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[Boethius]

Maybe Aloe will make an appearance on "Girls Gone Wild" and catapult her to a new career in film.

No can do.


http://www.salon.com/2013/05/07/girls_gone_wild_founder_headed_to_jail_ap/

[Aloe]

I know exactly what i want, the outline of it, it's just the small things that arent clear I do not want to be a career bunny. Imagining myself 35 and single and childless and however rich is an unwelcome thought. I want love and a family and children. And i want a guy i can love and respect and who will love me and respect me.
So why would i hide from men until some unknown later age?
I'm not divorcing lightly, i've spent at least 2 years thinking about it EVERY DAY, whether it's the right thing to do for both of us. I've had a very long time to get over the thought and i did. I don't feel in any way greatly emotionally affected by it, because i've been thinking and feeling it coming for years and because hubby wants to remain friends just as i do. I'm glad we are divorcing, hubby is glad. Everyone is pleased here.

[Misha]

So why would i hide from men until some unknown later age?

I wouldn't say hide, rather I would say take your time to figure yourself out and then make plans. Weren't you thinking of going to England to go to graduate school after you finish your undergraduate studies? Logically, it would make sense to do that first before seriously looking for any kind of relationship (short, mid or long-term).

[Aloe]

I wouldn't say hide, rather I would say take your time to figure yourself out and then make plans. Weren't you thinking of going to England to go to graduate school after you finish your undergraduate studies? Logically, it would make sense to do that first before seriously looking for any kind of relationship (short, mid or long-term).

These relationships take years to advance to actual moving in together, enough time for 3 graduate schools    Besides i'm flexible. If i meet someone very promising, i can do graduate school in his area. That's even better cuz then you don't come to a stranger, because you'll have 1 or 2 years to date like NORMAL people living apart in the same region and see if you like each other. How many trainwrecks would be prevented if everyone had this opportunity? 

[ML]

I wouldn't say hide, rather I would say take your time to figure yourself out and then make plans. Weren't you thinking of going to England to go to graduate school after you finish your undergraduate studies? Logically, it would make sense to do that first before seriously looking for any kind of relationship (short, mid or long-term).

Misha, you saying college kids shouldn't be involved in relationships?

Holy Mackerel Andy!!!   

[Misha]

Misha, you saying college kids shouldn't be involved in relationships?

Holy Mackerel Andy!!!   

No, but sometimes you have to focus on priorities  At this stage Aloe hasn't even moved out yet.... 

[Boethius]

She's been paving the way for two years, though. 

[Misha]

If i meet someone very promising, i can do graduate school in his area.

Playing the devil's advocate, I have to point out that rather than finding the grad school that would be best for you, in a field that you would enjoy, in a city that you would actually like, you would throw all that out the window simply for someone promising. Isn't that the same logic that caused all the problems you now face?

[Gator]

Aloe, you are in the process of being returned to single life.  You could transition in solitude, which is an excellent state for self-deliberation and focus.    Or you could transition by socializing, which will give you many creative ideas for your future, ideas you quite possibly would never have thought of by yourself.
 
From having done this many times, I say "socializing" is best.  There will be enough moments of solitude in any event.
 
I retract my statement if a Gypsy card reader has told you that your destiny is in America you will meet him this summer (and you believe the Gypsy).  Enter the trip to America with no expectations other than to enjoy the sense of discovery that accompanies an unplanned travel adventure.   The men you meet?  Who knows what will happen!
 
I was glad to read about how simple and amicable your divorce will be.  Something tells me that there still could be a contentious moment or two.  If so, ride it out with a smile on your face.  You are starting a new life!!!!

[Aloe]

Playing the devil's advocate, I have to point out that rather than finding the grad school that would be best for you, in a field that you would enjoy, in a city that you would actually like, you would throw all that out the window simply for someone promising. Isn't that the same logic that caused all the problems you now face?

I really don't care about what and where it is, since i don't like linguistics much anyway    Just doing it so i can say i have a degree    Since everyone and their dog is supposed to have a degree to be a pencil sharpener these days.. Especially in Belgium. Way blown out of proportions demands for pencil sharpeners and answering machines (degree + minimum 3 languages)

[Aloe]

Aloe, you are in the process of being returned to single life.  You could transition in solitude, which is an excellent state for self-deliberation and focus.    Or you could transition by socializing, which will give you many creative ideas for your future, ideas you quite possibly would never have thought of by yourself.
 
From having done this many times, I say "socializing" is best.  There will be enough moments of solitude in any event.
 
I retract my statement if a Gypsy card reader has told you that your destiny is in America you will meet him this summer (and you believe the Gypsy).  Enter the trip to America with no expectations other than to enjoy the sense of discovery that accompanies an unplanned travel adventure.   The men you meet?  Who knows what will happen!
 
I was glad to read about how simple and amicable your divorce will be.  Something tells me that there still could be a contentious moment or two.  If so, ride it out with a smile on your face.  You are starting a new life!!!!

I've spent 4 years in solitude, i think i've just about had enough of it

[Boethius]

цель оправдывает седства

[OlgaH]

I'm sure but was this article about homosexuality being punished by law removed from Russian judicial books?  Or is still there?

Here is some information and numbers of prosecuted, including famous people. The government just did not talk about it publicly

Уголовное преследование мужеложства в РСФСР


From the memoirs about Faina Ranevskaya

   Актеры  обсуждают на собрании  труппы  товарища,  который обвиняется  в
гомосексуализме: "Это растление молодежи, это преступление..."
     -- Боже мой,  несчастная  страна, где человек  не  может  распорядиться
своей жопой, -- вздохнула Раневская.

"My God, a miserable country where a person can not take charge of his own a$$"

[Misha]

I really don't care about what and where it is, since i don't like linguistics much anyway    Just doing it so i can say i have a degree    Since everyone and their dog is supposed to have a degree to be a pencil sharpener these days.. Especially in Belgium. Way blown out of proportions demands for pencil sharpeners and answering machines (degree + minimum 3 languages)

A prime example of what I am saying: take the time to figure out what you want to study.

[GQBlues]

I've spent 4 years in solitude, i think i've just about had enough of it  

You should try and look at those 4 years diferrently. Especially if you mean what you said that you'd like to remain friends with your hubby. After all, 4 years may well represent 5-6 maybe 10 percent of your life spent with someone you knew you 'loved' and was solely dedicated to.
 
Beyond that...go experience the world and all its peoples...hopefully in doing so, you'll find the place where you belong and have a better understanding where you can find your personal happiness.
 
Good luck.

[Ooooops]

Olga, could you edit your URL - it screwed up the whole page like a tooth abscess!   

[OlgaH]

Olga, could you edit your URL - it screwed up the whole page like a tooth abscess!   

  OK I did. I hope it looks better. Sorry, I could not see it, it looked normal on my screen.

[Ooooops]

OK I did. I hope it looks better. Sorry, I could not see it, it looked normal on my screen.

Thanks!   

[Ooooops]

If i meet someone very promising, i can do graduate school in his area.

Why would you want to do this if you don't want to be a "career bunny"?      

[Aloe]

Why would you want to do this if you don't want to be a "career bunny"?   

Because tons of guys want an educated woman 

[LAman]

I don't understand the big deal here with Aloe checking out some sites. I doubt she looking for a 'relationship' as much as looking for 'friendships'. Unfortunately, many of these sites contain people with one if not several issues...just ask Vasilisa. If you find somebody, just be careful Aloe with your choices. Your a PYT, single, in a strange land......can be taken advantage of, just make good decisions. I hope you have the time of your life, it is a wonderful city!!!!     Remember to dress warm in evenings......

[Muzh]

I don't understand the big deal here with Aloe checking out some sites. I doubt she looking for a 'relationship' as much as looking for 'friendships'.

Think again. 

[Boethius]

Because tons of guys want an educated woman 

Are you being facetious?

[LiveFromUkraine]

Are you being facetious?

haha I hope so.

[Noch1]

You want to be educated, but say your lazy around home, don't really want to work.
Want a man who is driven for success, seems many mixed signals.