Are you RW happy to come to a "third world" country? Share your story!

[jeancarlos_fer]

Dear fellow members,
I have noticed that the vast majority of men in the forum live in a developed country (regardless of ethnic background, immigration status, etc).
I'm just curious about what are the chances that a good looking RW would trade having a nice family with a nice guy in a comfortable financial position but living in a less developed country?
If you live in Buenos Aires, Bogota, Cancun, etc and want to share your story (short or long, happy or sad) please feel welcome to do it 

My story? I currently live in Mexico and from 3 RW I have met only one seriously considered to move here without hesitation.

Cheers,
Jean

[ECOCKS]

If it's real love and a true relationship why wouldn't she follow you to a hut in the Serenghetti (sp?) or a research station in Antarctica?

Of course, finding someone whose goals and aspirations run parallel to yours is a big part of finding the right partner. If you are building a strong relationship surely you are being clear with your description of the life your wife can expect.

I know a few gals who dated Mexican citizens and one that was hoping to be asked to marry to move there. Doesn't seem like it would be a big deal to me unless they were expecting Beverly Hills or the Riviera on the front end.

[Boethius]

There was a RW here who raved about Mexico, and I believe she would've considered moving there.

[wicheese]

A previous RW girlfriend of mine had a friend who married a Mexican man and they live in Mexico, so it's possible.   I know another RW who took a teaching job in Mexico about the time the drug war really started blowing up, she was somewhat unhappy with the experience.  So in other words, it'll depend on the lady, but if you are educated and have a upper middle class lifestyle, you should have no problem finding a nice lady in the FSU (start by explaining to her that you can afford to have several maids in your home  ). 

[GQBlues]

A previous RW girlfriend of mine had a friend who married a Mexican man and they live in Mexico, so it's possible....

I knew a guy who lived in Tijuana (though worked in San Diego) was in the midst of his K-1 at the time. Anecdotal I know and likely won't paint a full picture for you regarding generalities, but no matter....
 
Besides, my wife married me and I live in the heart of Los Angeles. You can't possibly get any worst than that, man.

[I/O]

If it's real love and a true relationship why wouldn't she follow you to a hut in the Serenghetti (sp?) or a research station in Antarctica?

Because, whether we accept it or not, there is an element of a deal in every marriage, particularly international marriages. Very few women will trade down long term regardless of how much they love someone.
 
Ed, whilst there was a time I would've thought similarly, I've concluded over the years this thinking is idealistic nonsense for the most part. Of the marriages I've seen withstand a downtrade in living conditions or location over the years, very few I might add, most have involved suppression or religious suppression of the women involved to some extent.
 
Regarding Mexico, I suspect mainly ignorance would create resistance. My experience with Mexico over the years has been very positive and although I have noticed (obviously) some poor areas, the places I've spent time could hardly be considered 3rd world. 

[jeancarlos_fer]

I knew a guy who lived in Tijuana (though worked in San Diego) was in the midst of his K-1 at the time. Anecdotal I know and likely won't paint a full picture for you regarding generalities, but no matter....
 
Besides, my wife married me and I live in the heart of Los Angeles. You can't possibly get any worst than that, man.

That's a good one LOL 
My interest is not only about Mexico but any third country... I' sure there are interesting stories out there about RW adjusting their live somewhere in South America, Caribbean or Africa.

[ECOCKS]

Because, whether we accept it or not, there is an element of a deal in every marriage, particularly international marriages. Very few women will trade down long term regardless of how much they love someone.
 
Ed, whilst there was a time I would've thought similarly, I've concluded over the years this thinking is idealistic nonsense for the most part. Of the marriages I've seen withstand a downtrade in living conditions or location over the years, very few I might add, most have involved suppression or religious suppression of the women involved to some extent.
 
Regarding Mexico, I suspect mainly ignorance would create resistance. My experience with Mexico over the years has been very positive and although I have noticed (obviously) some poor areas, the places I've spent time could hardly be considered 3rd world.

Silly, idealistic me.

[GQBlues]

Well, the truth of the matter is, like what I/O alluded to upthread, I reckon any aversion is keyed by none other than ignorance. We're happy living in our jungle as it is but make no mistake about it, there isn't many places in So. America I won't move to (if I had to move) as I believe the area is rather pristine in more ways than one...But take that from someone who spent most of his adult life in the lower left coast.
 
Maybe, emphasize on the word 'maybe', many FSUW will likely envision places in SA as 'villages'...my wife thought as much of Sta Barbara the first few times she visited the place. Many FSUWs see villages as a negative..
 

[Steamer]

I'm just curious about what are the chances that a good looking RW would trade having a nice family with a nice guy in a comfortable financial position but living in a less developed country?

What I've noticed about Russian women is that it's not so much about where you live as it's about where you are in your society. If she stands in front of your house and looks up and down the street will she feel on a par with everyone? Below? Above? Is she stepping down or up? This stuff matters a lot to R/U women.

[Maxx2]

I've connected with some Russians in Ecuador


http://www.russianecuador.com/

[mies]

That's a good one LOL 
My interest is not only about Mexico but any third country... I' sure there are interesting stories out there about RW adjusting their live somewhere in South America, Caribbean or Africa.

There were many Ukrainian and Polish immigrants to Mexico, Argentina, and Brazil in the beginning of XX century. You probably can find their decedents locally.
I will not necessarily call Mexico or Brazil third world countries, especially if you look at their economic growth rates in the most recent decade.
A family friend of my parents relocated to live to Argentina and is extremely happy there. She first moved there for job, and then her Ukrainian husband and their children joined her there. I also saw a documentary about Russian community in Columbia. I think you need to target either very educated and well-traveled person, or a very down-to-earth self-made businesswoman type of person. Either way they will be happy living in any country if they can have decent lifestyle there. If you pick an average "university graduate economist" russian-ukrainian whose ultimate life goal is "USA!" or "I want to live in Paris" - probably she won't be too eager to speak with you and will treat you the way typical racist treats a person of color (no matter whether you are non-Caucasian or are 100% Caucasian).

[Gator]

Jean Carlos,
 
I traveled through Mexico wih one RW and she loved it.  She would have preferred Mexico over the USA as a place to live forever. 

[Aloe]

I wanna live in Thailanddddddd.

Steamer is spot on though. Love is the most important of course. But when you just initiate contact with someone, they don't love you then. You have to be attractive enough for them to give you a chance and possibly fall in love with you later. And i'm talking the full package attractive, not the appearance. So yes, where are you in your society? I think the bare minimum is provide a similar lifestyle as the lady has at home.
And by the way, unless they are kinda naive or have done it all before, nobody will drop everything and move to any country without hesitation, no matter if it's monaco, mexico or bangladesh. Hesitation is very normal before such a major life change, especially for those who have never done it before.

[Faux Pas]

Jean Carlos,
 
I traveled through Mexico wih one RW and she loved it.  She would have preferred Mexico over the USA as a place to live forever.

Do "you" really think she would have preferred to live in Mexico once the vacation was over? My wife and I have traveled to a couple of tropical paradises and she has made the same sort of remarks. However, I'm relatively sure once the novelty was gone she wouldn't have the same opinion

[jeancarlos_fer]

I think you need to target either very educated and well-traveled person, or a very down-to-earth self-made businesswoman type of person. Either way they will be happy living in any country if they can have decent lifestyle there. If you pick an average "university graduate economist" russian-ukrainian whose ultimate life goal is "USA!" or "I want to live in Paris" - probably she won't be too eager to speak with you and will treat you the way typical racist treats a person of color (no matter whether you are non-Caucasian or are 100% Caucasian).

Very interesting observation. I have found this remarks particularly true in my personal experience. I would add the age factor: If the lady is older than 35 she most likely will fit the first group description. If she is younger than 27 she will probably fall in the second category. From 28 to 34 I would say chances are 50/50.