Help! i'm addicted

[Muzh]

and please take responsibility for your decision

One would only hope.

[JR]

Thanks for the support Patagonie!

Since I made the decision to go forward with the relationship I have felt a big weight lifted from my shoulders.
I'm putting the doubt behind me and devoting my energy to making the best of it.

I'm going over for 18 days starting on January 9.

bout time....

[Kuna]

I came to this thread late but it looks like it's heading in the right direction.

Sounds like the OP has some thinking to do and definitely some more talking to do with his lady - I hope it all works out for them both.


James,

I didn't see this question come up earlier but - does your lady have children???  Does she want children???  Have you discussed this with her?

At 32, if she has no children, you might find her body-clock is whirring.  It's definitely an important topic to discuss.

Kuna



Kuna

[mies]

Mies! ..
Yes time lapse..
 I do want to clear up,

thank you for clarifying, and for the video! always amazing to see a person going beyond the limits of possible.


Jack, I had a thought, and maybe this thought will give you some peace of mind. How long have this woman been single? Does she have children? Does she want children?

You seem to be very concerned that you will not be able to satisfy her growing sexual appetite. And the thing is - you do not know if this appetite is going to be big or not. When you read women's forums (specifically women seeking foreign men to marry) - there are women for whom sex is very important and they say "I cannot imagine marrying anyone older than 5y than me, I need good sex", and there are other women who say "I never understood why so much hype about sex, it's kind of OK but nothing special. I like having it when it happens, but I'm OK without it. We never had any special sexual sparkle with my husband but we worked on technique and it is quite enjoyable now." Or even the most extreme cases when a woman says "I do not care about sex and never did. i don't like sex but I can give sex to my husband if he will take good care about me and will want sex."

People are creatures of habit. You can make reasonably good predictions by studying and understanding the past and habits of this woman. If she didn't have multiple partners by the age of 32, it isn't likely she will start looking for multiple random hookups after she will get 40yo. If she didn't have any partner for the last X years, maybe sex isn't that important for her, and possibly - never will be. On the other hand, if she wants to have children - you must be able to give her that if you plan to be with her.

I am not saying that if this woman dislikes sex this guarantees that this woman will never leave you. There could be other factors. But maybe your greatest concern isn't a concern at all in this specific case.

[ML]

there are women for whom sex is very important and they say "I cannot imagine marrying anyone older than 5y than me, I need good sex",

But any given much older man might give a woman better sex than a much younger man.

However, of course in general, the odds are the much younger man will provide more years.

Older men are generally much more interested in giving pleasure to the woman . . . but I am not sure when the 'transformation age' is in general.

[ML]

If she didn't have any partner for the last X years, maybe sex isn't that important for her, and possibly - never will be.

Again, probably quite true in general.

I have however, encountered some amazing 'turn-around' situations with a couple of women.

[mies]

But any given much older man can give a woman better sex than a much younger man.

However, of course in general, the odds are the much younger man will provide more years.

I am not commenting on the abilities of men, I am only quoting women who post at other forums 

[ML]

I am not commenting on the abilities of men, I am only quoting women who post at other forums 

Yes, I fully understood.

I am just adding my thoughts.   

[JamesDH]

bout time....

Thanks for the support JR

James,

I didn't see this question come up earlier but - does your lady have children???  Does she want children???  Have you discussed this with her?

At 32, if she has no children, you might find her body-clock is whirring.  It's definitely an important topic to discuss.

Kuna

Children have been our most talked about topic. If i had my way I would have 4 or 5 of them. I think man is on this earth to have a family. Someone to protect and provide for. I love children and so does she. She said it is one of the main reasons why she is attracted to me.
Her words to me about children..

know the main thing that needed to be married to the person to whom you wish to have your children look like I would like my children to be like you.

We've settled on 2.


Sex.. Here your damned if you talk about it and damned if you don't.

Facts... I considered my self a good lover. I'm aware of my partner and have always been very sensual. I love foreplay and that has made many points with my partners in the past.
Problem... My testosterone levels dropped to the point where I was not interested in sex and even to the point where I had ED. After I returned from my last trip to visit her I started investigating natural supplements to increase my natural Test production. Over the past few years I've started exercising regularly as in 5 or 6 days a week. I've come to like weight lifting and have taken up bodybuilding. Reading some of the forums I stumbled across a man who is 69 years old and looks fantastic. I've had multiple discussions with him and he has turned me on to his secrets. The last three weeks of November I tried his secret "test boost" formula and all I can say is WOW. My whole life changed.
I felt like a teenager again in all departments. All the symptoms of low test were gone. Crazy libido, brain fog gone, memory improved, energy improved, "give a chit" factor improved, mood drastically improved, reflexes improved. Sleep improved. All because my test levels went up. (read about the effects of low test and you will be surprised). The kicker is that the combination is all natural and relatively cheap and you can take it for the rest of your life without any side effects. Not to mention that it's great for your prostate health!
Ok enough ranting about testosterone.. The experience of the past month has put my mind at ease about satisfying her sexually into my 60's anyway.
To answer Mies.. I have not had the impression that she is that sexually hungry and I've been with some sexually hungry Ukraine women (Oh the memories)
As I mentioned, I'll be going over for 18 days and armed with my new secret recipe I'll get a better idea of her appetite. Now you know all my secrets.

Let's face it people. Sex is very important. It's one of the main glues that bind relationships. Don't be afraid to talk about it and don't go putting me down for talking about it or being worried about it.

The rest of our relationship is great. We talk freely, we communicate well, we don't have cross words, we have very similar beliefs and interests, We have discussed the future in all aspects.. where to live, kids, jobs, duties, friends and much more. I feel so comfortable being with her.. like we're on the same wave length if you know what I mean. Nothing fake, nothing forced.. just relaxed, calm and very enjoyable. She's definitely not high maintenance.

I quit posting here after my second or third trip but I've been over more than 12 times and probably been out with more than 30 girls. Some more than once. I've been to other countries with them(Egypt, Turkey, Dubai), brought some to the states for visits.  I have seen the tricks, I've felt the fake sincerity, I've witnessed the "Gimme" girls, I've even had the fake crying.  I am not a novice at the game and I've never been scammed by a girl. Now the man at the Kiev airport got me good once but that's for another post.

We were on the phone for almost an hour last night. She is the best and I am very happy with my decision and I can't wait to be near her again.

Edited to change funky formatting.

[mies]

Again, probably quite true in general.

I have however, encountered some amazing 'turn-around' situations with a couple of women.

agree. Turn-arounds are possible. My observation of several long-term female acquaintances: those who are very sexually active - remain that way the whole time since we met. Those who aren't that much into sex or have their personal hangups - weren't very active in their early 20s, and aren't very active in their late 30s.

[alex330]

 The last three weeks of November I tried his secret "test boost" formula and all I can say is WOW. My whole life changed.

You can't leave us gym rats hanging without disclosing the secret formula....

Congrats on what seems a nice woman.

[Gator]

We were on the phone for almost an hour last night. She is the best and I am very happy with my decision and I can't wait to be near her again.

Fantastic. 




It is wonderful when after a long string of many women there is one who stands out from the rest.  Remarkably different and better in so many ways.  Yes, James, you must spend time with her.  And maybe one day you will shudder thinking about how you almost let her slip away.

[JR]

"The rest of our relationship is great. We talk freely, we communicate well, we don't have cross words, we have very similar beliefs and interests, We have discussed the future in all aspects.. where to live, kids, jobs, duties, friends and much more. I feel so comfortable being with her.. like we're on the same wave length if you know what I mean. Nothing fake, nothing forced.. just relaxed, calm and very enjoyable. She's definitely not high maintenance."
I am just glad that you are finally thru with the petty age thing: it's a risk modifier and nothing more. You guys click and you're not wearing blinders. Life is short, when you find someone worth being with you need to grab them and not let go, Hope you guys find nothing but happiness!!!