I am being scammed by loveme.com?

[Djones]

I have a question about the express mail service of loveme.com or a foreign affair. The conversations go "exceptionally well" it seems but the girls I wrote do everything to keep it going but not to meet up in real life: a part of the conversation, if you're interested in what I wrote contact me. Inna Kherson 22 years old.

Hello, dear ....!
Thank you very much for your nice letter. I was really very glad to get it, moreover I enjoy reading your letter and I am eager to get to know you better.
First of all, I dare say that I like the description of yourself very much. I like that you are intelligent and versatile person, I like your hobbies very much too. I dare say that I am happy to know that you are very romantic person. And to tell the truth, I was pleasantly surprised that you are fond of learning the Russian language. Is it difficult to learn Russian?
Well, what can I say about myself?
I am an adventurous girl and I can’t spend a lot of time doing nothing. I have lots of interests, such as reading, dancing, travelling and so on. I am a very romantic girl. I can also describe myself as very honest girl for I will never betray my beloved man. I am very friendly and sociable, but not talkative. I have many friends, which often ask me for advice.
I have registered on this site to find my beloved man. My main aim is to create my own hapy family, as I consider family is the most important and sacred thing in our world.
Well, as for your questions.
1. Yes, I am ready to move to another country, to follow my beloved man. So, if he comes from Belgium, I will follow him there too. Of course, I desire to learn the language of my beloved, as I consider communication is very important in any relationship.
2. The ideal man is that man who shares my outlooks, who would trusts, supports, loves, respects me, who would be able to love and be loved, to share and be shared, to care and be cared. And my dream is to have a happy family with him, to trust and to care about him. I think people have to add each other. There is no complete man without a woman, and no complete woman without a man.
3. Certainly, I would like to meet with you in person, as I consider one meeting is worth thousands of letters.
Well, now questions for you.
1. Why are you looking for a foreign wife?
2. What is the best holiday for you?
3. What irritates you most of all?
4. Do you believe in love at first glance?
5. What is your secret dream?
Have a nice day!
Hope for soon hearing from you!
Fondly yours,
Inna

...
(by this time I proposed she should go to her local agency to sign the IMBRA form and I would meet her in september)

Hello, dear ....!
Thank you very much for your nice letter. Thank you for answering my questions. I dare say I enjoy reading your replies. Moreover, I would like to be in correspondence with you, and I hope that one day we would be able to meet in person.
So, let me answer the same questions.
1. Ukrainian men don’t appreciate family values. They prefer to go to bars, cafes, night clubs with friends, and it seems they are not interested in creation family at all.
2. The best way of relaxing, to my mind, is to spend time with your lover man. And it doesn’t matter you are resting on the beach, or watching TV, or travelling and so on.
3. I think I am easy going person, and I like many things. I like dancing, going in for sport, travelling, reading and many other things. I dislike doing nothing. In people’s souls I like honesty, sincerity, kindness, and benevolence. I dislike rudeness, greediness, cruelty and fierce.
I can say that I hate lie and betrayal.
4. Yes, I firmly believe in it.
5. I tell you later.
Now I want to ask you some more questions.
your happiest moment is .................
the last time I laughed was .........
earth, air, fire, water I would like to be ....
life to me means ...
what three things would you like to do before you die –
what is your secret dream

Hope for soon hearing from you!
Kisses…
Inna



What should I do, i get tired of all these scammers...

I will live and work in Moscow for a couple of months, and be in ukrain from time to time, can anyone give me the adress of the agencies, so I can just go up to them and meet the girls directly, internet is just not reliable...

[groovlstk]

I will live and work in Moscow for a couple of months, and be in ukrain from time to time, can anyone give me the adress of the agencies, so I can just go up to them and meet the girls directly, internet is just not reliable...

If you're going to live and work in Moscow, why would you use an agency?

[Gator]

I will live and work in Moscow for a couple of months, and be in ukrain from time to time, can anyone give me the adress of the agencies, so I can just go up to them and meet the girls directly, internet is just not reliable...

Congratulations.  Relax and enjoy yourself. 

Which cities in Ukraine will you visit?  I know of reliable agencies in Dnepropetrovsk and Kharkov.  You show up and they will arrange meetings for $25-50 each, plus interpreter.  Is that the best way to meet RW?  No.

There are many ways to meet women without using agencies.  Send a PM to the RWD member Chivo who is an expat in Moscow.

Agencies can expand your pool.   However, do not get involved with agencies that charge by the letter.  A high percentage of these letters are bogus.  If you wish to incorporate some agency contacts, you need to use more reliable agencies such as Elena's Models.  There are many RW within a day's train ride of Moscow. They could come to Moscow or you go to them when you are free.

You should also try the dating sites such as Mamba.



 

[BillyB]

What should I do, i get tired of all these scammers...

 You're looking in all the wrong places. Quit using big bad agencies to start off with. There are more real women than scammers out there so you should find plenty of real women to communicate with.

You should also try the dating sites such as Mamba.

Mamba.ru is great for finding local RW wherever a guy may live but it's much more difficullt to find RW that's willing to locate overseas. Bride.ru is a dating site that the women know they're signing up for that attracts foreign men. A guy will not only get the ladies email addresses but postal address and phone number too.

Since Djones is in Moscow, with Mamba.ru he could schedule one or two dates a day everyday with RW easily if he's decent looking.

[Daveman]

The letters could very well be coming from the agency translator (as I have no experience with loveme.com), yet what you posted there could be construed as a woman wishing to get to know a man better.  There seems to be a lot of effort going into the letters from her side - responses to questions, asking questions, a genuine dialog.  Even in a pay by letter system, why would there be a need to be so elaborate?  Seems to me they could keep a man hooked and paying for the letter translations with less effort than exhibited here.  Are you being baited to use other website/agency services? 

I see nothing nefarious or scammish in what you have posted. Why, exactly, do you get the feeling she's a scammer?

Dave

[ECOCKS]

My gut reaction is different from yours Dave. I'd hazard that she is a scammer and getting paid to string him along.

As we say time and time (and time and time...) again, you need to get in control of communications and quit this crap. If the agency is removed from the picture you will remove a large part of the questionmark from the relationship. She may still be a "scammer", but you know she's working you independently of the agency paycheck.

Arrange to communicate through email, she will do so if she's interested in you. Language is not a problem, you can pay one of the wives or one of our forum member translators to translate the letters for you.

[DKMM]

I used loveme.com.  I found a girl where I was going to go anyways and wrote her but I also noticed the letters were inconsistent and she would answer my requests to meet.  I met a girl I wrote on there, but I found her on a different (agency) website in order to connect in person.  She did admit that the website fabricated letters to me.  Basically they called her, read her my letter and she replied orally to them.  They turned that into a letter and put in whatever they wanted as well.  She didn't really care as that place never brought her a live man to meet anyway but if it did, so much the better.  I would not consider that a scam though as I believe I could have met her through the agency if I paid them for it.   The agency I met her through basically set me up to meet her but did not tell her what I told them (that i already was writing her and wanted to meet her).  They just said "here is this man who wants to meet you".  well we met anyway and it didn't matter in the end but loveme is probably a waste of time. 

the lesson of all that is the only thing that an agency is good for is to screen, introduce, and arrange a live meeting with someone.

[Shadow]

Agree with Daveman that someone is putting in way too much work for this to be an outright scam.
The request to meet might have been 'lost in translation' though. :evil:

[Sail]

I found it very easy to meet women on the street and talk to in Saint Petersburg in fact they followed me around from place to place and step in front of me so I noticed them and have a chance to chat with me. Even when I went to eat at a cafe or go to the pharmacy they would always gather at the register just to talk.