What about Prenuptial agreement??

[tim 360]

When I was a much younger man I thought that prenups were only for older men.  A young man has his ideals and romantic love and he sees that the future with his new bride is bright and clear.  Others might divorce,  but not he and his new bride. It is but a young mans folly and ignorance doing that thinking.

As the years passed my eyes saw what couples would do to each other once in the divorce mode.  I would watch once happy couples now battle for years over $ and property.  In earlier and better times these happily married couples were great dinner companions and friends.  Now out of those 6 couples only 1 is still married to each other.

One never knows what will be coming around the corner in 5 or 8 or 10 years.  People change and relationships change.  A prenup,  if you have assets it is just a little insurance which can spell the agreement clearly and hopefully legally so you can keep your pants and shoes.

My buddys father is a high-end corporate NY/DC lawyer,  60 years old,  3 grown kids,  major partner in a large law firm and happily married for 35 years.  He has a very mild stroke and is hospitalized for 5 days.  His son brings him home from the hospital and.....his wife left that very day,  took the stuff she liked (like in a moving van),  helped herself to the bank accounts and took off with a guy 20 years younger.  Ya just never know.  Tim360



 

[PeeWee]

When I was a much younger man I thought that prenups were only for older men.¦nbsp; A young man has his ideals and romantic love and he sees that the future with his new bride is bright and clear.¦nbsp; Others might divorce,¦nbsp; but not he and his new bride. It is but a young mans folly and ignorance doing that thinking.

As the years passed my eyes saw what couples would do to each other once in the divorce mode.¦nbsp; I would watch once happy couples now battle for years over $ and property.¦nbsp; In earlier and better times these happily married couples were great dinner companions and friends.¦nbsp; Now out of those 6 couples only 1 is still married to each other.

One never knows what will be coming around the corner in 5 or 8 or 10 years.¦nbsp; People change and relationships change.¦nbsp; A prenup,¦nbsp; if you have assets it is just a little insurance which can spell the agreement clearly and hopefully legally so you can keep your pants and shoes.

My buddys father is a high-end corporate NY/DC lawyer,¦nbsp; 60 years old,¦nbsp; 3 grown kids,¦nbsp; major partner in a large law firm and happily married for 35 years.¦nbsp; He has a very mild stroke and is hospitalized for 5 days.¦nbsp; His son brings him home from the hospital and.....his wife left that very day,¦nbsp; took the stuff she liked (like in a moving van),¦nbsp; helped herself to the bank accounts and took off with a guy 20 years younger.¦nbsp; Ya just never know.¦nbsp; Tim360



 

yep, women are tricky bastards alright. What was happy today is forgotten tomorrow. An agreement sets the mood of the happy times come hell or high water.

Peewee

[Son of Clyde]

Ok you can stop laughing now because I know this will elicit a chuckle or two.

Is there such a thing as a post-nup or is it called a divorce? 

Don't think it is for me, we are doing very well thank you.

This is for those who forgot the pre-nup.

[Turboguy]

No a post nup is not a divorce.   There is such a thing as a post nup and it is legal in many but not all states.  The closer to the marrage day the better but as long as both have legal counsil and agree it is fine where allowed.

[Turboguy]

Clyde, some things can actually be done better in a post nup.  For example rights to a Pension benefit can not be waived by a fiancee, only a wife.  A post nup is the only way to deal with that issue legally.

[George_123]

Clyde, some things can actually be done better in a post nup.  For example rights to a Pension benefit can not be waived by a fiancee, only a wife.  A post nup is the only way to deal with that issue legally.

Thanks guys!!

[George_123]

Good point jb.. I am not the BigDaddyWarbucks guy. This is for all the guys and all the girls
You don't have to be a Rockefeller or Trump to need a premarital agreement. A person who has managed to save $30,000 may be more protective of their little nest egg than someone who has millions.

You should consider having a prenup if you fall into any of the following categories:

You have assets such as a home, stock or retirement funds
Own all or part of a business
You may be receiving an inheritance
You have children and/or grandchildren from a previous marriage
One of you is much wealthier than the other
One of you will be supporting the other through college
You have loved ones who need to be taken care of, such as elderly parents
You have or are pursuing a degree or license in a potentially lucrative profession such as medicine
You could see a big increase in income because your business is taking off, or that garage band you play in has just gotten a contract with a big record company.

So how does one broach this touchy subject? First, do it as early as possible. The mention of a prenup shouldn't come as a surprise if you and your sweetheart have been open with each other as the relationship became serious.

Second, the discussion must be honest. "You have to be real candid about why you want the agreement. It's not very romantic, but you have to appreciate what the other party's concerns are.

Next, hire separate attorneys. To help ensure an enforceable agreement, both parties need their own lawyers. Many a prenup has been thrown out because an aggrieved spouse did not have legal representation.

Difficult as it may be to talk about money before marriage, doing so can save heartache and hassles in the long run. A prenup can minimize the financial and emotional toll of a divorce. Couples without one will have their assets distributed for them by the state if the marriage ends and they disagree about who should get what.

Without a prenup, assets could end up in the hands of your spouse's children from a previous marriage instead of your own kids, or they could go to a slothful mate who did nothing while you toiled away at a business or book that eventually became a big success.

Good luck!!

[Wist]

Never having been married, I am curious about the women's reactions when the subject is brought up, especially the newly arrived FCU/W? Doubt, resentment,  understanding?

[BC]

Never having been married, I am curious about the women's reactions when the subject is brought up, especially the newly arrived FCU/W? Doubt, resentment,  understanding?

Wist,

It seems very few around have actual experience with prenups..  we talk and talk and talk about it but that's all.  A good bit upthread I asked if someone could post a neutralized copy (names, addresses etc) of their prenups so we could see what they look like but no takers..  I would have at least expected one or two to chip in, but nothing.... nada.

[BillyB]

Never having been married, I am curious about the women's reactions when the subject is brought up, especially the newly arrived FCU/W? Doubt, resentment,  understanding?

Wist, turboguy is getting a prenup and his fiancee who posts here is fine with that. I've seen other women on these forums totally against it.

If a rich/famous woman who wanted to marry me told me   "Since I'm rich/famous and I attract all types of the wrong people with my money and fame, I need to know if you truly love me and sign this one sided prenup that states you will not receive anymore money than what I earn in the marriage in the event of a divorce" , I would sign it if I knew she to be a good person. When two good people get together, good things can happen without money. I can marry for love without money issues being a problem. If a guy had big bucks or was famous and a magnet for all the wrong girls, he should be concerned about the women who absolutely wouldn't sign a prenup under any conditions.

Most people don't need a prenup but some do.
         

[Zhena]

[quoteIf a guy had big bucks or was famous and a magnet for all the wrong girls, he should be concerned about the women who absolutely wouldn't sign a prenup under any conditions.[/quote]
Yep. If you dont plan to divorce,why wont you sign it?

[2tallbill]

This thread almost always creates debate. Angel Eyes and I did not do one.