hello

[Gator]

..... two of them i think are outstanding and the chemistry is very strong with both. but how do you know which one is the one? it would be dishonest to date both until i figure things out. so what do you do in this situation?

Dishonest?  No, only if you lie. 
 
It sounds as if you are a "visit one" kind of man (VO).     However, a VO man would "know" which one is the best, so I question if you are a VO man.  Or maybe they are as FP described - neither is ideal.
 
You probably need to talk more to these two women.  Do you Skype? 
 
One should soon rise to the top based on your feelings.  Also, when you start making detailed travel plans you may discover that one does not have much time to spend with you (job, family, etc.).  If so, I say go with the woman who wants to spend every moment with you.
 
If still undecided, you could visit both.  Such is easier for them to swallow if they live in two different cities.  Thus, if one is in Kharkov, you see her every day for as much time as she makes available.   Then you say "paka" and travel to the other city.
 
 
 
 

[lakeShoreMark]

hi,
i'm now back home from florida. gator, i'm sorry that i wasn't clear. i did go to russia to meet these women. in fact i met 5 women and enjoyed spending time with each one of them very much but i found the 2 of them to be really outstanding and i could easily fall in love with either one of them. i should probably mention that i went to sarasota, florida last may to meet eduard. i prefer to look a man in the eyes before doing business with him. after the meeting i decided to use his services. in just a few days he helped me meet a very attractive russian gal who lives right here in chicago. i thought that my search was over because she was very attractive and seemed nice. but after a few dates i found out that she couldn't have children. having a family is very high on my priority list so i decided to move on before any feelings began to develop between her and i. i resumed working with eduard and chatted with a good number of women until i had several that i wanted to see. i met all but one in the end of august and i am very interested in 2 of them. i feel that either one would be a perfect wife for me. so here is my dilemma, i realize that i have to go and spend more time with both women to figure things out but i don't see how it's going to be possible to not become intimate.  what would you do?

[ML]

i realize that i have to go and spend more time with both women to figure things out but i don't see how it's going to be possible to not become intimate.  what would you do?

What would I do?  I wouldn't see your problem.

But if you have a problem with it, then hire someone else to check out this intimacy part and report back  to you.  I can be available most any time.

In any event, it would be crazy for you to become engaged without checking out the intimacy part.  And not just once or twice or thrice.  This takes many, many events over several weeks to even start to get a handle on the compatibility issue . . . and even then, there can be nasty surprises once you are together more or less permanently.

A neighbor told of his brother marrying a woman who he (the brother) had been intimate with for several months.  Day after the wedding she announced: I am finished with sex.  He was lucky to get an annulment.

[lakeShoreMark]

What would I do?  I wouldn't see your problem.

But if you have a problem with it, then hire someone else to check out this intimacy part and report back  to you.  I can be available most any time.

how nice of you to offer. i have no problem becoming intimate with a woman. i do have a problem sharing my bed with one of them for a week and then sleeping with the other one next week. if i marry one of them this will always bother me.

[JohnDearGreen]

i have met several wonderful russian women, but two of them i think are outstanding and the chemistry is very strong with both. but how do you know which one is the one? it would be dishonest to date both until i figure things out. so what do you do in this situation?

If you have the time and the money, enjoy a couple more trips.   
If you don't have the time and the money, drop both of them.
If you are somewhere in between, maybe hire a US psychologist to interview both of them. 
You probably have just seen their best side.  Maybe need to dig a little deeper.

[lakeShoreMark]

If you have the time and the money, enjoy a couple more trips.   
If you don't have the time and the money, drop both of them.
If you are somewhere in between, maybe hire a US psychologist to interview both of them. 
You probably have just seen their best side.  Maybe need to dig a little deeper.

i doubt that a us based psychologist would do much good with russian women. i made a mistake of not bringing eduard along with me. now i wish i would have. sometimes you spend more money by trying to save money. live and learn.

[Jumper]

hello, been a while since i visited this place. i've been travelling and haven't had much time to read or post. but here i am having a day off in florida of all places. much has happened since my last visit here and now i find myself trying to make a decision of a lifetime. i have met several wonderful russian women, but two of them i think are outstanding and the chemistry is very strong with both. but how do you know which one is the one? it would be dishonest to date both until i figure things out. so what do you do in this situation?

Well no one can really help you sort out  this  type of dilemma ?


Have you met them face to face?

Many posters here  use *met* for people they have been communicating with, or
even dating, for people they are communicating actively with ,
verse real face to face time,and things are generally much clearer once the face to face meetings occur.


If you have met them both and can't decide who is the one,
then as gator suggested neither may be the one for you?
or you need more time yourself to think on it.

Generally, theses things sort themselves out naturally just given a small amount of time? As one relationship or the other will wane a bit naturally for various reasons. 


by the way-
I'm also in the Chicago general area, and spend a lot of time on the lake shore.

[lakeShoreMark]

Have you met them face to face?

yes i have and the chemistry was great with both. i also met a few other women but didn't feel the same about them.

[Jumper]

Cool! If both seemed great and good chemistry,. I still  think time will tell you  rather quickly..
one or the other will stand out more in your mind, (someone you'll find yourself just naturally thinking about more)
 or
 one will be slightly less invested in the continuing correspondence /communications.


 Sad to say,but it wont necessarily be *the one* , as often its just timing/ luck/fate that sorts that ,and it will be the one at the moment , that sparks a little something extra,  rather than who would have really been the most compatible or true love?
No way to know
but that's the same locally or internationally and we all roll the dice the same way and make the best choices and decisions at that the moment


Good luck and hope it goes very well for you!
It's not a bad position to be in, even if you feel convoluted about it at the moment?

[BillyB]

do you guys recommend russia or the ukraine?

Here's a concept. Instead of choosing a country, how about choosing a woman first? Write to a bunch of ladies that interest you no matter where she lives as long as she lives in a country you can afford to travel to. You might hit it off with a fantastic woman. You won't know where you're going to go until you find her. I ended up in Uzbekistan once and if it weren't for an unstable country and the war, I would've Libya. Married the one living in Libya but had to meet her in Ukraine. Life's a journey. Enjoy the ride.

[BillyB]

i have met several wonderful russian women, but two of them i think are outstanding and the chemistry is very strong with both. but how do you know which one is the one? it would be dishonest to date both until i figure things out. so what do you do in this situation?

I just realized this thread is old and you just updated it. Congratulations! It's better to have two options than no options.
 
Why is it dishonest to date both women? Have you made any promise to them or they made promises to you that you are the only man? This is your life. Do what's best for you. Evaluate both women more and choose wisely. Throwing one away prematurely may be a huge mistake.

[lakeShoreMark]

thanks to all of you, very helpful comments. when i was starting i was concerned about dealing with scam and how much time it would take finding a woman i would seriously consider a potential mate. eduard made that part easy. i never expected that i would be in a situation where i'd have to choose between 2 gorgeous women.

[GoodOlBoy]

in just a few days he helped me meet a very attractive russian gal who lives right here in chicago. i thought that my search was over because she was very attractive and seemed nice. but after a few dates i found out that she couldn't have children.

To bad you don't have an open mind about adopting a Russian child.
There are tons of nice children in Russian orphanages.
Trust me, I know.
 
GOB

[CDW]

thanks to all of you, very helpful comments. when i was starting i was concerned about dealing with scam and how much time it would take finding a woman i would seriously consider a potential mate. eduard made that part easy. i never expected that i would be in a situation where i'd have to choose between 2 gorgeous women.

Is he the eduard from member here?

[CDW]

To bad you don't have an open mind about adopting a Russian child.
There are tons of nice children in Russian orphanages.
Trust me, I know.
 
GOB

I wouldn't mind adopting a child if she couldn't have a children

[lakeShoreMark]

To bad you don't have an open mind about adopting a Russian child.
There are tons of nice children in Russian orphanages.
Trust me, I know.
 
GOB

hi gob, if i couldn't have children of my own i would consider adoption.

[lakeShoreMark]

Is he the eduard from member here?

yes, eduard from www.realrussianmatch.com  i'm very happy the way everything worked out. hiring him was the right decision for me.

[enigma]

Are you kidding me? Why are you even considering this? The women are users and are not in it for love! You will be lucky to get away from one of these women with the shirt on your back! I wouldnt want to be with someone who was disgusted with me and only wanted to immigrate to another country!

[Muzh]

Are you kidding me? Why are you even considering this? The women are users and are not in it for love! You will be lucky to get away from one of these women with the shirt on your back! I wouldnt want to be with someone who was disgusted with me and only wanted to immigrate to another country!

Oh boy, another sap taken to the cleaners.

Let's get something straight. IF you take off your shirt and give it to her, then don't go crying that she TOOK it off your back. Richard Head.

[Hammer2722]

Are you kidding me? Why are you even considering this? The women are users and are not in it for love! You will be lucky to get away from one of these women with the shirt on your back! I wouldnt want to be with someone who was disgusted with me and only wanted to immigrate to another country!

A troll posting the same bile on multiple threads?

[Shadow]

Are you kidding me? Why are you even considering this? The women are users and are not in it for love! You will be lucky to get away from one of these women with the shirt on your back! I wouldnt want to be with someone who was disgusted with me and only wanted to immigrate to another country!

Forever alone.

[Faux Pas]

Just a man and his thoughts I suppose. Cause the woman is gone 

[Gator]

i do have a problem sharing my bed with one of them for a week and then sleeping with the other one next week.

There are some men who boink multiple RW concurrently on the same trip, not serially.  Imagine that, treating RW just like AW! 
 
I was a serial lover, almost never recycling.  I believe most of us (men and women) are the same - taking a relationship as far as it will go and then parting.   I can easily live with that; I am happy for the time we had together, and I hope they feel the same.    Some do. 
 
 

if i marry one of them this will always bother me.

Always?   
 
I guarantee that such a thought will become lost in the cobwebs of your mind.  A more frequent thought will probably be, "Why did I marry her?"  or "I wonder what would have happened if I had...."   
 

When you marry, hopefully there will be many glorious moments that bury such odd negative thoughts and thereby build true lasting love.       And you will remain forever silent about what happened in Kharkov before you went to Dnepropetrovsk.  Just as she will  never tell you about Misha who stopped and helped her when her car broke down.