What gifts do you wish for?

[CDW]

If a man whom you are corresponding to (not yet met) asks you an important question "What gifts do you want?"  What would you say?

[Shadow]

Not a woman but... can you ship a Bentley ?

[Lily]

Not sure whether RW are accustomized to such question. Is it normal in the West?
This is actually a tough question to reply. Well, I do want something    However, I am not at all sure whether it would be worth communicating, and whether it would be a good idea to tell it to a particular person. If my wishlist is beyond his possibilities, wouldn't it hurt him?
Personaly, I would think twice before answering this question.

[I/O]

Personaly, I would think twice before answering this question.

.................and then answer......................

'As much as you can possibly afford and and if you need to extend your credit card limit for the purpose, that's OK.'

[Vasilisa]

If a man whom you are corresponding to (not yet met) asks you an important question "What gifts do you want?"  What would you say?

It depends.
If I were a GCG or deeply in love(which I doubt since we have never met according to the plan)  I would say: "nothing, dear, but thank you for asking, you are my best present, nothing can be a better gift than seeing you in front of me, please, come ASAP and my mom and I will cook you the best borscht you have ever tried in your life and dad can't wait till  you  taste  his home made wine".

If I were a scammer I'd say:"nothing, dear, you are my best present, nothing can be a better gift than seeing you in front of me. I was looking for the tickets to your place so we could spend the weekend together and make love (I attached a couple of flirty photos you were asking for, I was thinking about you and your hands touching my body as I was taking them), but the price is too high and I have an old grandmother who is sick  and a greatgrandfather who is in the hospital right now and 2 cats I adopted, they eat a lot. Could you, please, send me a thousand or better 2K of euros so I could buy a ticket to your place. "

If I were an average Russian I'd say: "Oh, man, why are you asking, all electronics is way cheaper there, why don't you bring me an I pad or I phone 5. I appreciate that" 

[Vasilisa]

Not sure whether RW are accustomized to such question. Is it normal in the West?
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Yes, I also don't remember being asked that question. That is more a Russian men thing:"Remember the Scarlet flower" minute 04:10 where the girls are making gifts wishes
By the way: time: 30:10- that was what she got I-pad GooglePlanet Earth"


How did they know that would be "Apple"?!

[CDW]

Any women who are serious in their search would answer the question "I wish you are here"  as their gifts rather than asking for perfumes, box of chocolates, a Louis Viutton handbag, New Gucci dress, so on............

[Doll]

Any women who are serious in their search would answer the question "I wish you are here"  as their gifts rather than asking for perfumes, box of chocolates, a Louis Viutton handbag, New Gucci dress, so on............

+100
It doesn't mean she wants nothing else)))), but we don't want to scare the man, do we?

[newjason]

not really a discussion when you answer your own question.

[ghost of moon goddess]

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It doesn't mean she wants nothing else))))...

You should be careful here, Doll.   
RW wishing for anything but a WM would be labeled regarded on here as the one having the unrealistic expectations or the entitlement attitude 

CDW, how I wish you WERE here! 

[Daveman]

Not sure whether RW are accustomized to such question. Is it normal in the West?
This is actually a tough question to reply. Well, I do want something    However, I am not at all sure whether it would be worth communicating, and whether it would be a good idea to tell it to a particular person. If my wishlist is beyond his possibilities, wouldn't it hurt him?
Personaly, I would think twice before answering this question.

Unless there is something really wrong with the guy, being honest about what you want shouldn't hurt anyone.  If it were me I'd just respond something like "Okay, we'll go for that next week -- but BEFORE we win the lottery, what would you like?"  But I would file the first answer away in the memory banks for the future when it would be possible to find a sensible way to maybe make it happen.  I certainly wouldn't be hurt in the least.  I like the direct honesty (most of the time).


About the question itself... we have asked each other those things from the beginning.. she had an internship here in the USA a few years ago so that may be why - she is a little more familiar with our custom of asking something like "what do you want for your birthday?" to which a man must reply "only you - in your birthday suit!"  otherwise he's thought of as materialistic (though of course he IS an exploiter of ANY sexual opportunity).

You should be careful here, Doll.   
RW wishing for anything but a WM would be labeled regarded on here as the one having the unrealistic expectations or the entitlement attitude

I don't believe that.  Yes, there are some, but they are the minority. Most normal people understand that we all have material wishes as well as emotional ones. The key for me is in the balance. 

[Doll]

You should be careful here, Doll.   
RW wishing for anything but a WM would be labeled regarded on here as the one having the unrealistic expectations or the entitlement attitude 

CDW, how I wish you WERE here! 

I don't have to be careful because I told my story many times))))
My AM (now husband) asked me what I wanted many times. Every time I said I wanted nothing. Reason? I wanted this man to be my husband, so didn't want to scare him))))) I just faked my "nothing")))
Needless to say I wanted "something" after we got married. Hahahaaaaa

[Daveman]

I don't have to be careful because I told my story many times))))
My AM (now husband) asked me what I wanted many times. Every time I said I wanted nothing. Reason? I wanted this man to be my husband, so didn't want to scare him))))) I just faked my "nothing")))
Needless to say I wanted "something" after we got married. Hahahaaaaa

    


how materialistically exploitative of you!!!     

[Vaughn]

It was a question I never directly asked, but I did consult with at least two other FSUW that were already here on US soil. Their advice was spot on, and confirmed my own gut feelings that I had to begin with.
 
For me, it's an awkward question that possibly places the lady in an uncomfortable position - and why flirt with promises before you've met? Promise only to show up, and then show up, with an appropriate and thoughtful gift, or two.
 
 

[Daveman]

It was a question I never directly asked, but I did consult with at least two other FSUW that were already here on US soil. Their advice was spot on, and confirmed my own gut feelings that I had to begin with.
 
For me, it's an awkward question that possibly places the lady in an uncomfortable position - and why flirt with promises before you've met? Promise only to show up, and then show up, with an appropriate and thoughtful gift, or two.

Prior to meeting??  I absolutely agree with you...  perhaps I was off in my own little world.. again...

[Doll]

    


how materialistically exploitative of you!!!     

So that you all know!

[Doll]

    


how materialistically exploitative of you!!!     

Not sure how it is with a younger generation, but a woman who is serious about looking for husband needs to be a complete idiot to say anything rather than "I wish you were here"
I mean FSU women (not sure of Colombia or China))))

[Muzh]

Not sure how it is with a younger generation, but a woman who is serious about looking for husband needs to be a complete idiot to say anything rather than "I wish you were here"
I mean FSU women (not sure of Colombia or China))))

In Colombia they would probably say "How about a couple of kilos?"

[mendeleyev]

All I want is to enjoy being together with Mrs Mendeleyeva and our daughters close by at Christmas. Now that two are married and none of the 3 live at home any longer, getting everyone together is both a dream and a challenge.

[Doll]

what does it have to do with RW wishing for a gift?

[mendeleyev]

what does it have to do with RW wishing for a gift?

Mrs Mendeleyeva, even though born in Ethiopia, is ethnic Russian. Given a choice of flowers, chocolates, diamonds, etc, her sole gift wish right now is finding a way to bring everybody together for Christmas.

I'm assuming that her opinion as a RW counts for something. 

[Doll]

Yes, but we are talking of a dating period.

[mendeleyev]

First, I have found it very productive to continue dating and courting my wife, but I understand now.

Second, I think it dangerous for a man who has never met a lady to ask her what kinds of gifts she wants. It is a setup for failure as it sets the expectation that he is coming to bring gifts. Of course he will bring a gift, but for the first meeting it is inappropriate for her to request and the question puts an honest girl in an awkward position when he asks what she would like.

Should he bring a gift when he travels? Yes, he should take a gift for her, for her mother, and small items for other family members, but asking or announcing beforehand takes the element of surprise out of the equation.

Second, is how Russians practice reciprocity. By announcing the gift beforehand, he put her in the position of having to obtain an equally appropriate gift for him. No gift from a guy should overwhelm her financial ability to reciprocate. BTW, that is a big hint for guys who are asked for gifts when first meeting a girl--is the interest in you is genuine, then she has a equal responsibility to gift you with something nice as well.

[mies]

If a man whom you are corresponding to (not yet met) asks you an important question "What gifts do you want?"  What would you say?

"surprise me" or "my best gift is you."
but if the man takes it literally and indeed starts thinking that he is my best and only gift... well.... i'll think he isn't the one. Because he isn't smart enough.

[mies]

Any women who are serious in their search would answer the question "I wish you are here"  as their gifts rather than asking for perfumes, box of chocolates, a Louis Viutton handbag, New Gucci dress, so on............

Wish you (McLaren) were here  :