AM and RW ... are we compatible?

[OlgaH]

Oh, please, don't start it again, it had nothing to do with  his being into teenage girls, it was more about the connection between his mentioning the lady's age and the realism of her expectations, like what would be different if she was way younger would it make the expectations more realistic if you didn't get the meaning it didn't give you any right to insult me. But you did.
So when someone is mentioning  how nice you are in treating people who you are disagree with remember that post.

OK, dear Vasilisa, my fault I did not asked,  I will accept your explanation of your meaning and I say my sorry for insulting your imagination  will you forgive me? Pleeeease.

[OlgaH]

I was offering you the best woman I know and you didn't even pay attention to that part, preferring to argue. Bravo. 
Must be too old
Yes, I agree, I obviously have less than fluent understanding of you and Olga. Though, it's ok, I don't even have any desire to understand you any better, I am fine with the other people.

Vasilisa, is not what you are doing? arguing?  Sincerely wishing you good luck in dating 

[Vasilisa]

 
am sorry that you disagree, but if 10 years ago a man would tell me "You have to integrate into my culture" , I would drop him like a hot potato. Being from Moscow, I was not really too motivated to immigrate to start with. And definitely not to someone who thinks  I  "have to" do something before I even set foot onto hiscountry’s soil.   I dont "have to" anything to anybody, but love my husband. Everything else I will do if I want to do. I appreciated that my husband told me that I do not need to even like his country – just him.

I agree, when you marry a foreigner respect her or him and be ready to be integrated into her or his cultural things, too. If you live in a nice place and that's him who can't find a decent job there and makes you relocate because of him that's at least strange if he is making you to relocate and to  integrate for his convenience, too.

[Vasilisa]

Vasilisa, is not what you are doing? arguing?  Sincerely wishing you good luck in dating 

Oh, sweetie, thank you, need a hug, a kiss?!

[Boethius]

For clarification, I will point out Olga is not here for any business purpose.  The business she and her husband Robert operate is one which has no relationship to this forum.  He works with the courts.  Olga's status is not as a commercial member.

Now, let's please get this thread back on topic.

[Vasilisa]

And I don't understand what it all is about like I can't date, as I mentioned, I have found plenty of guys who wouldn't mind living together. The problem is that I want to be heard and listened to and respected and to be loved not for the sweet words and being convenient, but for who and what I am, if i kept on doing what my husband was asking for I'd still be married, big deal to be married to the guy who is breaking me and pushing me,  would I respect myself after that.. I am not sure.....  Besides, everyone loves the nice and kind ones, love her when she is not nice.  Nobody is not perfect.

[calmissile]

Visalisa,

Here is a typical example of your lack of understanding of our culture and language.

I was offering you the best woman I know and you didn't even pay attention to that part, preferring to argue. Bravo.   
Must be too old

1.  I would not respond to you in a public forum on your offer.
2.  There is not enough information about her to evaluate
3.  She does not speak English.... could be a problem for me.  Was pondering what little info you provided.
4.  I did not prefer to argue, I simply put off replying to you in public.
5.  You made an assumption about her being too old for me without any basis for doing so.  So what is supposed to be the value in your comment?

Whether intentional or deliberate, you cast insults throughout your posts on several threads.  For the most part they are ignored, just to be in good taste.   Your disparaging remarks about OlgaH having a salary only because her husband hires her is a good example.  It shows your lack of understanding in the workings of a family business.  You are by reference inferring that she would not be working or have an income if it were not for her husband.  I do not believe that!  With her skills, experience, and charm, I am reasonably sure she could find work and be very successful.  It is not necessary to make the kind of comments you make in order to make a point about something.

When and if you become more fluent in our language and culture you can become just like her.  That is to be able to express yourself without the insulting and disrespectful parts of your dialogue.

Also, I doubt she is either very lucky or in the .000001% as was claimed.  There are many FSU women in the US that are very successful and happy that was acquired through their own efforts and ambition.

[OlgaH]

Oh, sweetie, thank you, need a hug, a kiss?!

You are very welcome, darling.    See, it is not so difficult to say sorry  I hope next time you also will ask me about my life and what I meant instead of applying  your imagination to me 

[happyandstable]

For clarification, I will point out Olga is not here for any business purpose.  The business she and her husband Robert operate is one which has no relationship to this forum.  He works with the courts.  Olga's status is not as a commercial member.

Now, let's please get this thread back on topic.

     Oh please just when did this go off topic. If it is all about compatibility the recent post just prove what I said in the begining. "we can all get along if we choose too.

[Vasilisa]

When and if you become more fluent in our language and culture you can become just like her.

Let's stay positive and hope it will never happen.

[Boethius]

Well, just for the record.. you are also from Ukrainian diaspora, raised with Ukrainian traditions in a Ukrainian family environment.  I am not insinuating that *that* is why you and your husband are compatible, but I think it does make a difference as you have a foundation of of natural understanding upon which the seeds your chemistry, goals, interests, compatible values, etc can take root and begin to flourish. 

I disagree. 

As I have posted in the past, he knows that you ooh and aah at a pysanka, you don't crack it open and eat it.     That's the cultural aspect.

Knowing the culture and its "memes", and, more importantly, having a common language you both speak fluently makes misunderstandings less likely to occur, however, I am Western in my mentality.  My husband is not, even though he rejects most of the "Soviet" mentality he grew up with.  There can be big difference in the mentalities.

[Vasilisa]

For clarification, I will point out ....
Now, let's please get this thread back on topic.

Good idea. Ok, speaking about compatibility... calmissle and Vasilia are not compatible.

[Boethius]

The problem is that I want to be heard and listened to and respected and to be loved not for the sweet words and being convenient, but for who and what I am

That desire is fairly universal.

[calmissile]

Quote from Vasilisa,

When and if you become more fluent in our language and culture you can become just like her.
Let's stay positive and hope it will never happen. 

I don't think anything more needs to be said.  My point is illustrated once again!

[Daveman]

I disagree. 

As I have posted in the past, he knows that you ooh and aah at a pysanka, you don't crack it open and eat it.     That's the cultural aspect.

Knowing the culture and its "memes", and, more importantly, having a common language you both speak fluently makes misunderstandings less likely to occur, however, I am Western in my mentality.  My husband is not, even though he rejects most of the "Soviet" mentality he grew up with.  There can be big difference in the mentalities.

Nuh Uh!!! Nuh Uh!!! 

[Boethius]

However, a very high IQ and a high educational degree has been my #1 criteria in my search for a mate, . . . Preference for high IQ in a mate is not better or worse than a height or boob size or weight preference that most men here admit to having 

I agree, what I wanted was a man of high intellect.  Life has never been boring with him.

[Boethius]

Nuh Uh!!! Nuh Uh!!! 

To which part?

[Vasilisa]

But Vasilisa likes Gator for sure, so let's hope there's a really cute, 30-something miniature version of Gator wandering somewhere.

[calmissile]

I agree, what I wanted was a man of high intellect.  Life has never been boring with him. 

And you are both very fortunate to have found a compatible partner.
 

[CG7]

 
am sorry that you disagree, but if 10 years ago a man would tell me "You have to integrate into my culture" , I would drop him like a hot potato. Being from Moscow, I was not really too motivated to immigrate to start with. And definitely not to someone who thinks  I  "have to" do something before I even set foot onto hiscountry’s soil.   I dont "have to" anything to anybody, but love my husband. Everything else I will do if I want to do. I appreciated that my husband told me that I do not need to even like his country – just him.

 DP, the first step in integration is learning the language, which I am guessing you have done?

  As for the rest of your comment, fine by me.
 I am happy you have found the other that would tolerate and accept you as you are, I wish you both nothing but the very best in life.

 

[Gator]

But Vasilisa likes Gator for sure, so let's hope there's a really cute, 30-something miniature version of Gator wandering somewhere.

Thanks for the compliment.  I too enjoy you.  Does this mean Calmissile and I are incompatible?  .
 
Miniature Gator.  Lots of them now around my house as they have recently hatched.  Mama Gators standing guard.
 
You mean two-legged Gator without a tail.  There is my older son, 32-yo, university graduate with honors, gainfully employed, loves children....but not ready for marriage.   

[Doll]

Now that's a RW statement I can respect, without all the frills but full of thrills.

You missed my postings!   A couple of pages ago I said same- we do not  have to do anything.Sure AM doesn't like it.
Are we talking compatibility?

[Vasilisa]

Девочки, не ссорьтесь, чужие мужики этого не стоят.
 
Лучше вот про черноглазую казачку почитайте, Василиса, хотите Гатора, но помоложе, учитесь у предшественницы лол.
 
Оля, помните тред про дочку? И эти люди запрещают мне ковыряться в носу....

Уже прочитала

I am off... the cake is waiting.

[pitbull]

Quote from Vasilisa,

When and if you become more fluent in our language and culture you can become just like her.
Let's stay positive and hope it will never happen. 

I don't think anything more needs to be said.  My point is illustrated once again!

Calmissile,
 
This is just another condescending comment about a woman from you! Vasilisa is perfectly fine just the way she is,there is no need for her to become "just like" OlgaH.
How about this: "Calmissile, when and if you become more fluent in relationships and start to understand and respect women you'll become just like.... let's say...Ade "

[Doll]

Василиса, ну его- пусть. Понятно, что Ольга понятия не имеет о реальной жизни тут, потому и нравится маЛчикам местным (форумским). Гуд им лак, как грится, только потом больно будет фейсом об тейбл, если РЖ окажется не-Ольгой и заартачится, не захочет петь эти песни.
Оставь эти споры.