Travelling

[Chessplayer]

Hello all,

This is my first post and I am only at the thinking about it stage but I have a few questions.

Firstly, I'm 53 years old and I'm looking for someone in their forties. The thing is that my circumstances are a bit unusual.

I took the decision that there were things I wanted to do before I got too old, so I sold my house, quit my job and here I am. The money from the house is now invested, and I every year I take out enough money to last me for the next 12 months. Would a FSU woman understand this?


I have decided to spend a year or two in Europe. At the moment I am living out of a suitcase, in Poland.

It is 5 years since my divorce and I want to share my life with someone and of course, become part of hers.

Would a FSU woman understand that before settling down to a normal everyday life we would wander around Europe for a year or two? This would have to mean that either her children were now adult or she does not have any. When I say wander, I do NOT mean stay in expensive hotels etc.. more like find a cheap apartment somewhere for 3 months, then go somewhere else for the next 3 months and so on.

I understand it is very important for a woman to consider stability when she leaves her country and she must have total trust in her new husband.

Imagine my first letter to a RW.

I have no house. I have no job. Where will I be in 6 months time?  I don't know.

Am I being totally unrealistic here? Is there a woman who would even consider leaving their own appartment to go who knows where?

The other alternative is to go back home, buy (or rent) an apartment and join the everyday world again, before looking for a partner.

Anybody have any ideas or advice?

Best regards to all,

Chessplayer

 

 

[PeeWee]

Hello all,

This is my first post and I am only at the thinking about it stage but I have a few questions.

Firstly, I'm 53 years old and I'm looking for someone in their forties. The thing is that my circumstances are a bit unusual.

I took the decision that there were things I wanted to do before I got too old, so I sold my house, quit my job and here I am. The money from the house is now invested, and I every year I take out enough money to last me for the next 12 months. Would a FSU woman understand this?


I have decided to spend a year or two in Europe. At the moment I am living out of a suitcase, in Poland.

It is 5 years since my divorce and I want to share my life with someone and of course, become part of hers.

Would a FSU woman understand that before settling down to a normal everyday life we would wander around Europe for a year or two? This would have to mean that either her children were now adult or she does not have any. When I say wander, I do NOT mean stay in expensive hotels etc.. more like find a cheap apartment somewhere for 3 months, then go somewhere else for the next 3 months and so on.

I understand it is very important for a woman to consider stability when she leaves her country and she must have total trust in her new husband.

Imagine my first letter to a RW.

I have no house. I have no job. Where will I be in 6 months time?  I don't know.

Am I being totally unrealistic here? Is there a woman who would even consider leaving their own appartment to go who knows where?

The other alternative is to go back home, buy (or rent) an apartment and join the everyday world again, before looking for a partner.

Anybody have any ideas or advice?

Best regards to all,

Chessplayer

 

 

Several weeks ago a friend asked me if I thought a RW would be interested in a middle aged bald man who has custody of his three children. Of course. Many women will agree to that. I told him to put it all on his profile, get the profile on Elena's models, and then wait and see who come round to take a look see. He has recieved many emails as a result of his profile. We used to have a saying when I served in the military. "Run it up the flagpole and see who salutes it." That is where I got this sage advices.

Peewee

[Bruno]

I have decided to spend a year or two in Europe. At the moment I am living out of a suitcase, in Poland.

It is 5 years since my divorce and I want to share my life with someone and of course, become part of hers.

Would a FSU woman understand that before settling down to a normal everyday life we would wander around Europe for a year or two?

I think that the main problem will be for the lady... not specially because of her but more because of administration... She will need a visa for Europe... A tourist visa is only 3 month, can be prolong to maximum 6 month... this mean 4 time return in her own country and new procedure for ask a visa...

Second problem, medical care... never know what can happen... changing of place each 3 month give only the time to make the paper in order in the host country...

A little question... Are you European yourself ? If yes, it help a lot... if no, more problem is possible...

[ronin308]

I'm sure you will be able to find someone in the FSU who would like what you want, after all people are different all over.  It will not be as easy as someone with a far more general requirement so it might take more time. 

Of course one advantage you have is that you can look outside of agencies.  A better idea for you would be to plan the next 6 months to travel eastern europe and look for that woman, if that's what you want.  For example get an apartment in Kiev and use it as a home base to visit various places in ukraine, in doing so you are accomplishing both goals at the same time.  By living closer to locals you have a greater exposure and chances of finding someone that meshes with what you want to do.

I do feel Bruno has a point, while waiting for USCIS my fiance and I have done a bit of traveling and while certain countries are easy to get in and out of for an FSU woman, many western european countries will have visa requirements and possibly be hell to get a visa for her.  I tend to forget this as a US passport generally means no visa for a good percentage of the world.

[Chessplayer]

Hi all,

and many thanks for the prompt and sensible replies.

Yes I am European, British in fact. I am also half Polish and can get by pretty well using the Polish language. I am told that there is something like a 50% transference rate between Ukrainian, Russian and Polish, so I hope that would give me a good start in talking to someone.

Yes, renting an appartment in the Ukraine for a few months is a good idea. In Poland, I have stayed in Warsaw and Krakow, so perhaps now it is time for a break somewhere smaller and quieter for the summer.

Any suggestions?

Those are good points about visas and health insurance, I also tend to think that with a EU passport I can go anywhere. I forgot that this does not apply to everyone though. (I am new to all this, and this point just shows how valuable a board like this can be!)

Best regards to all,

Chessplayer.

[Bruno]

Yes, renting an appartment in the Ukraine for a few months is a good idea. In Poland, I have stayed in Warsaw and Krakow, so perhaps now it is time for a break somewhere smaller and quieter for the summer.

Any suggestions?

Those are good points about visas and health insurance, I also tend to think that with a EU passport I can go anywhere. I forgot that this does not apply to everyone though.

For European citizen, Ukraine is visa free, so it will not be a problem for you... of course, if you wish stay a long term in Ukraine ( more that 6 months ), the same problem that with visa exist... the maximum legal stay is 6 month without visa...

But if you plan your stay very good, it is possible choice a way very simple... by example, you stay in Ukraine until October... and after, you go to Moldava for one month... and finaly return to Ukraine for again six month... Why October in Moldova ? Moldava is not visa free, except during one short periode, two week before and two week after the national wine festival... Moldova is a neightbour country of Ukraine, so it is a short trip and without visa during these short yearly periode... so since you have go out ukraine, you are able to go back for 6 month more...

Suggestions of place for stay in Ukraine ? Simply draw a map, close your eyes and launch a darts... in any case, if you are ready to stay in appartment who are like these of local people, it will be cheap... i have hire a appartment in Odessa for the next month ( but stay only 3 weeks ) with furniture, near center ( 15 minute tram ) for only 200$ month... last year in Nikolaev, more smaller city, it was 180$ for one month...

[Chessplayer]

Bruno and all,

Many thanks for the information. It is apreciated.

I am going to think about things for a while now. I hadn't even considered Moldova before.

My thanks to all,

Chessplayer

 

[Bruno]

Moldova has instituted a National Wine Holiday, which is held on the second Sunday in October. This formalizes an old tradition that, as soon as the new wine had settled, the winegrower invites friends and neighbours to taste the new wine. Everyone joins the winegrowers in the "hora" dances at wine holiday time.

Several western people staying in Ukraine have problem with stay more long that 6 month... a short trip to Moldova allow you to enter again in Ukraine with a new stamp in passport valid 3 month ( can be prolong to 6 month )...

Of course, you can use these short trip to date women from Moldova and maybe find a potential wife... for lady from Moldova, take a look at :

http://freepersonals.ru/search.php?from_age=18&to_age=99&country=27&photos=with_photos&action=search_by_params&gender=f&submit=Search

518 women and for FREE

[tbelknap]

Hi Bruno,


I didn't realize you could prolong the visa free entry to 6  months.  Have you had any problems doing this.  I am a US  Citizen, do you think I will be able to do the same thing?

When you leave the country after 6 months, how long do you need to leave for.


I appreciate your comments.  I was looking into getting a visa  because I wanted to stay for close to 6 months.  So this may work  out better. 



Thanks,


Tom

[Bruno]

http://www.mfa.gov.ua/mfa/en/509.htm  

At the territory of Ukraine the period of visas validity could be prolonged. Diplomatic and service visas, issued to diplomatic personal, officers of diplomatic institutions, consular institutions, international and other organizations, accredited in Ukraine are prolonged by the Department of Consular Service of the Ministry of Foreign Affairs of Ukraine. Other visa types are prolonged by the organs of the Ministry of Internal Affairs of Ukraine.  

Depending on validity, there exist the following types of visas: short-term visas (issued for up to 6 months) and long-term visas (6-12 months); by frequency of use the visas are divided into single, multiple and collective

In any case, always control the official site before departure to a foreign country... the last years, rules and law have change a lot and it seem that more change are planned ( for make it more easy )... bookmark link but consider text copied on forum having a validity of only a few month... links like these of foreign office and ambassy ( consular section ) from the destination country is always a good reference...

[groovlstk]

Yes I am European, British in fact. I am also half Polish and can get  by pretty well using the Polish language. I am told that there is  something like a 50% transference rate between Ukrainian, Russian and  Polish, so I hope that would give me a good start in talking to someone.

I believe this is true. I met a Ukrainian woman in Warsaw last  Spring, it was her first trip there. After several conversations with  Polish people she told me she could communicate with them on a basic  level, as there many words common to both Russian and Polish.

[RussianGal]

.. I have a few questions.
...I have no house. I have no job. Where willI be in 6 months time? I don't know...
...Am I being totally unrealistic here? Is there a woman who would even consider leaving their own appartment to go who knows where? ...

It`s a question of personality, not nationality. Are there Russian women who love extensive travelling? Of course! Me, for example, but I`m married already. ;-) It does not matter what country you are from.

[Jay Patches]

I would spend the summer in Sevastopol.  It is on the Black Sea, has many activities, is small enough to not be too crowded, and large enough not to be boring.  It is not a huge tourist trap like Yalta, and so prices are very reasonable, especially if you are a long term resident (more than a month).  Food, women, interesting sights, and good weather are in abundance.