scammer.
 For women it is more difficult.
 The players can be met at different ages.
 What do you think?

Lana,

One of the goals that Western men pursue when searching a wife in the FSU countries would be finding a woman who would be considerably younger than themselves. Therefore, it is practicable that 60-70 yo men would be very interested in 40-something Russian women profiles, among which men would pick up the most attractive and well-maintained ladies.

Nevertheless, you may want to specify age of your desired partner in your profile. At the same time, this tactic may eliminate a number of potentially interested men. Men who seek in Russia try to use their best efforts to locate a younger woman. In regular Western daily life, men and women tend to mate within their own age group. Now when the men come to these dating sites, they discover that they really can score with younger women, that Russian ladies would be ready to accept even a big age difference, and they are very tempted to go for it. Just scroll through this forum, and you will see how many threads are devoted to the age difference. This is one of the reason why a number of men look to the East.

On the scammer issue within this age group, I believe that you are probably right. No scammer in her or his sane mind would show in a profile that the woman is older than 35 because this age group does not sell well. My take would be that older people would be less concerned about getting scammed, and more concerned about personal compatibility. Hence, less risk in this department.

[Gator]

Having read  the messages on the forum I have come to the opinion that it is much easier for men to find their soulmate in internet.

It is relatively easy to find Russian women who claim to be interested in you.  And many sincerely are.  That does not mean the women are soulmates, or even compatible.

I just think that 70 year old men should not communicate with 40 year old women and than they will never meet a scammer.

Maybe a 70-yo man enjoys the attention he receives from a scammer, particularly the scammer's attempts to scam him.  Something to do when not making his coffin.  

Seriously, the scammers are in their 20s, not 40s.  I met so many sincere RW in their 40s, and not one ever tried to scam me (I am not 70, but getting there).  The 40s women are wonderful.  They have raised their children and are looking for a new life.  Some did not want to spend it with me  , yet that is not a scam.  

If your statement implies that you personally do not like being contacted by old goats, hit "Ignore" or "Delete."
 

For women it is more difficult.
 The players can be met at different ages.
 What do you think?

The answer is simple - don't allow yourself to be played.  Do your due diligence and stop players before they cross the border.  Then keep your knickers on, and if you take them off, enjoy it.

[Faux Pas]

Lana,

One of the goals that Western men pursue when searching a wife in the FSU countries would be finding a woman who would be considerably younger than themselves. Therefore, it is practicable that 60-70 yo men would be very interested in 40-something Russian women profiles, among which men would pick up the most attractive and well-maintained ladies.

Lily,

Unfortunately, by-in-large that does seem to be true but, not always the case. It would be good information for Lana to consider. If you are a RW in your 40's that could seem somewhat a lost cause. However, some guys do seek women closer to their own age. If Lana does not put herself out there likely these men will never find her. There are several 40s-50s something on RWD who married women close to their age.

[Misha]

I can't tell you much about singles.ru, but mamba is a waste of time.. It's for perverts and local hookups..

Sigh, I guess that I will have to tell my wife tonight that she married a pervert as we met on singles.ru (which is part of the mamba network) 

[Misha]

I am also much interested which problems the men face while searching the woman. What do they want? The male view on dating is very interesting for me.

I don't believe this is too complicated. IMVHO, men who will marry overseas invariably want a better partner than they could find at home. How "better" is defined will vary, but generally it is a combination of younger and/or more attractive.

Having read  the messages on the forum I have come to the opinion that it is much easier for men to find their soulmate in internet.

The main difference: internet dating is good for shy men as it is easier to make contact with a woman online than to walk up to her at a bar, grocery store, park or any other public location.

I just think that 70 year old men should not communicate with 40 year old women

Maybe, but I would wager that the same man could meet lots of 70-year-old women at home, and presumably he is motivated by something more than homemade borscht 
 

The players can be met at different ages.

Players, scammers, same remedy: knowing how to say no until you are relatively sure of a person's true intentions  :evil:

[XMan]

Sigh, I guess that I will have to tell my wife tonight that she married a pervert as we met on singles.ru (which is part of the mamba network)  

We all suspected that of you....
 

Just kidding.  You may have been one of only 6 or 7 non-perverts on that site.  
 

[Faux Pas]

We all suspected that of you....
 

Just kidding.  You may have been one of only 6 or 7 non-perverts on that site.  
 

Or maybe something Freudian?  j/k Misha

[Misha]

We all suspected that of you....
 

Just kidding.  You may have been one of only 6 or 7 non-perverts on that site.  
 

LOL! Well lack if credible competition is not a bad thing

[possum]

Sigh, I guess that I will have to tell my wife tonight that she married a pervert as we met on singles.ru (which is part of the mamba network) 

I've got a better idea.. Buy her a bottle of wine and some flowers to celebrate your miraculous relationship

[veritas]

Kevin's opinion to my topic is very interesting.
Both him and me want to get the answer to the same question, but from the different angles.

Thank you, Lana!  I really appreciate that! 

BTW, I'm BACK ON here, now that my would-be hijacking of your thread has been moved elsewhere ... 

As a guy who's very much involved in the "RW site" scene -- EM in particular -- do YOU have any questions for ME? 

Nevertheless, you may want to specify age of your desired partner in your profile. At the same time, this tactic may eliminate a number of potentially interested men. Men who seek in Russia try to use their best efforts to locate a younger woman. In regular Western daily life, men and women tend to mate within their own age group. Now when the men come to these dating sites, they discover that they really can score with younger women, that Russian ladies would be ready to accept even a big age difference, and they are very tempted to go for it. Just scroll through this forum, and you will see how many threads are devoted to the age difference. This is one of the reason why a number of men look to the East.

I know that I personally take "stated age ranges" VERY seriously when checking out FSU women's profiles ...
And much to my dismay, I've found that many of them go up to age 45 -- and then STOP ... (I'm 46 ... )
I guess that's because it's a nice, round number?  But I figure that these women KNOW what ages they want,
and so if I miss the boat by even ONE YEAR ("up to 45"), I will NOT try to contact them ...

I may be in the minority on this -- I really don't know ...

The main difference: internet dating is good for shy men as it is easier to make contact with a woman online than to walk up to her at a bar, grocery store, park or any other public location.

AMEN, BROTHER!!!     This is EXACTLY my situation!!!     And I DON'T think I'm alone in this ...

Since I bought my first computer in 2001, "Internet dating" is the ONLY form of dating that I've tried!!! 

Elsewhere in this forum, I posted that "never in a million YEARS" would I even THINK of even APPROACHING --
much less "PICKING UP"! -- a girl I'd never met before!    Never in my LIFE have I done EITHER of those! 

"Shy" would be the "understatement of the CENTURY" for me ... I'm ALWAYS been "afraid -- VERY afraid" ... 

In fact, if my (former) wife hadn't asked ME out for the first time, I would probably have never married a'tall ... 

This is why "sites" such as EM -- and, previously, Match.com and the like -- have been such a GREAT boon to me ...

Kevin