Dating Globally, Real Life Story

[bleau]

Can anyone relate to this story?

http://www.yolkstar.com/blog/2011/02/dating-globally-real-life-story/

[ML]

Sounds pretty much like dozens of stories  we read here regularly when men work through an agency.

[Faux Pas]

Par for the course so very often. More often than not, many of these guys are just so happy for the attention they fail to see the forest for the trees. 

[viking]

You should hear the stories I hear regarding Filipino women. Same stuff, different station...but the age differences are huge ( I mean normal is like 25-30 years) or both are so young ( students in school with no money) that it boggles my mind on just how men..and women ( many AW finding love in other countries as well) can be this stupid?

[bleau]

You should hear the stories I hear regarding Filipino women. Same stuff, different station...but the age differences are huge ( I mean normal is like 25-30 years) or both are so young ( students in school with no money) that it boggles my mind on just how men..and women ( many AW finding love in other countries as well) can be this stupid?

I know this situation personally.  I know a guy that married a Filipino girl much younger than he was. Soon after she got here on the K1 they got married....then comes mom and dad, sister and brother, grand parents all depending on him to provide for them and his wife expected this but never mentioned it to him until after they were married. I heard he had divorced her and things were not good for him.

I know of an AW that lives in our community met a guy from Morocco online. Went to see him and was treated like a member of the family when she was there. She was a college student and wanted to do the K1 on him, Parents said noooo way so she got a friend to be the sponsor. She filed for the K1 and it was denied at his interview because of not enough proof of an ongoing serious relationship and...she found out later she was the 3rd girl that had tried to do a K1 on him.

some interesting reading is on the Visa Journey site of failed relationships after the girl was here, usually from the Asian countries.

[Muzh]

Can anyone relate to this story?

http://www.yolkstar.com/blog/2011/02/dating-globally-real-life-story/

That story could have happpened (or already happened) to many on these forums.
 
Interesting blog though.

[Vincenzo]

If you use an agency, you should meet many women.

If you don't use an agency, you can meet many women virtually via Skype before traveling thousands miles.

[viking]

Bleau


I have been on VJ for some time. The stories are really sad. I cannot believe how many very young ( say late teens to early twenties) are finding their "true love" in the Asian countries but do not have enough money to pay for the visa. Yet they expect to get married and have a family. Not to mention not a clue on how this whole process even works! Do you read some of the questions these people ask?

[bleau]

I don't exactly remember when I discovered VJ but it was a long time ago. I was more interested in adoption from the FSU so it had to be around 2000 or a little later maybe. I was also writing a lady in Russia, had met her in person and we become close friends and no more. I had also been lurking on another forum and getting a lot of valuable info on the visa process to bring a FSU lady to America and marry her....that's when I think VJ came into play.

I remember reading on VJ, as you stated in your post, about the kids finding their love in the Asian countries, not having any money, how can I do the K1 I'm still a college student, etc. Then I would read the stories about the ones that had their love here and the nitemare they were living.  Course that could also be from any country other than Asian but those were the ones that seemed to be dominating VJ. Every once in a while there would be a few post about the FSU relationships.
It seemed there were more young kids on VJ than sure enough adults and it still seems to be the same way now.
I agree, it's really sad to read the stories and they don't take the time to research this foreign bride different culture thing and the cost involved.

I've been to the FSU, I've been engaged to a lady in Russia and now one in Ukraine that is a total 360 from the other relationship. I've got a lot of experience doing this, a lot of wear and tear on my butt making trips over there, and many thousands of dollars invested in this pursuit for a Russian bride. When I filed for Svetlana's K1 my wallet pinched me on the butt again and still have loads of more money to spend to get her here.

Personally I think there should be a reality check for anyone seeking their foreign bride. Experience is the best teacher in life or it has been for me. I remember how it was when we brought our Masha home with us and how it changed all of our lives, the sacrifices and changes we had to make to be all together as one on the same wave length, and we could not send her back to her country if we had failures like on the K1 or in a marriage.

My family has made the sacrifice and is pulling together again to make sure Svetlana has an easy transition to her new life here. Those kids we read about on VJ seem to have no clue as to what they're getting into and are falling flat on their faces...they're calling themselves to deeply in love to take that reality check and see that it's not that bed of roses they think it is.