Why do so many women give up with International dating within days?

[steveboy]

Guys need to spare a few thoughts for the genuine young pretty girls who sign up to a Russian dating site expecting to find a decent guy who really is serous , only to be bombarded with ridiculous mails from hundreds of guys old enough to be their grandfathers. Its a big problem for the women. Many give up after just a few days. Below are typical answers from women pestered non stop from the day they sign up. Yes they can have a filter but few use.
And it shows you further the exact reason why most guys become victims of scammers. Stupidity nothing less.



**** [ 2013-08-13 12:25:06 ]
u are sick,u dont know me and u write me that u want me and love me.u just not educated stupid idiot
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***  [ 2013-07-31 05:28:39 ]
u such old for me,look what age i search,i search man not father     

[GQBlues]

WOW steveboy! Are those you got in your inbox? I'm sorry you're striking out, man.

Maybe you should stay within your league and age range, no?   


Seriously though. Mind telling us how you got a hold of those 'responses'?

[steveboy]

  Are you saying Im a cradle snatcher?

[fathertime]

Guys need to spare a few thoughts for the genuine young pretty girls who sign up to a Russian dating site expecting to find a decent guy who really is serous , only to be bombarded with ridiculous mails from hundreds of guys old enough to be their grandfathers. Its a big problem for the women. Many give up after just a few days.     

Perhaps the ladies expectations are not in line with reality.   That could be partially the fault of the agency that signs them up, if they leave them with the impression that men their age are going to be contacting them.  My impression is there aren't that many young men from the USA (and Europe?) involved in pursuing ladies from the FSU.  If they are under the impression that a 25 year old male model with money is going to be pursuing them, they will be disappointed.  In addition if men are writing ridiculous/mushy crap, they look like fools, and women think they are nuts…definitely not a man most would want in their life.   An international relationship is probably only for a small % of ladies, some of the ladies maybe start realizing that after they sign up  and start getting the emails from candidates that live far from home or are too old, or are rude. 


Fathertime!   

[fathertime]

Are you saying Im a cradle snatcher?

That is a very nice looking lady Steve.  Thanks for sharing!


Fathertime! 

[steveboy]

Thanks! Yes I was very lucky to meet a normal women, though slightly crazy. 

[steveboy]

WOW steveboy! Are those you got in your inbox? I'm sorry you're striking out, man.

Maybe you should stay within your league and age range, no?   


Seriously though. Mind telling us how you got a hold of those 'responses'?

A fair few women put complaints in about guys approaching them, usually before they block them. Im just trying to defend some of the women here and say what sh** they have to put up with each day. There also the guys who think they are doing the women a favour "rescuing her from poverty" they are the ones that can get pretty abusive to some girls. So spare a thought for some of the women

[Larry1]

This search must be difficult for the girls too.  In addition to the obvious social misfits and worse, there are other difficulties a girl faces.  I know one very nice and slender girl who spoke English very well who was talking to an Australian guy regularly until one day she received a phone call from his wife.  She eventually gave up on her search.  Not one guy had ever visited her.

I know another girl who was gorgeous and spoke English reasonably well.  When she decided to look for a husband abroad she went online and began emailing and chatting with a guy. I think this went on for a few months when she found out the guy who had been writing to her had used a model's photos for his profile.  After this she made it a rule to go to skype video very soon. 

Her next boyfriend was real.  A real sex tourist who traveled to Russia pretty regularly and wanted a tall, gorgeous girl to have sex with on his trips.  He was one of the clever ones; I doubt most FSUW could have deduced that he was a sex tourist at first.  Her profile was very clear that she wanted to marry and have a child.  He lead her to believe that's what he too wanted.  After accompanying him on several of his business trips to Russia she asked him if their next visit could be to her city, so that he could meet her family.  He agreed, but after returning home he disappeared from skype.  She sent him an SMS message asking him to log on to skype.  When they talked she asked him what was going on.  He replied that he had "changed his mind" about marriage and family.  It wasn't until her third attempt that she finally found a charming and handsome fellow with good intentions.

[steveboy]

This search must be difficult for the girls too.  In addition to the obvious social misfits and worse, there are other difficulties a girl faces.  I know one very nice and slender girl who spoke English very well who was talking to an Australian guy regularly until one day she received a phone call from his wife.  She eventually gave up on her search.  Not one guy had ever visited her.

I know another girl who was gorgeous and spoke English reasonably well.  When she decided to look for a husband abroad she went online and began emailing and chatting with a guy. I think this went on for a few months when she found out the guy who had been writing to her had used a model's photos for his profile.  After this she made it a rule to go to skype video very soon. 

Her next boyfriend was real.  A real sex tourist who traveled to Russia pretty regularly and wanted a tall, gorgeous girl to have sex with on his trips.  He was one of the clever ones; I doubt most FSUW could have deduced that he was a sex tourist at first.  Her profile was very clear that she wanted to marry and have a child.  He lead her to believe that's what he too wanted.  After accompanying him on several of his business trips to Russia she asked him if their next visit could be to her city, so that he could meet her family.  He agreed, but after returning home he disappeared from skype.  She sent him an SMS message asking him to log on to skype.  When they talked she asked him what was going on.  He replied that he had "changed his mind" about marriage and family.  It wasn't until her third attempt that she finally found a charming and handsome fellow with good intentions.

All very true! There are thousands of guys taking some really nice girls for a ride every day. Many are married. Serous women can have big problems trying to find a serous guy on the net.

[Faux Pas]

Men are dogs 

[I/O]

Why do so many women give up with International dating within days?

The discover I got married........

[jone]

They discover I got married........

Wrong, I/O.

If they discovered the happiness and children that you have provided your better half, they'd hang around those sites until the cows come home.

[GQBlues]

Are you saying Im a cradle snatcher?

Congratulations! Pretty wife steveboy!

During my first trip to Moscow back in the days, I noticed the latest female trend then (in addition to those elf shoes for men) was to wear those humongous sunglasses that literally cause a total eclipse of the sun for everyone else around them...why do women wear those things?

It makes them look like praying mantises...

[Anotherkiwi]

...It makes them look like praying mantises...

And what, pray, do you have against mantises?  My favourite insect, as they're one of the very few that you can see watching you and reacting to what you do!  And they're happy to be taken for a walk...

[steveboy]

Congratulations! Pretty wife steveboy!

During my first trip to Moscow back in the days, I noticed the latest female trend then (in addition to those elf shoes for men) was to wear those humongous sunglasses that literally cause a total eclipse of the sun for everyone else around them...why do women wear those things?

It makes them look like praying mantises...

Thanks!  I like those huge sunglasses, its the sunglasses and heels for me

[Misha]

Guys need to spare a few thoughts for the genuine young pretty girls who sign up to a Russian dating site expecting to find a decent guy who really is serous , only to be bombarded with ridiculous mails from hundreds of guys old enough to be their grandfathers. Its a big problem for the women.

Online dating is all about triage and it is a numbers game. If women or men expect to find the "one" the first day, they should not look for love online.

Many give up after just a few days.

Not necessarily a bad thing. Immigration is not easy, so if a woman quits so easily and can't set long-term goals and deal with the inevitable hurdles to get to those goals, then she would IMVHO find it quite difficult to pack up and start a life in a new country.

[Lily]

Congratulations! Pretty wife steveboy!

During my first trip to Moscow back in the days, I noticed the latest female trend then (in addition to those elf shoes for men) was to wear those humongous sunglasses that literally cause a total eclipse of the sun for everyone else around them...why do women wear those things?

It makes them look like praying mantises...

Loving them!
 
Most faces look better with a certain form of sunglasses. It basically comes to the shape of the face.
I only wear oversize sunglasses.

[Muzh]

Well, of course.
 
There are some cuties who can get away with it. 

[ML]

All this anguish about the ladies receiving unwanted contact is a bit of rubbish.

We all have to put up with such on a daily basis from phone call, emails, mail boxes full of trash, etc.  It is modern life.

So how to minimize it, or how to handle that which you do get without becoming angry with it?

For the standard situation;  Put yourself on 'do not call' lists.  Set up several email accounts and give out those addresses to appropriate persons, organizations.  Get a paper shredder.

Now, more specifically for the complaining FSUW.

As someone mentioned, FIRST get educated about what WM are frequenting  these FSU dating sites.  The vast majority of such WM are NOT the young, handsome, rich men that the younger FSUW are hoping for.  STEVEBOY and other such . . . It is YOUR job to educate the women about this.

If they are properly  educated about it, and still choose to continue to be on the dating sites . . . then they have no reason to complain about the contacts they get.

SECOND, they prepare a one sentence reply when they do not wish to continue.  It should not be of the nasty type.

"I received your contact; Thanks, but we are not a good match for several reasons and this will be my last communication."

This sentence should be on every dating website, so that it can merely be clicked on to send.

STEVEBOY, if you  don't have this sentence, then you are not doing your job and YOU are the one responsible for bringing anguish to your gals  and to yourself.

THIRD, the gals (or guys) merely delete all further messages from the persons without even reading . . . and certainly without getting upset about the messages.      AND NEVER reply again; nastily or nicely.

[GQBlues]

And what, pray, do you have against mantises?  My favourite insect, as they're one of the very few that you can see watching you and reacting to what you do!  And they're happy to be taken for a walk...

Love Praying Mantis. Everyone should have at least a hundred of them in their garden. Along with a thousand lovebugs, though not the Florida variety.

But I suppose, as Lily pointed out, it does matter on who wears those satellite dish lenses. It's just that every time I walked towards a woman wearing one of those on, there's this surreal creeping feeling of anticipation that she'll robotically remark, "Take me to your Leader!"

[Anotherkiwi]

Love Praying Mantis. Everyone should have at least a hundred of them in their garden. Along with a thousand lovebugs, though not the Florida variety.

But I suppose, as Lily pointed out, it does matter on who wears those satellite dish lenses. It's just that every time I walked towards a woman wearing one of those on, there's this surreal creeping feeling of anticipation that she'll robotically remark, "Take me to your Leader!"

Considering how you feel about Obama, I wonder whether your reaction would be  or  or  .

[Ranetka]

All this anguish about the ladies receiving unwanted contact is a bit of rubbish.

We all have to put up with such on a daily basis from phone call, emails, mail boxes full of trash, etc.  It is modern life.

So how to minimize it, or how to handle that which you do get without becoming angry with it?

For the standard situation;  Put yourself on 'do not call' lists.  Set up several email accounts and give out those addresses to appropriate persons, organizations.  Get a paper shredder.

Now, more specifically for the complaining FSUW.

As someone mentioned, FIRST get educated about what WM are frequenting  these FSU dating sites.  The vast majority of such WM are NOT the young, handsome, rich men that the younger FSUW are hoping for.  STEVEBOY and other such . . . It is YOUR job to educate the women about this.

If they are properly  educated about it, and still choose to continue to be on the dating sites . . . then they have no reason to complain about the contacts they get.

SECOND, they prepare a one sentence reply when they do not wish to continue.  It should not be of the nasty type.

"I received your contact; Thanks, but we are not a good match for several reasons and this will be my last communication."

This sentence should be on every dating website, so that it can merely be clicked on to send.

STEVEBOY, if you  don't have this sentence, then you are not doing your job and YOU are the one responsible for bringing anguish to your gals  and to yourself.

THIRD, the gals (or guys) merely delete all further messages from the persons without even reading . . . and certainly without getting upset about the messages.      AND NEVER reply again; nastily or nicely.

I am with ML on all points.

[steveboy]

All this anguish about the ladies receiving unwanted contact is a bit of rubbish.

We all have to put up with such on a daily basis from phone call, emails, mail boxes full of trash, etc.  It is modern life.

So how to minimize it, or how to handle that which you do get without becoming angry with it?

For the standard situation;  Put yourself on 'do not call' lists.  Set up several email accounts and give out those addresses to appropriate persons, organizations.  Get a paper shredder.

Now, more specifically for the complaining FSUW.




As someone mentioned, FIRST get educated about what WM are frequenting  these FSU dating sites.  The vast majority of such WM are NOT the young, handsome, rich men that the younger FSUW are hoping for.  STEVEBOY and other such . . . It is YOUR job to educate the women about this.

If they are properly  educated about it, and still choose to continue to be on the dating sites . . . then they have no reason to complain about the contacts they get.

SECOND, they prepare a one sentence reply when they do not wish to continue.  It should not be of the nasty type.

"I received your contact; Thanks, but we are not a good match for several reasons and this will be my last communication."

This sentence should be on every dating website, so that it can merely be clicked on to send.

STEVEBOY, if you  don't have this sentence, then you are not doing your job and YOU are the one responsible for bringing anguish to your gals  and to yourself.

THIRD, the gals (or guys) merely delete all further messages from the persons without even reading . . . and certainly without getting upset about the messages.      AND NEVER reply again; nastily or nicely.

I agree with all you say I just pointing out what sh** some women have to face. Can you imagine some nice sweet lady from a Russian village deciding to try and find a nice guy from the West. Some guy sends her a mail, she doesn't answer or sends a polite no thank you. The guy then sends a mail"You ****** Russian sl** !! I will shove my ****** bla bla boa. Well a few of those and they will soon and DO loose interest. There are some dam crazy men out there:)
Just saying

[PaulK]

In 2013 why would a Russian woman use a marriage type agency's website?

[steveboy]

Simple,Just for first initial contact and nothing else. There is no need for mail forwarding, video chat sites or any other stuff people are selling or some stupid middle man. Sign up, make some contacts then move on to Skye and more personal communication