For older guys . . . how young is too young

[JR]

I tend to disagree with item 3 as well.  I will say it happens a lot but it is far from universal. 

How old will you be when your wife goes thru menopause?

[Al_C]

I read something written by Elena Petrova that I will never forget, written to the older men in the crowd (like me, for example, since I am 53).

This is a paraphrase, since I did not exactly memorize it word for word.

What did you do when you were 25?  Did you watch television and go to bed at 11:00 like you do now?  Or did you go to the nightclub until 4:00 A.M?  So what makes you think that your 25 year old Russian wife will be happy watching television until 11:00 and going to bed?  Are you prepared to start going to nightclubs again to entertain your Russian wife?  Or do you want to set your sights on a more realistic age range?

[Jumper]

Al-C
in general i agree with Elena's view..

but I know plenty of people that age, male and female that arnt attracted to nightclubs,
and would only go occasionally.
Some are just homebodies,
others find it's  a big world and find more exciting things to do than hang out in a club.
it can get old rather quickly if its routine.

In general though the thought is an older man might not want to "keep up" with a younger woman..
and that point is valid.

In this thread i doubt its nearly as big of issue?
Specifically, a 60yo man, looking for a  40yo women probably isn't going to run into
a *club girl*
and depending on their two personalities the part of being as active likely isn't going to be an initial problem..?
maybe when he is 70 and she is 50 that again might come into play..?



In my experience ,the needle in the hay stack, is to find someone that would want to keep up..
(any age) so kind of the opposite problem.
Not sure i'd have that same problem at 70.. but who knows

[Turboguy]

How old will you be when your wife goes thru menopause?

Shoot, I run out of toes and fingers long before I can ever count that high.  I do probably have a little more first hand knowledge with post menapausal women than some of the 30 year old guys would and yes, some older women may lose their interest in sex and some don't.  Of course women who are single and might want to get married probably have a lot more interest in sex than women who are married or at least they pretend they do. 

[Chicagoguy]

I have been avoiding these age topics for some time now. Mainly because of my own age and partly because of our difference.

I think as us men get older we can stretch the differences some - but not too much. As for me I was looking for about a 10 year difference but then received a nice letter from someone who was 15 years younger. At the time she was 53. Maybe because it is almost impossible for women that age in Russian to find suitable men she was taking a flyer on me.

I had been to Russia many times and most of those trips were for business and/or friends and I had of course noticed the beautiful Russian women but at the time I was happily married. And I also was of the opinion that after age 50 they turned into bag ladies  . In truth there are some wonderful older women in the U.S. All I have to do is walk down North Michigan Ave. in Chicago to see this.

But after my wife died I looked again and found that there were actually some nice looking older women in Russia. One of the things I wasn't expecting was that she had never been married before even though she did have a daughter.

One problem  with the older women is there are much fewer who speak English. And the older you are the harder it is to learn. But my wife is a trooper and is progressing very nicely. She passed menopause several years ago but is still doing well - if you know what I mean.
Here are some pictures of a 54 year old and please excuse me if there is something wrong as I heve never used this option before.

[facetrock]

Now there is a very nice looking couple. Congrats

[GQBlues]

Now, when the 40 something guy is contemplating the 20 something gals, he gets much good advice against it.  Mostly due to her immaturity, differing lifestyles, differing positions regarding life goals, children, etc.

But many of the reasons cautioning against a 20 year or more gap may not apply to a guy in his late 50s or even late 60s and 70s.

Dang! Apparently not any more... 

[Eduard]

I read something written by Elena Petrova that I will never forget, written to the older men in the crowd (like me, for example, since I am 53).

This is a paraphrase, since I did not exactly memorize it word for word.

What did you do when you were 25?  Did you watch television and go to bed at 11:00 like you do now?  Or did you go to the nightclub until 4:00 A.M?  So what makes you think that your 25 year old Russian wife will be happy watching television until 11:00 and going to bed?  Are you prepared to start going to nightclubs again to entertain your Russian wife?  Or do you want to set your sights on a more realistic age range?

every one is different and IMHO getting to know your future life partner before you marry is very important. My wife and I have been together for 6 years (since she was 24yo) and we haven't been to a night club once yet. Having 2 small children we have no opportunity for that. But even when my parents-in-law visit us once a year and stay with us for a couple of months at a time we don't go to clubs even having the opportunity to do so since they are great with the kids. My wife preferres to spend this time with the family, though I have tried to get her out dancing! Prolly under different circumstances she'd enjoy going out to dance and have a nice dinner, but it's all about choices and priorities. Get the right women for YOU and it can work no matter what age gap is. But if you are just taking averages, then off course the closer you are in age the better chances you have IMO.

[Rubicon]

I think within 15 years is best, but up to 20 years age gap if the lady is about 30 and the man is in good physical shape to keep up with her libido.  overall I do not think age should be the top priority.  sometimes people fall in love and truly care about each other and click on all levels, regardless of age.

[chivo]

every one is different and IMHO getting to know your future life partner before you marry is very important. My wife and I have been together for 6 years (since she was 24yo) and we haven't been to a night club once yet. Having 2 small children we have no opportunity for that. But even when my parents-in-law visit us once a year and stay with us for a couple of months at a time we don't go to clubs even having the opportunity to do so since they are great with the kids. My wife preferres to spend this time with the family, though I have tried to get her out dancing! Prolly under different circumstances she'd enjoy going out to dance and have a nice dinner, but it's all about choices and priorities. Get the right women for YOU and it can work no matter what age gap is. But if you are just taking averages, then off course the closer you are in age the better chances you have IMO.

There you go self-promoting your business again .

Good stuff Ed.

[Eduard]

There you go self-promoting your business again .

Good stuff Ed.

I know man, sometimes I feel like if I *burp*, some one will say: "there he goes again, selfpromoting!"

[Gator]

As you get older and older, you don't care about the age of your woman.  You are more concerned with whether she will help you hitch up your swimming trunks, find your teeth, change your diaper, etc.

[lovelyannie]

I think the topic starter is quite reasonable with his age frames.

If you go to RFW - forum for Russian wives and fiances in the USA, they will tell you anyone who is seeking a woman more than 10 years younger than him is just a crazy perv ))))

My husband is 22 years older than me. I am happy with him and everything is great. I have the only consern, that its not for long (((( But my decision was based on the though: it's better to be with an absolutely wondeful guy, though in his late 50ths, than to be with a younger one, who is getting on my nerves and making me worry about his loyality. His younger age would never make me feel happier. His good attitute - absolutely yes.

[GQBlues]

My husband is 22 years older than me. I am happy with him and everything is great. I have the only consern, that its not for long (((( But my decision was based on the though: it's better to be with an absolutely wondeful guy, though in his late 50ths, than to be with a younger one, who is getting on my nerves and making me worry about his loyality. His younger age would never make me feel happier. His good attitute - absolutely yes.

Interesting perspective. Soley based on age majority 'round here, that's likely to fall on deaf ears. Hearing, amongst other things, is the first to diminish with age. 

[Faux Pas]

Interesting perspective. Soley based on age majority 'round here, that's likely to fall on deaf ears. Hearing, amongst other things, is the first to diminish with age. 

How so? Seems like exactly what most want to hear. Everyone here (mostly) thinks they are a great guy and many to most go looking for a 20+ year age difference 

[GQBlues]

Oh goody! Humor, after all, is not lost on RWD.

How so? Seems like exactly what most want to hear. Everyone here (mostly) thinks they are a great guy and many to most go looking for a 20+ year age difference 

But these are the exceptions to rule because they 'look' much younger than their age...so in essence, they'll appear aversive and a big no-no to the likes of lovelyannie.

[Faux Pas]

Oh goody! Humor, after all, is not lost on RWD.

But these are the exceptions to rule because they 'look' much younger than their age...so in essence, they'll appear aversive and a big no-no to the likes of lovelyannie.

Why would that be so hard to believe GQ. I can relate to those guys. I look at least 10-18 months and 3 weeks younger than my stated age if you happen to catch me at the right time. You know, like when I am wind sailing and about I dunno, 600 to 1500 feet up 

[Maxx2]

Can someone describe one of the "out of your league"  women? I have all kinds of images in my head Im trying to sort out.

Former poster, "Miss Sensuality" with "Best-Snowball". I got in trouble around here when I suggested she might be a scammer and not a nice girl looking for her true love online by using racy photos.



I figure if you got liver spots on your hands you best look for a RW over 45-50.

I did some past readings of some old threads on them. It seems many including Jack think she was just misunderstood. That she was the real deal.

[Markus]

Oh you guys are lucky. I had two tickets to the basketball game the other day and some 23 year old, hot blondy with all the works thought
I was talking about the gun show. I just happened to be holding up my overexercised biceps. Yea, I agree I lift too much weight at the gym,
but, when some young 23 year old hottie mistakes tickets to the Lakers I'm somewhat offended. So, young is so young that it offends
us older guys who have gunshow biceps.

[Maxx2]

Oh you guys are lucky. I had two tickets to the basketball game the other day and some 23 year old, hot blondy with all the works thought
I was talking about the gun show. I just happened to be holding up my overexercised biceps. Yea, I agree I lift too much weight at the gym,
but, when some young 23 year old hottie mistakes tickets to the Lakers I'm somewhat offended. So, young is so young that it offends
us older guys who have gunshow biceps.

You are to be envied.

[Markus]

Good answer to that stuff.

[Turboguy]

I figure if you got liver spots on your hands you best look for a RW over 45-50.

I did some past readings of some old threads on them. It seems many including Jack think she was just misunderstood. That she was the real deal.

If you look at SnowBall's hair it is red.  I have a suspicion those are freckles not liver spots.   I corresponded with Maria (Miss Sensuality) a little.  I have to agree with Jack.  Modesty may not have been her strong point but she seemed like a pretty normal woman hunting for a good man.  Personally I think she got jumped on here a little more than she should have.

[Maxx2]

Personally I think she got jumped on here a little more than she should have.

You maybe right. There were different degrees of jumping on her and the RWs here took it to the highest degree.

What bothered me was that she entertained men she must have known were not going to be keepers, Snowball as an example. But other than that she might make some guy a marvelous wife.

[Turboguy]

As I recall the AM also gave her a pretty hard time.   I have no idea about what her thoughts were about Snowball.  I do recall that he was really hooked on her almost to a point of paranoia.  I wrote her some after snowball but never heard much about her search beyond that point.  I did see her pop up on Elena's gallery of the most popular women. 

I thought she was nice and interesting but didn't really see her as what I was looking for in a wife although I am sure she would or has made someone a very happy man.

[TomT]

I do probably have a little more first hand knowledge with post menopausal women than some of the 30 year old guys would and yes, some older women may lose their interest in sex and some don't.

The loss of vaginal wall circulation, thickness, flexibility and lubricity is inevitable. Even with additives, sex can be a bloody mess. Anyone who has never heard of the term 'vaginal atrophy' had better get educated.