Serious age difference.

[Muzh]

The question I'd be asking myself is " Do I not realize the chances of a young 20-something deciding she's ready to devote herself exclusively to me after a series of electronic letters are remote enough so as to defy logic and reason? " No offense, Calvin, but I worry that you're being played like a fiddle, or she's got motivation that will not appeal to you. I hope I'm wrong of course, but should you continue onwards, watch closely for cracks in the veneer.

That head doesn't have any eyes. Not that it would matter, it doesn't have a brain either. 

[Gator]

 
Muzh, Vaughn used the word "veneer," not "wiener." 

[Aloe]

If you meet make sure she feels a physical attraction towards you.  There must be more than the fact you are a good man and stable provider.   
 
Because she is young, she will change.  What is important to her today may not be so important over time.  Even with the changes, it can work IMO if you can accommodate and support her changes and if you stress family, family, family.
 

Very true. I've seen these words before my marriage on here and brushed them off, and now i'm experiencing it first hand. I think i've radically changed my priorities at least twice during 3 years of marriage    And i'm still not sure which priorities are the ones that i will go for. Lol. Finding a loving husband seems like such a giant huge priority in life... until you find one... and then you realize there is lots more to life than just being married and having kiddies In fact now i don't know at all if i want any children ever, or a husband for that matter. 3 years ago i definitely wanted them.. But that was 3 years ago...

[Gator]

Very true. I've seen these words before my marriage on here and brushed them off, and now i'm experiencing it first hand. I think i've radically changed my priorities at least twice during 3 years of marriage    And i'm still not sure which priorities are the ones that i will go for. Lol. Finding a loving husband seems like such a giant huge priority in life... until you find one... and then you realize there is lots more to life than just being married and having kiddies In fact now i don't know at all if i want any children ever, or a husband for that matter. 3 years ago i definitely wanted them.. But that was 3 years ago...

Aloe,
 
We here at RWD worry about your happiness at times. 
 
It is okay to have such thoughts, and they probably are not uncommon.  When young my head was filled with professional career achievements, yet such questions as yours and some potent wild dreams would take over at times.     The professional career crap was both an anchor as well as source of joy, especially when I started to work the creative side of my profession.   And guess what, the opportunity eventually came to live some of my wildest dreams.
 
It is good that you are hanging in there and not behaving rashly.  Keep deliberating about your options.   

[LAman]

Very true. I've seen these words before my marriage on here and brushed them off, and now i'm experiencing it first hand. I think i've radically changed my priorities at least twice during 3 years of marriage    And i'm still not sure which priorities are the ones that i will go for. Lol. Finding a loving husband seems like such a giant huge priority in life... until you find one... and then you realize there is lots more to life than just being married and having kiddies In fact now i don't know at all if i want any children ever, or a husband for that matter. 3 years ago i definitely wanted them.. But that was 3 years ago...

Gator has great point.....
Life is always full of choices and you make the best choice at that time.........as time moves on, many different thoughts run through your mind........eventually you discover what you really want, just don't be in a hurry to find this out.....it will come soon enough...i wish you my best!!!

[newjason]

Aloe makes a very good point here.
You have the experience of 20+ more years on this planet than your pen pal does.
Try to think back to a time when you were a young twenty something guy....

If you had been thinking of getting married then, would you still be married now?

the teens and twenties are a time when you are being shaped and formed into who you will be for the rest of your life. It's also a time of ..  hmmm  what is the word for it...
 Knowitallism?  When you think you know everything and think you are very very wise and will make good decisions that will last a life time because to this point in life,  you think that 25 is really old and pfffft 30 is so far away , you don't worry abut turning 30 because you can't yet conceive it.

My point is, do you hang with twenty something girls now where you live?

Now don't misunderstand me, I think being with younger women can be a wonderful thing.
IF
1.     you have what it takes to keep it interesting and exciting for you both.
2.     you are confident and dynamic extra ordinary people.
3.     you share common personality traits, goals, and attractions.
4.     you are best friends and can accept the other persons flaws and live happily with them.

Just keep in mind, you have not even met yet.
You are thinking ahead too much and already talking about marriage, this is a fantasy.
Don't live in a fantasy,  don't assume you know anything about her, because you don't know anything until you are in the same room and in the others presence.
Instead of asking questions
get yourself on a plane and do something about it.
Do not wait. If you feel it is worth pursuing, do it, and do it now, because as you know, people can quickly make assumptions and fantasies in their head, This is what will be your quagmire should you wait for months to do something about it.

You should be on Expedia first, then here.

I have had a realtionship with a younger woman and it was fantastic
read about it
it's a good read and may give you some insight into your own situation

http://www.russianwomendiscussion.com/index.php?topic=14463.0

PS
I know you think it is not a fantasy, and as such no one telling you it is will change your mind, but that is why fantasies are more appealing than reality. Go make your own reality with her.

[tfcrew]

..in two more months she'll be ready to pursue the next one. 

+1
A 24 yrs difference? Considering adoption?

[Jumper]

It's far more disturbing you think of marriage seriously before ever meeting ,
than the age differences..


and in my mind her age, being under 25,  more important than the actual age gap.
but there are thousands of threads on that subject  !!!!

[seabee]

Ok, I just got on this ride,and have been e-mailing, with a young russian chicadee. i am in my 50's and she is 28.I am flattered but its easier to say goodbye,than fall in love ,then have your heart broken. I belive you all are giving great advice.I,ve always had a women 10 years younger than me,because i am very active.But to reach farther is a walk on thin ice. And if you have money,you have to guess ....does she love me, or is this just another purchase ?   Keep it real .

[JR]

I'm not looking for validation but wondering if someone can point out blind spots here.

Only one big blind spot, its right in front of you, where she is standing )))))
 
Age gaps are a risk modifier, the greater the gap the greater the risk.
 
Best of luck to you.

[Muzh]

Ok, I just got on this ride,and have been e-mailing, with a young russian chicadee. i am in my 50's and she is 28.I am flattered but its easier to say goodbye,than fall in love ,then have your heart broken. I belive you all are giving great advice.I,ve always had a women 10 years younger than me,because i am very active.But to reach farther is a walk on thin ice. And if you have money,you have to guess ....does she love me, or is this just another purchase ?   Keep it real .

seabee, you are a very smart man.
 
 

[Shadow]

I,ve always had a women 10 years younger than me,because i am very active.

That must have been a real problem when you were in your 20's ...

[jeff9556]

My second wife was 13 years younger, I am extremely weary of doing that again, however she was just 21 when we met. I tend to think age gaps this large and greater work better if both have consderable life experience. Your gal, being in her early 20's, well, its a risk and you will have to get to know her real well. One likes to fool one self with ye old "shes so mature", but really, how mature can she be at that age? She will change, and you will have to deal with that, including her deciding this is NOT for her and leaving you one day.

BTW, I left my second wife, what she changed into was nothing close to the person I fell in love with. Food for thought.

[BC]

BTW, I left my second wife, what she changed into was nothing close to the person I fell in love with. Food for thought.

Kids do grow up....

[ML]

Best solution to the age difference problem:

Simply don't have one.

That is to say:  Spend the money to get fake passport, fake driver's license, etc., that shows you two being close the the same age.

He!!   You can even be a little younger than her if you want.

[LAman]

Guess this has been going on for ages.......handsome chap, huh?

[Muzh]

My second wife was 13 years younger, I am extremely weary of doing that again, however she was just 21 when we met. I tend to think age gaps this large and greater work better if both have consderable life experience. Your gal, being in her early 20's, well, its a risk and you will have to get to know her real well. One likes to fool one self with ye old "shes so mature", but really, how mature can she be at that age? She will change, and you will have to deal with that, including her deciding this is NOT for her and leaving you one day.

BTW, I left my second wife, what she changed into was nothing close to the person I fell in love with. Food for thought.

Shit man, same exact age difference with my ex. Except my ex was 19 when I met her. Agree that at this age (19 or 21) a 13 year gap is a big age difference and that may (will?) definitely bring problems to the relationship.
 
Guess what? My wife is 13 years younger than me.    Now, I met her when she was 32.

[I/O]

This one'll give Turbo a run for his money. 
 
http://news.ninemsn.com.au/entertainment/8263542/lost-actor-51-marries-16-year-old

[Anotherkiwi]

This one'll give Turbo a run for his money. 
 
http://news.ninemsn.com.au/entertainment/8263542/lost-actor-51-marries-16-year-old

I thought Turbo had a couple of years extra on top of this gap?

[I/O]

I thought Turbo had a couple of years extra on top of this gap?

Not sure - either way, he's the king of 'em round these parts.

[IAmZon]

I forgot, where is Turbo on the age gap thing?

I have been pushing 25 - 30 just for fun.  Young women love me, and I never worried about a thing.  Now, I am settling into a 18 year age gap / league gap relationship.  She is 30, not early 20's... but I still recognize the challenges ahead.

Alas!  This is the only life we have, better make it count

[Turboguy]

I thought Turbo had a couple of years extra on top of this gap?

I forgot, where is Turbo on the age gap thing?]

37.5

[IAmZon]

37.5 - that makes your the CHAMPION.

I know you have been EXCEEDINGLY forthcoming - back in the day.  Has your age gap bed a "walk in the park"?   What would you say to a guy like me?  Gracias ...

[Anotherkiwi]

37.5

Like we all say - age is just a number! 
 

[vwrw]

Like we all say - age is just a number! 

Age do become just a number when a person does not look his age nor act it. turbo is 71 y.o, has stamina of a healthy 55 y.o. the pic below was taken a week ago.