What does it mean?

[JR]

JR, somehow you seem to attract women that get hostile very quickly. Any ideas why?

Other than the fact that I suck....nope))) I didn't contact her, she contacted me and seems to want to save me from my monotonous life by being a great "treat" for me.

I thanked her for pointing out the error and the effort to save me then put her on my blacklist. I get the impression she is a bit jaded, not my problem. Life's too short for so much shit.

[Misha]

The driving point behind the whole text was and is my belief that if you can't communicate with someone using a common language then your relationship is reduced to more basics needs.

I have to confess, I don't quite understand the need for wordy profiles. Why not simply say: I am looking for someone fluent in English. Then again, I skipped over profiles where the women would go on and on philosophizing...

[JR]

I have to confess, I don't quite understand the need for wordy profiles. Why not simply say: I am looking for someone fluent in English. Then again, I skipped over profiles where the women would go on and on philosophizing...

Men and women are different creatures....does that come as a surprise to anyone???

Men look at the first few photos and move on or contact a woman. Later, if she responds he might read her profile.

Women will read first, then decide if they want to contact you. Something like that. I confess, all I think I know about women probably wouldn't fill a thimble so who am I to say???))))

[XMan]

Men and women are different creatures....does that come as a surprise to anyone???

Men look at the first few photos and move on or contact a woman. Later, if she responds he might read her profile.

Women will read first, then decide if they want to contact you. Something like that. I confess, all I think I know about women probably wouldn't fill a thimble so who am I to say???))))

I don't know that those generalizations are entirely accurate.  I think women are just as likely to see a photo and say,"no, he's bald" (or something equivalent) and onto the next.  I think some guys do actually read the profile.  I've seen some very attractive women and written them off after reading the profile because High Maintenance was obvious. 

[Misha]

Women will read first, then decide if they want to contact you.

Others will simply look at your photo, check a few photos and ask question later if they have questions 

[Jooky]

Others will simply look at your photo, check a few photos and ask question later if they have questions

Agree with you and XMan. I've seen women in action browsing sites and they don't bother reading unless the photo appeals to them. Photos first always.

I had the most success on Russian dating sites with the basics in my profile and a few photos. My intro was a one liner with a 'let's talk' at the end. Women approaching me would also just start off with 'davai poznokomitsya' (sp?). 'Let's introduce each other'. Good 'nuff for me. 

[JR]

You guys are soooo easy ))))

[GQBlues]

What does it mean?

It means that such openly exist in cross-cultural interactions. What was otherwise a well-meaning, rather benign idelogy in your profile stood a very good possibility to be taken out of context.

Good thing you're not married to her.....yet.

[Misha]

You guys are soooo easy ))))

Why?

[JR]

Why?

Because you declare invalid one vague generality then replace it with another one with equal vagueness and validity.

Yes some women look only at photos first. We all look at photos first. Why? Because the search engines on dating sites don't have a feature to remove all photos and present only text. At least I have never seen one, has anyone? Every one that I have seen has the option to search "with photos only" but never have I seen "without photos only."

And some women look "only" at income levels. Others may "look" only at location. And on and on and on. Generally speaking a woman will read your profile before she contacts you. And generally speaking men don't. It's just a general statement with lots of wiggle room for individuality.

If some people find no need for lengthy profiles there will be others who are impressed by it.

After ten plus years of marriage to a RW I found that a lot of things can be taken out of context. Much of that has to do with mood and mental disposition.

The intend of this thread was to ask native Russian speakers their take on something I included in my profile. I believe that has been taken care of by the replacement of that text with an edited version of the original English one. Shosty came closest in his expression of understanding what I wrote. I believe there are women who can do so too.

Communication is important to me and I tried to express that. Not everyone will understand. Some have married women they can't even relate the desire to have a cup of coffee with. I don't get that, yet some have succeeded, at least so far. More power to them. It's just not my way...been there, done that. My ex-wife had very limited ability to speak English when we met. Along the way it caused more difficulties than I care to repeat. So I guess my profile is the result of some lessons learned.

[mies]

Мне кажется, что общение - это тот "клей", который держит двух людей вместе. Важность этого нельзя недооценивать. Ибо что у нас есть, если мы не можем передать друг другу наши мысли? Передать все, что мы чувствуем, думаем, в чем мы нуждаемся и хотим, а чего не переносим? Кажется, без всего этого отношения просто уменьшаются до основных инстинктов.. для меня - это просто тело для секса, а я для тебя - очередная зарплата. Разве это не так? Эти мысли заставляют меня надеяться, что ты достаточно хорошо владеешь английским, чтобы ты могла выразить то, что твое сердце желает мне передать.  
Я бы с удовольствием занялся изучением русского языка, но это в будущем, и, может быть, ты будешь именно тем человеком, который поделится со мной чудесами этого богатого языка...

I like this text. It sounds beautiful in Russian, and it is very appealing. Honestly. Do not remove it from your profile.

[Misha]

Generally speaking a woman will read your profile before she contacts you. And generally speaking men don't. It's just a general statement with lots of wiggle room for individuality. 

My wife only read my full profile after we had talked on the phone and set a first date. Then, it dawned on her that I was a foreigner 

[JR]

My wife only read my full profile after we had talked on the phone and set a first date. Then, it dawned on her that I was a foreigner 

LOL, one of the biggest mistakes here is the belief that only one way works or is the best. Different approaches work for different personalities. Heck even HRB works once in awhile, but i would never reccommend it.

[tfcrew]

I do not recommend using electronic translators.
To Cyrillic languages and German especially.
Also.. they cost $$.
Just write in English.
It will get translated correctly.