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Why return our "Ex"?

because bored and want to probe the "soil"
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just so
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try to return everything back
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to make angry, or to spoil the mood
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Your answer
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Author Topic: Men are from Mars, women from Venus.Society for those who want to understand  (Read 55087 times)

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I feel it is never a good idea to returen to an "ex- girlfriend"   ex- romantic interest ,for any reason.

remain friends - yes.

rekindle a relationship - no.


My belief is there was always a sound reason (either their reasons, or mine, or mutual)  that we are were not  together at this moment,
so there is no need to revisit those reasons.

My grandfather used to tell me a lot of funny little sayings.
One was regarding  the recycling of old *flames*

He  said it was like a man (or woman) tasting the milk from the refrigerator and finding it bad (sour)  and naturally throwing it away.
Yet coming back the next day to take it from the trash can, and taste it to be sure it was still sour.


« Last Edit: March 13, 2011, 02:02:57 PM by AJ »
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Like a dog returning to it's vomit we forget what made us sick in the first place....

It has been said that the devil's job is to make us unhappy with our current situation. Hence, when we "have" we are unhappy with what we have. When we "have not" we are unhappy with not having. Most people never learn that love and happiness begins from within.

Fearful loneliness causes many people to return to what is familiar. They are not brave enough to face the uncertain or lack the skills to create a new, different path through the forest.
« Last Edit: March 13, 2011, 02:56:51 PM by JR »
Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else :)

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I agree with your opinions on that that it is not necessary to go in the same river twice. Our reason does not allow to us to release a situation and to give chance to be happy and free in new potential relations. The mind needs clarity, the mind wants to know that this may be not the end, and something can be returned . As if from it something will change. If love died we  can not to revive with numerous convulsive attempts of returning. It is possible to reanimate only a bit cooled down love. Provided that BOTH have taken lessons and are ready to go on compromises and began to respect each other more.
Sometimes it is necessary to fall on the bottom in the falling to appreciate in the future that that you you have, and to enjoy to the full happiness and quiet relations. Sometimes happens also such. But much do not have not enough strength of mind to get out of mental dung....
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I always wondered what drives the former man when he has once again declares himself an unexpected phone call or letter after a few months tishiny.It is new kind of entertainment or is it an attempt to see if you can try again to start a relationship or is it banal boredom because Spring, suitable new girlfriend does not and here such as the former was excellent, and why would not you call, suddenly perepadet romantic dinner with candlelight and a great night? I was always funny ... Do men think that girl is so mired in an unhappy love and self-pity that will for the universal happiness of the return of "prodigal protagonist?


Dang! I normally don't open the forum on weekends and I see I missed a good dialogue.

Sia, I'll try to answer some of your stuff as I read down. This one first.

My not so humble opinion. The man really don't care about this relationship and he is:
1) bored
2) drunk
3) both

I'm almost convinced that the woman, deep down, knows this but will deny it. Sort of giving him a second chance.

Only on very rare occasions he will realize the mistake and will try to come back and it is HER who turns him down. The only time it works out is in a Hollywood movie.
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The remaining arguments on the subject that this law of life when the ill person must meet a good woman, and vice versa, I think is not quite correct. Most likely this happens because the "good" partner in a pair of unconsciously assumes the role of victim, and deliberately humiliating searches, and no reason to demonstrate their sacrifice. Like "look at all, it's bad, but I-well, here it hurts me but I am proud banner self-sacrifice .Pity  me!"
Bull*snip*!
It is a perversion and a game in Bondage
or am I wrong?


If you are refering to women going after the "bad boy" syndrome, unfortunately I have to say yes. It also happens on the inverse and with an alarming frequency.
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EXs may come with visits because

1.Although you are not intimate partners anymore, you can still have satisfying conversation. You know how affect each other, therefore, you can give each other support or encouragement and do it effectively.

This is so rare and so far in between.


2.Decay of memories over time, as Steamer has mentioned, is also a valid reason in my opinion. As people forget the good and bad times that are related to their EXs, their curiosity may make them willing to get “updates”.

Me thinks that those involved choose to "forget" the bad hoping for the good.


In general, I believe reasons for return vary depending on what type of relationship you had and on individualities of people involved.  For example, if you were a loving giver and your ex was a seemingly selfish taker, he can return to you from time to time to heal his pride in your love after he was rejected by someone. Or he can return to you temporarily until someone more appealing appears on his horizons.

Yep. Right on the money.
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do not even know what to say, the witches in Russia can be different.Which do u prefer more? Hmm, whose devilish twinkle in her eyes, and damn good looks and sharp wit?

Uh huh, Uh huh. (Da Da)
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A man can be satisfied by an one woman, but he can not do it at the first attempt

What is it, perfect woman for you?

She has to be a challenge. She has to be beautiful. She has to be smart AND intelligent. She has to have ambition. She has to be MY equal. She knows I'm her man.
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Where are all the other jokers who frequent this site?  Time to take over and entertain Sia.

They are still here, but did not go....  goo-goo---- gaa-gaa.... over a picture they saw in profile who happened to be a woman unlike one particular member.

Its so obvious :rolleyes2:

Quote from: Simoni on Today at 09:06:15 AM
But my understanding is that "Anything Goes" does not really mean "anything" if that "anything" violates the TOS.

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knows I'm her man.

Maybe U have younger brother who thinking in the same way? 8)
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Maybe U have younger brother who thinking in the same way? 8)

LOL, still too old for you. However, IF I ever see someone like that, I'll make sure you'll be mentioned.  8)
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Agreed! I've had dinner !))))
and intimate conversation in a pleasant company of educated funny friends
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They are still here, but did not go....  goo-goo---- gaa-gaa.... over a picture they saw in profile who happened to be a woman unlike one particular member.

Its so obvious :rolleyes2:



Is he supposed to go goo goo gaa gaa over you? ;)
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Is he supposed to go goo goo gaa gaa over you? ;)

RWD Commandment # 6  Dont fall in love with photos... IE. avatars :ROFL:
Quote from: Simoni on Today at 09:06:15 AM
But my understanding is that "Anything Goes" does not really mean "anything" if that "anything" violates the TOS.

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For the record, I voted 'Your Answer' on the poll.
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RWD Commandment # 6  Dont fall in love with photos... IE. avatars :ROFL:

I thought is was your personality he was after.....)))
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Happiness does not come - from happiness are born, as with the nose or legs, ass and everything else, or you're born with it or not

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Quote from: Simoni on Today at 09:06:15 AM
But my understanding is that "Anything Goes" does not really mean "anything" if that "anything" violates the TOS.

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What are you waiting on!!! JR?

I think he dont like my skin))))it s not blue and im not from Pandora,and from blue have only dress

 hehe

http://img88.imageshack.us/img88/8641/p1060088.jpg
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[youtube=425,350]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lQd8Plbvzpg[/youtube]

I mean she is.

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[youtube=425,350]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5YXVMCHG-Nk&feature=mr_meh&list=PL3DCA1B6AE7A18DB6&index=12&playnext=0[/youtube]


Afternoon Dear "S" ,what do u think about this vocal???
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Women ... They always love and other feelings of the main argument of reason! In this and the higher their wisdom, and supreme idiocy, depending on how strong a man gets in their way.

And now text pls little secret about you,guys.PLEASE!
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Women ... They always love and other feelings of the main argument of reason! In this and the higher their wisdom, and supreme idiocy, depending on how strong a man gets in their way.

And now text pls little secret about you,guys.PLEASE!

"Man's love to woman and woman's love to man, ah that it were sympathy in suffering and veiled deities, but, generally, two animals alight"  Guess who

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Sia, just for you. Let me know if you need translation.

Edit: Oops, Technical difficulties. Trying to embed a youtube.

A little help. I clicked on the youtube icon and then pasted the embbeded code in between. Is this wrong?
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"Man's love to woman and woman's love to man, ah that it were sympathy in suffering and veiled deities, but, generally, two animals alight"  Guess who

Zigmund ,sweetheart.,this is you again??:)
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