Interviews from 3 KhersonGirls ladies

[Doll]

Thanks, Jones
Well, guys, I've read all the pages. Good luck to the topic starter- you will need it (luck).
Agree to Mendeleyev 100%.
 
I personally would not be able to tell who is who after reading the answers of the girls.  Each of them can be anything- you never know.
On the other hand, I would not consider the man who
1. interviews me
2. ask me to ride a bus for 13 hours
J (my husband of 11 years) did ask questions but they were very reasonable like
-how much I earned
-how I was able to raise two kids on this money
These questions also stink a little but he had told me a lot about himself before.
I could go to Moscow by train too (but I didn't).
 
It is winter for the God sake! I would not love to ride the bus in winter.
 

[Doll]

   

Just hop'in you're all putting in as much as you take out.   

Financially?

[mendeleyev]

Don't you try to be foolin us.  Your wife knows down to the Kopek how much you have.  We all know she's smarter than you, too!

You are of course correct. LOL

[jone]

Financially?

Financially?  Who cares?  I've always felt that material things are nice to have (I never spend much on myself - but am generous with my woman) but if my gal is happy and making my life pleasant, she can do no wrong and I will buy the Taj Mahal for her.  It's like Ed's joke:  What's the female version of viagra?  A jewelry store. 

All jokes aside, I should point out that making my life pleasant to me, really is a kind word and deed.  Lovemaking, while nice, is about 3rd on my list.  Sometimes even fourth or fifth.

-j

[lonedrake]

 I know I am new around here.....but what the h*** is a FROGHEAD? Or FROG IDIOT ?

 Is it like MILF or GILF? Some kind of acronym? 

[Ade]

And just as a side note CDW . . . your writing and grammar are atrocious.  But this is typical of 'most' Engineers, in my experience.

I always find it sort of humorous that a couple of British guys (one living in Norway as I recall) frequently criticize we American boys for our grammar, when one of their own has about the worst possible.

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I honestly can't remember doing any such thing frequently. If you used the adverb, "rarely" or "seldom" I'd perhaps agree, but I certainly don't make a "frequent" habit of it.


As for CDW, well, I'd say he has issues that he needs to address which are far more debilitating than his poor grammar.

[Ade]

I know I am new around here.....but what the h*** is a FROGHEAD? Or FROG IDIOT ?

 Is it like MILF or GILF? Some kind of acronym?

I'm guessing it has to do with "Faux Pas". 

[Eduard]

You are funny!
I admit I am VERY materialistic, but like I wrote before, I didn't give my husband-to-be a tiny hint. No way!
Only after we got married he realized how bitterly wrong he was in understanding me.

С наступающим Вас! Счастья и здоровья!

[Doll]

Financially?  Who cares?     

Wait a minute! You said "equal contrubution", now it is "who cares".
So, what is it exactly?

[Doll]

С наступающим Вас! Счастья и здоровья!

Спасибо! Вас и вашу семью с Новым Годом!

[Belvis]

I will not say who they are, or photos of them.  Let's say  lady A, B ad C.
...
Who would you pick and who would you avoid and WHY?

My unpretentious opinion about the question list. It would be more info  if the photos were presented here. At least something helpful to consider.  Answers give nothing for lady's evaluations unless you're eager to be a prey for the smartest of them.
I hope they knew it was not your idea to make it through interview.

[Daveman]

It was a recommendation by the agency to ask them questions during interviews.

And...

... Answers give nothing for lady's evaluations unless you're eager to be a prey for the smartest of them.
I hope they knew it was not your idea to make it through interview.

There it is...


Of course, for any pre-meeting questions to be relevant there must be complete and honest disclosure, otherwise it becomes meaningless to determine degrees of materialism (coughDOLLcough).  Most women whom I've ever met understand how to play men.  They *ALL* do it.  It is part of the mating game. We play women for sex; they play us for everything else (only slightly exaggerated).


Simply put, few women are completely stupid.

[Faux Pas]

Simply put, few women are completely stupid.

And many are extremely smart and some of those very devious. Those that look for them often find them without knowing it. We're not as smart as we think

[Eduard]

Спасибо! Вас и вашу семью с Новым Годом!

Bolshoe spasibo!

[jone]

Wait a minute! You said "equal contrubution", now it is "who cares".
So, what is it exactly?

Financially, I don't particularly care if a woman contributes equally.  I care that a woman contributes to a marriage.  Being married, I am sure that you embrace this concept.  My observation is that a woman contributes in many ways other than financially (as does a man).  And my original post was that a woman can be materialistic as long as she is contributing to the marriage.

I have seen marriages work in many different ways.  Some were so lopsided that the woman was bringing in the bacon, cooking it while doing the wash and watching the kids.  The husband did not contribute, literally and figuratively.  And I have also seen the other extreme, where the woman felt free to spend the husband's money without a care in the world and did nothing to edify the marriage. 

Contributing in a marriage makes the couple partners.  So, 'who cares' if the woman is contributing financially as long as the partnership works.  But she must be contributing. 

I live in an area of great wealth.  My city has the third highest per household income in the country.  The greatest problem for married couples here is the disconnect between a husband bringing it in and a woman's appreciation for the lifestyle he provides.  The second greatest disconnect is the appreciation by the husband of all that the wife does to make things work.  A true partnership recognizes the contributions of both parties, however they are contributing.

I have often said here that the best qualities in a woman are wisdom and kindness.   In seeking an FSU bride, those were my first thoughts to those I met. 

-j

[Eduard]

Financially, I don't particularly care if a woman contributes equally.  I care that a woman contributes to a marriage.  Being married, I am sure that you embrace this concept.  My observation is that a woman contributes in many ways other than financially (as does a man).  And my original post was that a woman can be materialistic as long as she is contributing to the marriage.

I have seen marriages work in many different ways.  Some were so lopsided that the woman was bringing in the bacon, cooking it while doing the wash and watching the kids.  The husband did not contribute, literally and figuratively.  And I have also seen the other extreme, where the woman felt free to spend the husband's money without a care in the world and did nothing to edify the marriage. 

Contributing in a marriage makes the couple partners.  So, 'who cares' if the woman is contributing financially as long as the partnership works.  But she must be contributing. 

I live in an area of great wealth.  My city has the third highest per household income in the country.  The greatest problem for married couples here is the disconnect between a husband bringing it in and a woman's appreciation for the lifestyle he provides.  The second greatest disconnect is the appreciation by the husband of all that the wife does to make things work.  A true partnership recognizes the contributions of both parties, however they are contributing.

I have often said here that the best qualities in a woman are wisdom and kindness.   In seeking an FSU bride, those were my first thoughts to those I met. 

-j

You are a wise man, Jon... I wish we had a chance to hang out in real life sometime.

[Gator]

CDW,
 
I do not know if you have a learning disability; however, you have a hearing disability.  How women respond to your disability is far more important than an analysis of mixed clues about their degree of materialism and entitlement. 
 
Questionnaires will provide only 2% of the information you need to know.  98% will emerge as you spend face-to-face time with them.  Hopefully over time one woman will demonstrate sensitivity, patience and a caring nature....... generously giving her time, attention and affection.  And even with these good qualities, she will probably be more materialistic than the British woman with whom you are familiar.*  So what!
 
If she provides what you want in a life partnership, let her spend your money.   You said you were generous.  Well, generous people enjoy giving.   You both will enjoy it  (provided you mutually work to together to establish reasonable limits).
 
Whatever approach you take, I strongly advise that you take much time to build a relationship, including many visits.  True love takes time, for which there is no substitute. 
 
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* Do not want to derail your thread, but in my experience  the FSU  history of instability seems to have inculcated a sense of materialism/security among many FSU M & W.  And many FSUW in their traditional view of man-woman relationships also have a sense of entitlement vs. Western women.    Get used to it, and enjoy the abundant other good qualities that a FSUW will provide if she loves her man.

[CDW]

Materialistic women are VERY SAD women, because they do not know how to feel happy with themselves.  They aren't very satisfied women who want more, more, more ........ and they are the sort of women who "must have it"

Many of you are already married to materialistic women, so how do you know that they are really happy ???  You are too busy, in this site.  If I were married to my woman and living with her, I wouldn't waste time on here!!!

FORUMS here is full of bully, attacking.  NOTHING ELSE TO DO????? 

[CDW]

dress-code is important if you want to date Ukr women you need to dress up ,, the women have to be proud of you ,,,

I see many men are poorly dressed!!  For these men who do not know how to dress, should seek an image consultant.  It will be worth the investment

[Ade]

Materialistic women are VERY SAD women, because they do not know how to feel happy with themselves.  They aren't very satisfied women who want more, more, more ........ and they are the sort of women who "must have it"

Many of you are already married to materialistic women, so how do you know that they are really happy ???  You are too busy, in this site.  If I were married to my woman and living with her, I wouldn't waste time on here!!!

FORUMS here is full of bully, attacking.  NOTHING ELSE TO DO?????

The problem with the "interview questionnaire" approach that you favoured is that it's lose-lose; those that you're trying to avoid will know full well what you are trying to do and will know how to "bait and switch" and those you would want to attract, would probably run a mile at such tactics.


Also, you seem overly sensitive about your hearing issues too and overreacted on comments in this thread that weren't even related. Unless you can get over that, it could cause you a whole world of grief with FSUW.


On the other hand, given your approach, I dare say you won't have to worry much about that. 

[Eduard]

The problem with the "interview questionnaire" approach that you favoured is that it's lose-lose; those that you're trying to avoid will know full well what you are trying to do and will know how to "bait and switch" and those you would want to attract, would probably run a mile at such tactics.


Also, you seem overly sensitive about your hearing issues too and overreacted on comments in this thread that weren't even related. Unless you can get over that, it could cause you a whole world of grief with FSUW.


On the other hand, given your approach, I dare say you won't have to worry much about that. 

CDW, this is good advice, I'd listen if I were you.

[jone]

If she provides what you want in a life partnership, let her spend your money.   You said you were generous.  Well, generous people enjoy giving.   You both will enjoy it  (provided you mutually work to together to establish reasonable limits).
 
Whatever approach you take, I strongly advise that you take much time to build a relationship, including many visits.  True love takes time, for which there is no substitute. 

+1

And, again, go back to that which Doug said. 

Provide the romance that a woman wants so much.  You can get through many hard times if you can provide the romance.  You have proven yourself to be sensitive to women.  Use that knowledge to show her your romantic side.  I know it sounds 'campy' but too many men think about what the woman thinks about the man, worries about  logistics and then forgets how to really romance the socks off a woman.  (Or for that matter, other articles of clothing.)  I can tell you right now that I have seen absolute clutzes for men wind up with absolutely wonderful women, simply because they learned how to romance the gal of their desires.

[CDW]

CDW, this is good advice, I'd listen if I were you.

I was RECOMMENDED by KhersonGirls to have an interview-questionnaire.  I prefer to know something before meeting!!   I need to short-listed ladies because I cannot meet 10 ladies in one trip.   Girls who says "I prefer partying" from my questionnaire, has already been eliminated, because I am NOT looking for a partying-type girl.  No point in having an interview with her.

[CDW]

you are missing the point.  Relationships are based on TWO-WAYS - not only for the woman. 

[Faux Pas]

+1

And, again, go back to that which Doug said. 

Provide the romance that a woman wants so much.  You can get through many hard times if you can provide the romance.  You have proven yourself to be sensitive to women.  Use that knowledge to show her your romantic side.  I know it sounds 'campy' but too many men think about what the woman thinks about the man, worries about  logistics and then forgets how to really romance the socks off a woman.  (Or for that matter, other articles of clothing.)  I can tell you right now that I have seen absolute clutzes for men wind up with absolutely wonderful women, simply because they learned how to romance the gal of their desires.

All true. +1

However, there are a few eventualities that "most" sincere FSUW seek as well. That is a good provider and a good provider provides many of those incidentals that seem to wreck CDW's life and mindset. Most women do require material "extra's" in their life as well as the basic food, clothing and shelter. Another problem I see is CDW's approach makes him appear extremely greedy whether he is or not. Most guys with enough time in the FSU will tell you, just the appearence of being greedy is a death null to most sincere women