Mid-20's Guy Looking for Wife

[Maverick47]

Hey all.

I'm a 26 (almost 27) year old military guy, originally from New York City and currently stationed in California. I've dated a bunch of American women and have found that they are not for me. I'm looking for a lifelong partner and I'm willing to take the risk of going abroad.

To be honest, I am most attracted to Asian women, but I'm definitely open to all women of all countries. I'm basically just looking at my different options right now.

Unfortunately, my commitment (and job) doesn't allow me to take much time off so I'm unable to actively search (have gotten leave requests to many countries denied). But my contract is up at the end of the next year and I will have all the time in the world to travel all over the place.

Looking forward to learning from (and eventually contributing to) this awesome forum!

[jone]

Maverick,

Welcome aboard.  There is plenty of information here, on this site, to indulge your search for knowledge and future life partner.  Thank you for serving your country.

I would hope that you avail yourself of some of the introductory threads.  These are called 'Sticky' threads and appear at the top of each forum topic list.

Most of the men on this site are either searching for or have found an Eastern European wife.  These women are characterized by their beautiful features and cultural standards (which many of us feel that have been lost by American/Western women).  Stick around and find out why we believe that there is no group of women on this earth who can compare to the women of Eastern Europe.

[Maverick47]

Thanks for the welcome man! I'll be sure to check that out.

[JohnDearGreen]

Hello Bret,
I guess Maverick didn't come here to lose, so play your cards wisely.

[Ade]

Hey all.

I'm a 26 (almost 27) year old military guy, originally from New York City and currently stationed in California. I've dated a bunch of American women and have found that they are not for me. I'm looking for a lifelong partner and I'm willing to take the risk of going abroad.

To be honest, I am most attracted to Asian women, but I'm definitely open to all women of all countries. I'm basically just looking at my different options right now.

Unfortunately, my commitment (and job) doesn't allow me to take much time off so I'm unable to actively search (have gotten leave requests to many countries denied). But my contract is up at the end of the next year and I will have all the time in the world to travel all over the place.

Looking forward to learning from (and eventually contributing to) this awesome forum!

The question you should ask yourself is, why the FSU? What is it about women from there that you think you can't find from elsewhere where they speak your language, share a similar culture and generally have an easier time traveling to the west?

[Shadow]

Welcome Maverick. First of all, as far as I understand there are several millions of American women in your age, I wonder what made you come to the conclusion that all of them are not for you. Keeping your options open should include the local women, even if you do not have a lot of confidence in there being a specimen that fits what you look for.
The first step you should take is think of who you are and what you are going to do with your life. When your contract finishes you will have some freedom, but what are your plans for the next 80 years or so you may be on this planet. Once you figured that one out, consider your own personality and character. Get to know your wishes, but also your weaknesses. See yourself as a stranger would see you, and try to find what would attract someone to spend a life with you.
When you got that out of the way, consider how you prefer to handle dating. Are you used to date casual and have multiple candidates waiting, or do you devote yourself to one woman at the time? This is going to be important once you get to terms like WOVO and WMVM.

Once you know who you are, what you want and how you will handle it, start the search for penpals. Be honest about when you plan to travel, and be sure not to waste time or a lot of money by getting caught up the wrong way (paying per letter for 9 months to find the girl disappearing as soon as you can travel is the wrong way).
If you have a good contact, do not consider yourself married yet. No matter how great a time you have by chatting on Skype, it can all vanish in 5 minutes of face time. Until you meet and have established a relationship in person, keep a level head and stop yourself from being in love with a dream.

Good luck in finding a loving wife, from where ever she may be.

[Maverick47]

The question you should ask yourself is, why the FSU? What is it about women from there that you think you can't find from elsewhere where they speak your language, share a similar culture and generally have an easier time traveling to the west?

I am just exploring different options. Unlike Asians and Latinas, I have never dated girls from the FSU (and haven't really met many). So I don't really know what to expect.

I'm just looking into it and seeing what's out there.

[Maverick47]

Didn't notice these responses until just now. Sorry!

Welcome Maverick. First of all, as far as I understand there are several millions of American women in your age, I wonder what made you come to the conclusion that all of them are not for you. Keeping your options open should include the local women, even if you do not have a lot of confidence in there being a specimen that fits what you look for.

Yes, my confidence is shaky, but it has been improving with my career success. As far as American women go, they've treated me pretty poorly over the years and I have no reason to believe that things will improve. Also, I can't seem to find one that meets my dealbreakers (that I'm also attracted to):

1) Wants kids
2) Doesn't have kids
3) Brings value to the table (either through a career or cooking and cleaning)
4) Thin
5) Family oriented
6) Doesn't have a major psychological disorder
7) Age (under 30)
Open-minded

I've dated a lot of American women and I've been disappointed every time. Maybe foreign women are the same. I don't know unless I try, right?

The first step you should take is think of who you are and what you are going to do with your life. When your contract finishes you will have some freedom, but what are your plans for the next 80 years or so you may be on this planet. Once you figured that one out, consider your own personality and character. Get to know your wishes, but also your weaknesses. See yourself as a stranger would see you, and try to find what would attract someone to spend a life with you.

I have a degree and career in a field that translates into opportunities in the civilian world. Finding work will not be a problem. I'm currently looking at various investments as well.

When you got that out of the way, consider how you prefer to handle dating. Are you used to date casual and have multiple candidates waiting, or do you devote yourself to one woman at the time? This is going to be important once you get to terms like WOVO and WMVM.

Up until very recently, I've been casual dating. I've tried serious dating during those times as well, but that usually ends badly here in the US. I prefer one girl at a time (though I will probably message many when it comes to foreign women).

Once you know who you are, what you want and how you will handle it, start the search for penpals. Be honest about when you plan to travel, and be sure not to waste time or a lot of money by getting caught up the wrong way (paying per letter for 9 months to find the girl disappearing as soon as you can travel is the wrong way).

I know who I am and I'm very into self improvement. So I am getting better daily. 

Each year, I have more and more self-realizations (which is what brought me here, ultimately).

If you have a good contact, do not consider yourself married yet. No matter how great a time you have by chatting on Skype, it can all vanish in 5 minutes of face time. Until you meet and have established a relationship in person, keep a level head and stop yourself from being in love with a dream.

Good luck in finding a loving wife, from where ever she may be.

Yes, I'm aware of this. As I said, I talked to girls from Asia before. I talked to one girl for 4 months, about 2-3 hours per day. That was a mistake. She vanished. I learned a lot from it though. So I guess all's well that ends well. 

Thanks for the advice!

[steveboy]

Dont take this the wrong way!! just asking are you over 200kg, with bad teeth and body odour? if so are you hoping it will be an easier job to find yourself a Russian/Ukrainian women? If so , my advise is to go to Thailand:)