Love and relationship

[Dharma krishnan]

 :flowers:HI This is Dharma from india am here for my soul mate am living in coimbatore near by ooty best place to live working as a location manager in a textile company my age is 29years now its time for me to find my soul love any ware from the world i believe in love more then anything we came to this world with nothing human is a human ware ever we live

i know i can get a soul mate over here but i don't want just a soul mate . she must be there for me till i live and i should be there for her till she is alive with full of love and fun  if any one can find me are suggest me girl who can be same love filled in heart be reply me

[Shadow]

Learn to read and write English.

[Patagonie]

:flowers:HI This is Dharma from india am here for my soul mate am living in coimbatore near by ooty best place to live working as a location manager in a textile company my age is 29years now its time for me to find my soul love any ware from the world i believe in love more then anything we came to this world with nothing human is a human ware ever we live

i know i can get a soul mate over here but i don't want just a soul mate . she must be there for me till i live and i should be there for her till she is alive with full of love and fun  if any one can find me are suggest me girl who can be same love filled in heart be reply me

Guy your photo is really ok, but what is your annual earning by year ?

[Dharma krishnan]

Learn to read and write English.

your welcome for the comment am week will learn English soon well and fine please do help me 

Hi i earn 400000rs in india working as a location manager of a textile company

[Patagonie]

your welcome for the comment am week will learn English soon well and fine please do help me 

Hi i earn 400000rs in india working as a location manager of a textile company

Thank you to have delivered us this information. 7400 $ ?
The first problem for you is that you understimate the cost of this adventure. My budget
for 4 trips per year is around 14000 $. A trip is generally between 2500 and 5000 $.

[Anotherkiwi]

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Hi i earn 400000rs in india working as a location manager of a textile company

Dharma, is that per year or per month?  If it is per year I'm sorry, but you cannot possibly afford this venture.  If it is per month, I wish you luck!  However, please realise that this is NOT a dating site, but only a forum to exchange ideas about women from the former Soviet Union, and about the countries that make up that area.

[Guru]

Dharma,
   
Welcome to the forum. If you firmly believe in  your dreams go for it.  Money and your geographic location is not barrier but you will power and determination is the biggest barrier. If you are serious  then i would recommend few things
   
1.Find out the travel cost, visa cost  from your place to Russia and Ukraine or other countries and create a budget.
2. Take a trip to Ukraine or Russia  and select a small city that is not too expensive. Meet few girls and try to understand the culture. In meantime do  free online dating to talk to girls.
3. Try to find Ukrainian/Russian women who are living in  India and ask them for advice. Find out what challenges do girls form Ukraine and Russia have  to adapt in India
4. Contact the local Russian and Ukranian embassy in India and ask them  if they have any cultural or local events where you can go and network 
5. If your salary is not that much, save $ 2000 to $3000 per year and go for one trip per year.. Check the  airfare.
6. You have age to your advantage so you can build a long term plan of 2-4 years and visit few times before  you get married
7. It may be much cheaper for the girl to fly to India and easy for her to get the Indian visa from her country so check on that with the embassy.
8. Go  on 1-2 trips and then ask the girl to come to visit you. Its critical that she comes and visits you so she can see if she likes it and is willing to adapt to India. South India is beautiful so if you plan a vacation for her in India , she will definitely come.
9 Allocate time to understand the  culture, traditions and the women from FSU countries so you can relate to her.
10. Find a girl who likes Indian culture and wants to come to India . I am sure there are tons of FSU girls in India especially Russians. Browse the net and talk to them.
11. Plan, strategize and stick to your plan and don't give up till you succeed.
12. There are lot of good people here to advice you , so you can always post your questions
13. If people are negative and don't beleive in your dream,  just ignore them and continue with your plan.
      
You mention that you want girl that will be with you for a lifetime.   Find a girl who has  strong cultural and family values, adaptable, believes in love and likes  Indian culture and is not too materialistic and you will have great chance to make it work. If you want to play the game of love , don't play it with fear that you heart will break. Play it with optimism, creativity and courage.   If  you want to strengthen your heart, go and do some viapasana meditation by Goenka in India. Lastly, don't be too attached  to the end result . Enjoy the blady  journey.
Best of luck.

[Faux Pas]

7. It may be much cheaper for the girl to fly to India and easy for her to get the Indian visa from her country so check on that with the embassy.

My wife and I visited India last year. My wife is Russian and it was very difficult to obtain her a visa. In fact we almost canceled the trip altogether. The Indian consulate was very anal and picky concerning her visa. I was approved the first try. It took 4 separate times for hers.

It might be different coming from Russia, I don't know. She is a Russian citizen and was coming from the US

[Eduard]

Hi Dharma,
I get a lot of messages from Indian guys. Is there a shortage of women in India?
Here is one example:


"[size=78%]Message:[/size]need wife, russian, big boobie"

[Slumba]

Hi Dharma,
I get a lot of messages from Indian guys. Is there a shortage of women in India?
Here is one example:


"[size=78%]Message:[/size]need wife, russian, big boobie"

Just ONE big boobie?   

[Shadow]

Hi Dharma,
I get a lot of messages from Indian guys. Is there a shortage of women in India?
Here is one example:


"[size=78%]Message:[/size]need wife, russian, big boobie"

Hi Eduard,

There is no shortage of women in India, however there is matter of changing times and habits. Until recent the concept of finding your own marriage partner was relatively strange, a marriage was arranged between parents.
This strange enough does not lead to higher percentage of failures.
However lately the younger generations are exploring the possibility of finding their own choice for a partner.

A caveat for the women is that in several religions in India polygamy is allowed. Thus some men might get away with having more than one wife.

[ML]

Until recent the concept of finding your own marriage partner was relatively strange, a marriage was arranged between parents.
This strange enough does not lead to higher percentage of failures.

Yes, I am acquainted with 3 Indian couples who live in USA.

All 3 are a product of parent arranged marriages.

All 3 have been married more than 20 years, and appear to be very  happy and certainly very compatible, and two of the men have even told me quite forceably that it is the only way to go.

I think there is a lot to be said for parent arranged marriages . . . provided both sets of parents are fairly intelligent and are truly thinking about benefits for their children rather than for themselves. 

The parent looks at more than just physical beauty, etc. and places high value on compatibility, matching intellects, matching religion, matching morals, matching life philosophies, children that will likely be produced, etc.

There was also a case in Minnesota several years back where a man let his sister and several of his friends choose a wife for him.  There were newspaper advertisements, dozens of applicants, interviews, etc.  They (his selection committee) were very analytical rather than emotional. He never even met any of the women until the wife had been chosen.

Don't know what the long term follow-up showed.

[ML]

A caveat for the women is that in several religions in India polygamy is allowed. Thus some men might get away with having more than one wife.

Or . . .

Thus some men might be burdened with having more than one wife.   

[Aloe]

I want 2 hubbies!! So i get all the hugs and love in the world And twice the money! haha.

[Anotherkiwi]

I want 2 hubbies!! So i get all the hugs and love in the world And twice the money! haha.

Sorry, but you're too intelligent and beautiful for any man to want to share you.

[Eduard]

Just ONE big boobie?   

evidently he only wants one, but it's got to be big!

[Eduard]

Yes, I am acquainted with 3 Indian couples who live in USA.

All 3 are a product of parent arranged marriages.

All 3 have been married more than 20 years, and appear to be very  happy and certainly very compatible, and two of the men have even told me quite forceably that it is the only way to go.

I think there is a lot to be said for parent arranged marriages . . . provided both sets of parents are fairly intelligent and are truly thinking about benefits for their children rather than for themselves. 

The parent looks at more than just physical beauty, etc. and places high value on compatibility, matching intellects, matching religion, matching morals, matching life philosophies, children that will likely be produced, etc.

There was also a case in Minnesota several years back where a man let his sister and several of his friends choose a wife for him.  There were newspaper advertisements, dozens of applicants, interviews, etc.  They (his selection committee) were very analytical rather than emotional. He never even met any of the women until the wife had been chosen.

Don't know what the long term follow-up showed.

Several years I was accused on one of these forums of "choosing" women for my guys. According to what you posted above it wouldn't be such a bad idea if it were true... 

[Guru]

My wife and I visited India last year. My wife is Russian and it was very difficult to obtain her a visa. In fact we almost canceled the trip altogether. The Indian consulate was very anal and picky concerning her visa. I was approved the first try. It took 4 separate times for hers.

It might be different coming from Russia, I don't know. She is a Russian citizen and was coming from the US

Indian consulate is  full of  bureaucratic and  corrupt  government officials who don't have the word  "customer service"  in their dictionary. They think as if they are the customer and you need to provide them with customer service:). I have had similar bad experiences with their consulate.   So its better to avoid them and use third party agency for Indian visas like like visahq.

[Guru]

Yes, I am acquainted with 3 Indian couples who live in USA.

All 3 are a product of parent arranged marriages.

All 3 have been married more than 20 years, and appear to be very  happy and certainly very compatible, and two of the men have even told me quite forceably that it is the only way to go.

I think there is a lot to be said for parent arranged marriages . . . provided both sets of parents are fairly intelligent and are truly thinking about benefits for their children rather than for themselves. 

The parent looks at more than just physical beauty, etc. and places high value on compatibility, matching intellects, matching religion, matching morals, matching life philosophies, children that will likely be produced, etc.

There was also a case in Minnesota several years back where a man let his sister and several of his friends choose a wife for him.  There were newspaper advertisements, dozens of applicants, interviews, etc.  They (his selection committee) were very analytical rather than emotional. He never even met any of the women until the wife had been chosen.

Don't know what the long term follow-up showed.

ML That's great observation and  traditionally that was the route taken by parents. Arranged marriages work because  both parties have realistic expectations. More so the family network keeps the couples accountable. What I hear now, is that  family and moral values are declining rapidly because of the so called new generation  in India. I feel Russia and Ukraine are blessed to have  English language as a barrier as it takes them little longer to be influenced  and  as a result they can keep their traditional family and feminine values intact.   I am assuming that will change in another  10- 15 years or might have already changed. 

[Eduard]

ML That's great observation and  traditionally that was the route taken by parents. Arranged marriages work because  both parties have realistic expectations. More so the family network keeps the couples accountable. What I hear now, is that  family and moral values are declining rapidly because of the so called new generation  in India. I feel Russia and Ukraine are blessed to have  English language as a barrier as it takes them little longer to be influenced  and  as a result they can keep their traditional family and feminine values intact.   I am assuming that will change in another  10- 15 years or might have already changed.

It is changing fast...

[Guru]

It is changing fast...

Eduard based on your experience, what are the  top 2 to 3 factors that are influencing the change in the value system..western influence , internet ,  easier geographic  mobility etc. Have you noticed any specific patterns? I think one needs to get the real gems (girls) from FSU  in next 2-5 years and after that they will be all gone or  at least become difficult to find.

[calmissile]

ML That's great observation and  traditionally that was the route taken by parents. Arranged marriages work because  both parties have realistic expectations. More so the family network keeps the couples accountable. What I hear now, is that  family and moral values are declining rapidly because of the so called new generation  in India. I feel Russia and Ukraine are blessed to have  English language as a barrier as it takes them little longer to be influenced  and  as a result they can keep their traditional family and feminine values intact.   I am assuming that will change in another  10- 15 years or might have already changed.

It is changing very fast in Ukraine.  English is taught in all the primary schools now.  I was invited to go to one of the schools a couple of months ago and talk to the kids in English.  There were a few of them that were fluent in English at about age 12.

Also, most of the music I heard was in English, especially the younger kids.  They also watch a lot of Amerian TV programs.  I wouldn't even think of it as a barrier.  The young seem to suck up English and Western culture like a sponge.  In fact I was amazed at how many named brand Amerian products are in the stores.

I have not seen this as deteriorating the feminine qualities of Ukriane women however.  Hopefully that will last a long time.

[JayH]

It is changing very fast in Ukraine.  English is taught in all the primary schools now.  I was invited to go to one of the schools a couple of months ago and talk to the kids in English.  There were a few of them that were fluent in English at about age 12.

Also, most of the music I heard was in English, especially the younger kids.  They also watch a lot of Amerian TV programs.  I wouldn't even think of it as a barrier.  The young seem to suck up English and Western culture like a sponge.  In fact I was amazed at how many named brand Amerian products are in the stores.

I have not seen this as deteriorating the feminine qualities of Ukriane women however.  Hopefully that will last a long time.

100& agree with you here--I was commenting on exactly this today--even in the 2 1/2 years I have been going to Ukraine  I have seen change virtually everytime I go there. This is having a big affect on the attitude and numbers who are intent on leaving-- that has real consequences for prospective wife hunters.

[Faux Pas]

Indian consulate is  full of  bureaucratic and  corrupt  government officials who don't have the word  "customer service"  in their dictionary. They think as if they are the customer and you need to provide them with customer service:). I have had similar bad experiences with their consulate.   So its better to avoid them and use third party agency for Indian visas like like visahq.

This was through a visa agency Travisa. The consulate kept changing the requirements and needed documents for my wife. We're talking over a span of about 3 weeks. I was pretty comfortable travisa knew what they were doing. I was speaking with them on the phone regularly and my agent was profusely apologizing. They didn't charge me anything extra for the extra work they had to put into it.

You are absolutely correct about the customer service aspect. It was from the consulate, to customs, PP control entering, leaving and everything in between. 

I will never go to India again

[Guru]

You are absolutely correct about the customer service aspect. It was from the consulate, to customs, PP control entering, leaving and everything in between. 

Its sad when that happens.  To see real India one needs to travel to  small cities, towns and villages and avoid the big cities. There you  can see the real love, bonding and simplicity that will mesmerize you. Few people from abroad actually  ever experience that  because either they don’t know or they  are so use to certain comfort that they don't want to rough it out. These small cities don't  offer  such amenities   but what they offer is the organic India. India has so much  diversity of food, culture, beauty, history, architecture that every city is a country in itself.  If you change your mind and want to visit again , PM me and I will send you invite to stay  for free in my home town  and also help you explore the real  untouched ( non touristy) India. Cheers.