i am confused, Needed help from readers

[sashi]

As mentioned,
i am well educated, working in Huge company with decent salary, Average looking, Fair color skin, with 5'10" height.
i happen to see and talk to a beautiful looking russian women at the work place.

i very much like her, but i am confused if this women likes Indian (Asian) origin guy.

Need some facts about russian women feelings on indian men.

Thanks in advance for all replies.

[Boethius]

I think it's a personal decision, sashi.  I know a few UW married to Indian men who are happy.

[acctBill]

If you and she were in Moscow the answer would probably be no but in the USA the answer could be anything.  You don't mention how long she has been in the USA and if she arrived as a child. 

[viking]

Keep talking to her. Ask her out. If she says no then that's it. But not because she is Russian and you are Indian. It may be she does not see you as a future partner. On the other hand, if she enjoys your company then go for it. I sense you need some self confidence here.

[Al_C]

I have found that RW do not think in terms of white/black/Latino/Asia etc.  They see people, not the person's race.

A man will stand or fall with her based on who the man is, not what he is.  Beyond that, different women like different things.  Some women like money, some like a man with status, yet others look for the man inside and are not affected by how much money he has.

So by all means, play this script out and see where it goes.  Just remember that you are a man to her, not an Asian man.

[GQBlues]

i happen to see and talk to a beautiful looking russian women at the work place.

i very much like her, but i am confused if this women likes Indian (Asian) origin guy.

Learn to fall out of like from her first. Right now she means nothing to you, and you to her. She's got you controlled and confused you don't even know if she'll even go out with you.

Besides, it has nothing to do with whether she likes Indian men or not. What's significant if she likes YOU enough to go out with you, and you won't know unless you ask. Ask her, not nameless / faceless folks in the internet you don't know.

Make a promise to yourself from now on that every time you see and talk to a beautiful looking woman, ask her out. Start with this woman. Eventually, if nothing else, you'll get so accustomed to asking beautiful women that soon it'll be like riding a bike for you. Trust me, it gets easier.

LOL, I can't believe you even made a poll. TFF ! Happy New Year!

[Gator]

Sashi,

I offer a variant of GQ's advice (by the way, HE IS THE MAN).

What do the two of talk about?  Do you make her smile? 

If she isn't smiling, save your breath now.  If she smiles, just ask her to share a few minutes at Starbucks (or equivalent) after work.  Something harmless. 

Do you date American women?  If so, there is not a huge difference between them and a RW who has been working here for a while.

If you are inexperienced with women, be completely honest and tell her the truth.  This should disarm her, and if she likes you, she will take you under her wing and teach you.  Let her teach you.  Relax.  Teach her some yoga (RW chicks like yoga).

[dbneeley]

I have found that RW do not think in terms of white/black/Latino/Asia etc.  They see people, not the person's race.

Thanks--I needed a good belly laugh for the day.

Just like in the West, some in the FSU are not concerned with race, while some are overtly racist--and I believe a higher percentage are either racist or willing to express their beliefs openly in the FSU than in the U.S., for example. At least that has been my experience in Ukraine, and the reported experience of many folks in the various other FSU countries.

To give just one minor example--a common Russian term for Chechens is "chorniy zhopa" ("black ass").

David

[Nat]

Just like in the West, some in the FSU are not concerned with race, while some are overtly racist--and I believe a higher percentage are either racist or willing to express their beliefs openly in the FSU than in the U.S., for example. At least that has been my experience in Ukraine, and the reported experience of many folks in the various other FSU countries.

It's true, race does matter for many people here. But I think with sashi's case it depends on the girl. People who have moved abroad are usually more open-minded, and it seems to me that he absolutely has chances with this girl.

[dbneeley]

It's true, race does matter for many people here. But I think with sashi's case it depends on the girl. People who have moved abroad are usually more open-minded, and it seems to me that he absolutely has chances with this girl.

With this I quite agree--that she continues to chat amiably with him seems to me she could in fact be interested or perhaps develop such an interest. The usual signs of body language certainly might be one indication. At a minimum, the involuntary widening of the irises of the eyes when seeing something interesting in a positive way would be one such signal--as would sustained eye contact when conversing.

The primary thing is to learn to simply proceed without making assumptions that could well prove unwarranted.

When I was in school--perhaps my ninth year--I had quite a crush on a particular young lady but where she was concerned I never expressed my interest. About four or five years later, I ran into that young lady's best friend at a university bookstore a few hundred kilometers away where I was attending university. We chatted amiably, and she told me that she and that particular girlfriend especially had always wondered why I never made any attempt to get to know them better. Such is life--the old adage can be quite true that you gain nothing if you venture nothing.

David

[ECOCKS]

My wife has a friend who married an Indian gentleman and seems very happy after nearly three years.

If you are using real pics on your profile, bring reasonable expectations to the process, have your sincerity/integrity radar turned on and spend time building a real relationship you can be successful. If you are hoping for a quick, effortless relationship resulting in a trophy wife, then best to forget it. Just be thick-skinned and don't waste your time trying to argue with someone who hesitates or outright rejects your advances based upon your ethnicity. It's a losing battle and not what you came for anyway.