Feelings & Facebook - What's Normal Here?...

[odsguy]

Hi Forum Members!


I wonder about a 2 things:


1. Love

It's a big deal. In English speaking countries, the words 'I love you' are thrown around and it has become meaningless. Love is a serious thing, and I doubt that here people say it often, even when married. Dostoevsky wrote, "Don't tell a Russian woman you love her so much, she won't respect you". And I like that - men need to be strong!

But, when does it happen? When does this phrase become said? Italians or Americans (for example) say it too much. But in general, when does it happen - in ten years? Maybe she doesn't feel this way towards me at all. But I don't know, I'm just wearing my heart of my sleeve here. Give me some some feedback guys


2. Facebook

Really, it sounds very immature of me. But, Facebook. Facebook really is nonsense. Sharing your entire life with everyone in real time is ridiculous. But it's become part of my generation. She doesn't really post anything of me on her Facebook, and she's not so active on Facebook in general. But - is this worry for concern? Of course the initial instinct is that, "she's not so proud of you". But with my naive, rose-tinted glasses I think, "It's a different culture. People don't share every intimate detail of their life with everyone". So what is your opinion of this?



So there you have it guys/girls. All my insecurities, put on a dish. Please give feedback: negative, positive or just plain yelling. All will be appreciated.


Thanks! All I'll contribute wherever I can as well.

[Shadow]

1. Expressing love.
If she does not mention it at all, it may indeed be the case. While the words are not thrown around meaningless, as far as I know they are mentioned. If she avoids it even when you tease her, you might wonder what it is that stops her.

2. Facebook.
If you mean Facebook itself, it is used much less. Check if she has a profile on vKontakte or OdnoKlassniki and see if those are more active.

[ML]

And if you're from America - Russian speaking/Slavic people are much more clever, witty and just plain smart.

You are so full of sheeeeet if you think this.

I have been to FSU dozens of times (mostly on business) and met thousands of the local university graduated folks.

On average, most are less intelligent than white university graduated USA folks.

It is certainly true that a western guy can go to FSU and meet women who are above average intelligence for FSU and above what these men have met in USA.

But to extrapolate level of intelligence to the average FSU person is totally false.

[The Natural]

I have been to FSU dozens of times (mostly on business) and met thousands of the local university graduated folks.

On average, most are less intelligent than white university graduated USA folks.

Oh but of course they are. As are people from all other areas of the globe. Nobody can come close to the intelligence of the exceptional people, that goes without saying.

 

[GQBlues]

Hi Forum Members!


I wonder about a 2 things:

Man, here we go again....edited post, too to boot... 

So you're supposedly a 28 years old westerner working in Odessa as an IT person, huh?!? Okidokee

Well, to answer your question/s, why don't you find out yourself? Ask the question during that certain intimate, passion consuming moment, you know.....that moment when the heat is about to explode and you find yourself compelled to stroke her hair and say the proverbial -  "Look at me" remark, you should then add the question,

"do you....ahhhhhh...luv...umm gawd!...meeeeeeeeeeiiiiii...ooooooohhhhhhhh, yes, yes..that's goooood baby!"?


add:

OP-

This is a board serving the MOB - FSU region. Keep that in mind...

So your question is directed to men, where the majority of which fall in love within a minute or two after the picture finished downloading. Shortly after that, I'd guess between 15 minutes to about a day later, they send money.

As for the women, it is highly likely she'll fall in love by the next letter. Complete with terms of endearment like "I kiss you Zorro'; or, <3 , or, @----}---. These really makes the male MOBer's juices going and sends even more money. Then they come here asking how to file for a K-1 visa or recommendations for the best immigration lawyer or best shipper.

Responses may vary but generally be tagged with *YMMV*. Sometimes argument ensues and bitching amongst each other follows. Shortly there after, the thread wanders off to anywhere from *I hate Putin* to *The Blue Balls Squad from Down Under*.

That's in a nutshell, of course.

[LiveFromUkraine]

I like to take a more scientific approach to this old age question of facebook and love.


If I am wondering if she feels the same about me, I just kick her in the shins.  If she comes back the next day I know there is some love tingles coming my way.  If she doesn't then there are other women I can kick so why dwell on the past.


The real magic happens when she kicks you back.  Now we're talking hot!

[jone]

Hey,

Dovetailing into what others have said:

You really aren't talking love if you haven't met in person!  Infatuation?  Possibly. 

As for Facebook or other Social Networks, most FSU women are fairly discreet. 

You've brought us into the middle of the story without the beginning or end.



You are asking for a general opinion so here it is:

If you have met a woman and have been  intimate with her and have a mutual connection, you can begin to talk about love.  Anything prior to that simply won't be believed.   This is the same for any part of the world. 

Why worry about what is said on social networks?  Hell, I've been with a woman now for 9 months and my Facebook page shows NOTHING.  Hers shows nothing. 

As for the 'L' word, that is a disclaimer that is earned.  As an adjunct, it is better to hear it from the women before going around and wearing it on your sleeve, no matter how happy you think it might make her to hear it.   It is out of the realm of familiarity for an FSU woman to hear the love word any time early in a relationship.  So you have to have totally won her heart for her to want to hear it.  And that brings me back to the question:

Have you actually met this woman?  Why would you be worried about her Facebook page if you are with her? 

[CanadaMan]

I wonder about a 2 things:


1. Love


2. Facebook

What is this thing called Facebook?

[GQBlues]

Oh but of course they are. As are people from all other areas of the globe. Nobody can come close to the intelligence of the exceptional people, that goes without saying.

 

Technically, ML is right.

The USA's universities' standards are rated far higher than any in FSU. It dominates the world ranking for years, and even as recent as 2013-2014 rankings.

http://www.timeshighereducation.co.uk/world-university-rankings/2013-14/world-ranking

In most, if not all of these universities, only the very qualified get to attend after having met its respective academic requirements and standards. To actually graduate from one would only add merit to ML's observation.

Of course, I will also admit, our 28-year old lovestruck drooling Romeo may not have been suggesting *academia/intelligentsia* but rather folks that are considered *clever, witty, smart*, which can be an entirely different gamut altogether e.g. street smart, clever clown, or even the infamous witty Wiley, etc...

For example...smart Fat Yuri can send a cute picture of a semi-clothe Russian woman to a recently graduated MIT student and can have that particular student actually believes he's in love and start sending 'her' (which is actually Fat Yuri) money. Hell, we even have a multitude of 60-70 year old chaps who do exactly that, yet boast themselves *intelligent*.

It's the MOB. The great equalizer in more ways than one.

[Gator]

Hi odsguy,

I can only guess about your situation based on the few facts in your post and profile.

So you are from Odessa.  We are neighbors - I reside in Tampa.

All I can surmise from your post is that you are communicating with a FSUW and she does not mention you in her Facebook page.  Considering you have not yet taken a trip to meet her, a typical FSUW will not mention you to her friends. 

Meanwhile, it seems you feel emotionally attracted to this woman yet fear expressing your loving feelings to her.  For sure do not mention love until you have spent a couple of weeks with this woman and still have loving feelings.

Even that could be too soon for you.  To answer your question of when to express your loving feelings, I need more information.    How many times have you been in love in the past that 1) lasted for more than a couple of months and 2) was reciprocated?     Have you ever dated a woman as attractive as the FSUW with whom your are communicating?   Is this FSUW with an agency who charges you a fee for each letter you write her?   Are you an analytical or intuitive thinker when making decisions?   When did you last have sex other than just by yourself?

[LAman]

Hi odsguy,

I can only guess about your situation based on the few facts in your post and profile.

So you are from Odessa.  We are neighbors - I reside in Tampa.

All I can surmise from your post is that you are communicating with a FSUW and she does not mention you in her Facebook page.  Considering you have not yet taken a trip to meet her, a typical FSUW will not mention you to her friends. 

Meanwhile, it seems you feel emotionally attracted to this woman yet fear expressing your loving feelings to her.  For sure do not mention love until you have spent a couple of weeks with this woman and still have loving feelings.

Even that could be too soon for you.  To answer your question of when to express your loving feelings, I need more information.    How many times have you been in love in the past that 1) lasted for more than a couple of months and 2) was reciprocated?     Have you ever dated a woman as attractive as the FSUW with whom your are communicating?   Is this FSUW with an agency who charges you a fee for each letter you write her?   Are you an analytical or intuitive thinker when making decisions?   When did you last have sex other than just by yourself?

Am I confused now......before edit, I could have sworn OP lived in Odessa, Ukraine(silly brain). Then OP mentioned girl from Belarus cooked dinner for him at either his/hers place....where that is ??????
The edit took a chunk of info out.....

[GQBlues]

Am I confused now......before edit, I could have sworn OP lived in Odessa, Ukraine(silly brain). Then OP mentioned girl from Belarus cooked dinner for him at either his/hers place....where that is ??????
The edit took a chunk of info out.....

Nope. You're not confused. Hence the first line in my first post...

[SANDRO43]

What is this thing called Facebook?

Not Cole Porter's immortal 1929 song, I wager :

[BillyB]

She doesn't really post anything of me on her Facebook, and she's not so active on Facebook in general. But - is this worry for concern? Of course the initial instinct is that, "she's not so proud of you".

I rarely use Facebook and haven't posted anything about my wife there. My wife isn't concerned. Does your girl sleep in your bed every night? If so, I wouldn't be concerned over the little things.

[CanadaMan]

 

Not Cole Porter's immortal 1929 song, I wager:

That's it Sandro!

I had a feeling not too many here would get my tongue in cheek post. 

 

[Shadow]

You are so full of sheeeeet if you think this.

I have been to FSU dozens of times (mostly on business) and met thousands of the local university graduated folks.

On average, most are less intelligent than white university graduated USA folks.

It is certainly true that a western guy can go to FSU and meet women who are above average intelligence for FSU and above what these men have met in USA.

But to extrapolate level of intelligence to the average FSU person is totally false.

On average, how much of all the population of the US is white university folks?

[ML]

On average, how much of all the population of the US is white university folks?

That's why I was comparing apples to apples in my post:

"I have been to FSU dozens of times (mostly on business) and met thousands of the local university graduated folks.

On average, most are less intelligent than white university graduated USA folks."

[Shadow]

That's why I was comparing apples to apples in my post:

"I have been to FSU dozens of times (mostly on business) and met thousands of the local university graduated folks.

On average, most are less intelligent than white university graduated USA folks."

While I might agree, there is still a difference. As between intelligence and education there is a gap.