Could this friend have a crush on me

[ghost of moon goddess]

 

My friend says she like me and I say no she does not but then sometimes I think she do. However, I don't think she does. Now the question you guys are wondering about is what I think of her. If it turns out that she does have something for me, then I wouldn't mind giving her a chance to see....

Is it just my Russian native ear  , or does it sound odd to native English speakers as well ?
 
Looking forward to hear from you, Lakecreek 

[SANDRO43]

or does it sound odd to native English speakers as well ?

He seems to be virgin in his grammar, too . 

[Fashionista]

I'm Asian American myself.

And I was sure you are from Norway 

[Muzh]

I always said "never send a boy to do a man's work."

[lakecreek]

Is it just my Russian native ear  , or does it sound odd to native English speakers as well ?
 
Looking forward to hear from you, Lakecreek 

Basically, what I'm saying is my friend suspect she likes me which I don't fully believe. However, I sometimes think my friend could be right. On the other hand, I still believe that she does not. I don't believe she would have any interest in me if she already has a girlfriend (she mention randomly) and her Facebook status confirms it. Meanwhile, I still do have a slight interest in this Chinese woman who I had went out with a couple of times last year, nothing serious between us.

This Russian woman, who is my friend, we have some common interest compared to the Asian woman I went with couple times. This is what makes mind open to a possibility of dating her but as I said hearing her bring up girlfriend a couple times and seeing in a relationship status on her Facebook reluctant me for possibility of bringing this friendship up another level.

I don't want to make a fool of myself to find out I'm wrong and jeopardize our friendship.

[Daveman]

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I don't want to make a fool of myself to find out I'm wrong and jeopardize our friendship.

Man.. just plain screw that nonsense..  if you like her then GO for it.  You are far, far, far, far, far too concerned about what SHE thinks.. what do YOU want?  do YOU like HER?  if so, you risk one brief moment of feeling silly as opposed to kickin' yourself for much longer for doing nothing...


Everything in life is a risk.. there are zero guarantees other than this.. if you don't DO something, you will never get an answer.

[GQBlues]

I'm going go see her this weekend and spending the night was me and her idea. Maybe I will take her to this Russian restaurant I know maybe she show me a dish or two. Some of the replies is really suggesting me to get it on with her, I'm sexually inexperience. She is good looking no doubt I find her attractive but I do have wait when she is ready if it goes that direction. Then if it does happen then I will have to tell her I'm a virgin because "the i dont know what I'm doing" will show. Secondly, I'm sure I won't last long either, probably finish in 60 seconds. But for now I will see and take her out to eat and do something fun.

Lakecreek-       
 
I wouldn't do it in your situation if I were you, man. Don't listen to any of these guys. I read somewhere that men in the exact same situation as you had suffered incredible embarrassment. The report termed this the B-B Syndrome. Blue Ball. That's just nasty stuff, dude. Notably prevalent with Asian men, too. The symptom is just not something you'd ever want to mess with.
 
Premature ejaculation is something that should not be messed with. It should be taken very seriously. It's a mess, according to the report. One of which the women apparently can't help themselves but to tell their friends the following morning. Next thing you know, it's all over the internet and you don't want that. Do you...?
 
Anyway, the report stated that the best way to avoid such a mishap, if you simply can't help it, is to make sure to play with yourself 6 hours straight at least 30 minutes before meeting with the woman. It's tough as we know you're one busy dude, man. Who's got that kind of time these days, no?
 
Good luck, man. Whatever you do...bring a banana to the party, ok?

[acctBill]

Is it just my Russian native ear  , or does it sound odd to native English speakers as well ?
 
Looking forward to hear from you, Lakecreek 

Not a native English speaker, certainly not from the UK. 

[lakecreek]

Lakecreek-       
 
I wouldn't do it in your situation if I were you, man. Don't listen to any of these guys. I read somewhere that men in the exact same situation as you had suffered incredible embarrassment. The report termed this the B-B Syndrome. Blue Ball. That's just nasty stuff, dude. Notably prevalent with Asian men, too. The symptom is just not something you'd ever want to mess with.
 
Premature ejaculation is something that should not be messed with. It should be taken very seriously. It's a mess, according to the report. One of which the women apparently can't help themselves but to tell their friends the following morning. Next thing you know, it's all over the internet and you don't want that. Do you...?
 
Anyway, the report stated that the best way to avoid such a mishap, if you simply can't help it, is to make sure to play with yourself 6 hours straight at least 30 minutes before meeting with the woman. It's tough as we know you're one busy dude, man. Who's got that kind of time these days, no?
 
Good luck, man. Whatever you do...bring a banana to the party, ok?

Regardless I'm going to last short time, many guys told me their first experience was like that. Once I can have sex regularly I will be able to control when I can ejaculate. Since I never rocked the cradle with any woman before it will be a horrible first time. I thinking of having that first moment with a complete stranger so I don't have to worry about ever seeing her again to bring up my issue in the bedroom.

However, this thread is not about me lasting long in bed. LOL. Let's jump off that subject.

[newjason]

Basically, what I'm saying is my friend suspect she likes me which I don't fully believe. However, I sometimes think my friend could be right. On the other hand, I still believe that she does not. I don't believe she would have any interest in me if she already has a girlfriend (she mention randomly) and her Facebook status confirms it. Meanwhile, I still do have a slight interest in this Chinese woman who I had went out with a couple of times last year, nothing serious between us.

This Russian woman, who is my friend, we have some common interest compared to the Asian woman I went with couple times. This is what makes mind open to a possibility of dating her but as I said hearing her bring up girlfriend a couple times and seeing in a relationship status on her Facebook reluctant me for possibility of bringing this friendship up another level.

I don't want to make a fool of myself to find out I'm wrong and jeopardize our friendship.

wow

[ML]

I don't believe she would have any interest in me if she already has a girlfriend (she mention randomly) and her Facebook status confirms it
. . . . .

This is what makes mind open to a possibility of dating her but as I said hearing her bring up girlfriend a couple times and seeing in a relationship status on her Facebook reluctant me for possibility of bringing this friendship up another level.

OK, everyone regroup and plan for next line of thought.  There is a good possibility this gal plays for the other team.
So she may very well sock Lake in the jaw if he tries for a kiss or a feel.

Lake, you can forget about a LT romantic relationship with  this gal is she really is a lesbo.

And forget about seducing her.  If she has been with another woman, she will be ruined for any man, as we simply don't have the moves that a woman can put on her.

Best you can hope for now is that she will let you watch her and another gal going at it.  If so, it will be worth the price of admission for you.

[Globetrotter]

Why would you not just ask if she likes you then act accordingly?  If you are a lousy lay, or think you might be....have several drinks before, which might slow you down, or wear more than one condom!  I think I am in high school again!  Good luck!!!

[lakecreek]

I believe she is a lesbian or she maybe bi. Girlfriend, don't sound like she is straight to me so that is why I never attempt (least one of the reason why I never attempted). But then what kind of girl as a friend (not attracted to the opposite sex) would do the things I mentioned earlier. Again I think its best for us to be friends so I won't have any complications with her. I think I will do okay with another Asian woman.

[mies]

I believe she is a lesbian or she maybe bi. Girlfriend, don't sound like she is straight to me so that is why I never attempt (least one of the reason why I never attempted). But then what kind of girl as a friend (not attracted to the opposite sex) would do the things I mentioned earlier. Again I think its best for us to be friends so I won't have any complications with her. I think I will do okay with another Asian woman.

If she has a girlfriend and states it in her FB profile, then best not to make a pass on her. It may offend her. Indeed, she will have to do the first step herself.

[lakecreek]

If she has a girlfriend and states it in her FB profile, then best not to make a pass on her. It may offend her. Indeed, she will have to do the first step herself.

Indeed... That is why I never attempted. Again, if she keeps the touching and kissing on the cheek, then I will have no choice to talk to about it. Because I think for male or female to feel if there is a lot of touching and smooching on the cheek, its normal to have a feeling she or he may have an interest. Again though she is the one who came and approached me first while I approached the other woman first. So who knows what is running through her mind.

I met both the Asian and Russian woman in the same class so I won't be surprised they would recognize each other.

[ML]

have several drinks before, which might slow you down, or wear more than one condom! 

Or if you want to achieve a very, very long period of frustration . . . put  some topical anesthetic on your equipment.

[ghost of moon goddess]

Nothing beats experience when it comes to giving advice on ...   

[Slumba]

OP, it is your duty as a man to try to turn this woman away from the dark side of lesbian behavior.

What will she have to look forward to, but too many cats in her house, a haircut that looks like it was done by a WeedEater, pasty unhealthy skin.  If she lets her hair grow out it will end up in a mullet.

Believe me I have been to Key West Florida during a time when (unintentionally) there was some kind of LesbianFest - it looks absolutely NOTHING like the women on the "L Word" TV show.

[Gator]

Believe me I have been to Key West Florida during a time when (unintentionally) there was some kind of LesbianFest - it looks absolutely NOTHING like the women on the "L Word" TV show.

Gays frequent Key West all the time.   And you are correct, few are lipstick lesbians.  Many have some strong masculine attributes, as should be expected.  The "male" combinations found in some are freakish, almost frightening.  In fact gay men  are literally frightened of Bull Dykes. 
 

I have not  spent much time with lesbians.   I have dated a couple who have experimented and I thought this was more about curiosity ( i. e.,  "choice" rather than a "hormonal imperative").   One was a UW during my first trip 10 years ago.   
 
When I asked these few about the appeal of a another woman, their answers:   delighting in her beauty, appreciating gentle ways and soft lips, knowing what to do,  having more interesting conversations, and being more accommodating (fewer demands).  Add those up and it becomes understandable.  I wonder if they still miss  "Eduard's Vietnamese client." Lakecreek, are you Vietnamese, and is you name Huy? 
 

[ML]

Lake, congratulations.  You really sucked a few of us in by being patient in telling your story.  Those who tell too much in their first message are usually spotted very early.

Anyway, good for a few light moments.

[lakecreek]

 Lakecreek, are you Vietnamese, and is you name Huy? 
 

Nope. I'm a Indian mixed with good amount of Salvadorian. I look Indian but most people can tell I have a deep mixture. My father is Salvadorian and mother is Indian. I like my mixture.

[lakecreek]

Lake, congratulations.  You really sucked a few of us in by being patient in telling your story.  Those who tell too much in their first message are usually spotted very early.

Anyway, good for a few light moments.

No, what I posted in the beginning is what really happened. Do I know for sure she likes women? I don't know and probably will only know if I were to ask what her sexual orientation is, but that might be too personal. I have several female friends one things they don't do is kiss on the cheek, touch a guy chest, or feel very nervous talking to him when is friend is around. It's hard to say but those signs my couple of my female friends say. I have two girls I know that are lesbian and I have met their girlfriend. She is suppose to be in a relationship, so I have not see any photos with a woman, no affectionate pictures, you get the point when your a couple. Because of all the confusing I came here to ask to see what you guys may think. I'm not assuming anyone have the exact answers but what they think. Only she would know the answers to my questions. I will admit I' am afraid to ask as if I could be wrong and likely ruin a good friendship with her.

[Gator]

Because of all the confusing I came here to ask to see what you guys may think. I'm not assuming anyone have the exact answers but what they think. Only she would know the answers to my questions. I will admit I' am afraid to ask as if I could be wrong and likely ruin a good friendship with her.

Please forgive us as we have had fun pulling your leg.  Now some serious advice:  You need to ask her your questions.  You know far more than us, so how can we speculate any better than you.
To help, practice your questions and commit them to memory.  Be diplomatic when asking.
 
If this woman likes you, and you like her, your questions will not bother her.  The questions could easily become starting points for meaningful conversation.  Once spontaneous conversations start,  anything can happen.  Anything!  If she is as innocent as you, it could be precious.   Above all else, be yourself.  Good luck.

[The Natural]

OK, gone throug all this and I think someone is having a bit of fun 

[GQBlues]

I prescirbe a year's subscription to Playboy.