Understanding the psychology of young FSU brides?

[GoodOlBoy]

.... the first experience for both of us, me 22 and him 24 then, and it worked. Still works 7 years later.

Hello Zmejka.
Glad to see you back here!
 
If it's not to personal of a question, can you tell us what kind of age gap you would have accepted back when you were looking for a husband? dating?
 
GOB

[Zmejka]

Hello GOB, thank you!
I was not a supporter of a large age difference and almost all my relationships were within 2-4 age gap (except one with 8 age gap). Then i thought of a man no older than 30 year old - because for me one was a young man if he is before 30 and above 30 - not a young man but muzhik (more rough, worn-out). With that age gap of 8 years a man was 28 and i thought he was very adult, was getting close to that "dangerous point" of turning into muzhik. Now i certanly don't think like that anymore:) it's also true that i never met a man above 30 whom i liked. Somehow they didn't exist for me and our paths never crossed in the reality or on the internet.

[Muzh]

Hello GOB, thank you!
I was not a supporter of a large age difference and almost all my relationships were within 2-4 age gap (except one with 8 age gap). Then i thought of a man no older than 30 year old - because for me one was a young man if he is before 30 and above 30 - not a young man but muzhik (more rough, worn-out). With that age gap of 8 years a man was 28 and i thought he was very adult, was getting close to that "dangerous point" of turning into muzhik. Now i certanly don't think like that anymore:) it's also true that i never met a man above 30 whom i liked. Somehow they didn't exist for me and our paths never crossed in the reality or on the internet.

LMAO

I like this lady.

Zmejka, if I'm not mistaken the majority of girls this young think exactly alike.

Edit to add: I'm way past the 'muzhik' stage. 

[GQBlues]

Hello GOB, thank you!
I was not a supporter of a large age difference and almost all my relationships were within 2-4 age gap (except one with 8 age gap). Then i thought of a man no older than 30 year old - because for me one was a young man if he is before 30 and above 30 - not a young man but muzhik (more rough, worn-out).....

LMAO! What about a man who is twice the age of 30, plus 15 years or so?   

[Vasilisa]

I understand why 27+ year old FSUW could be on agency listings, but what motivates the younger ones (18-23) to search internationally?

When I asked my Russian pen pal what she usually does on weekends, she couldn't (didn't) answer. When I asked about this past weekend, she said go buy clocks with her mom, and catch up on sleep. The previous weekend was bake "anthill cake". She doesn't drink or smoke, and appears to be a homebody, but she's still in school, so I'm curious to ask,
"What prompted her to list herself in an agency

How is the student girl that spends free time with her mom and catches up on sleep on weekends supposed to meet and date guys?! Many girls look great in Russia, it doesn't mean they are approached by RM all the time.

Besides she may have a local boy friend and still be on the site looking for better life than living with a poor student.

[BillyB]

I think may be i would also leave the international dating if there was no succes, i dated local boys whom i met on the local sites of my city, at one moment i ended this.
 

 
You quit the local boys. If you had a bad experience with international dating, you would quit the foreign boys too. What is a girl to do? Stay single forever? A lot of women I talked to feel many of the good guys get taken quickly and stay taken. There are a handful of good men left to marry but a if a girl gets turned off by the bad men she's dated and stops looking for the good man, she will never find him.

[Zmejka]

You quit the local boys. If you had a bad experience with international dating, you would quit the foreign boys too. What is a girl to do? Stay single forever?

I mean that i quited the dating of local boys whom i met online because then i met someone in an usual way - via a circle of friends. If the international dating wouldn't have been a success there is a always a way back to dating online with locals or take a break from the international sites and get back there again. You never know where you get lucky so i would say the best strategy for any girl is not to take it too serious but still - be open to any opportunity, be proactive in general, imho.
 
GOB, that man could be the good old dedushka (grandpa), but as a saying goes - not the age makes a grandpa, but the fact he sleeps with a grandma:) 

[BillyB]

be open to any opportunity, be proactive in general, imho.
 

 
That's good advice for guys too. Although many divorced men lived with a woman for years, after marriage, when it comes to dating, they are clumsy and probably scare off the women they date. One shouldn't be discouraged and and quit. Experience communicating with women is important and that will come in handy when a guy tries to win over the right woman. I've been on first dates with women I didn't feel a connection with and if things are slow for me in the dating world, I'd ask her out again. I enjoy the experience and talking to women. I used to be nervous on dates. My confidence and being able to communicate well with ladies now gets me a lot of second dates compared to my younger days when I was better looking and had more hair.