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Offline Slings_and_Arrows

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What techniques do the married folks do....
« on: May 13, 2006, 01:40:55 PM »
Clearly there is a distinct difference between RW, and women around the rest of the world. In my research and reading, RW tend to be more traditional, family focused and feminine then women from most other cultures.¦nbsp;

Clearly, these are highly desireable qualities that most men worldwide look for in a partner; thus the reason for the mere existance of what has become a multimilion dollar industry. (be it legit or scam!) Afterall, what man wants to marry someone who things they are a man!?

Anyways, what techniques do the married men do or practice with their RW spouse to keep their relationship fresh and exciting for her? Being formally married to an AW myself, I know what I did and have observed with others have done; but RW are special and unique in many ways that seemingly require a different approach.

For example, I know that my former American wife appreciated flowers, the weekly 'date' between us both where we'd cast everything aside and just go spend the day together and things of that nature. One thing my former wife and I would sometimes do, is play 'strangers night'. Where we'd meet each other in single's bar, and pretend we did not know each other. We would casually mingle with whomever approached us, but dismiss them soonafter. We ourselves wouldn't approach anyone. Slowly, we'd migrate to each other and attempt to 'pick each other up'. It was a lot of fun, and the rewards afterwards of supposedly going home 'fresh meat' with each other were awesome.

I'm curious as to what what happily married men whose wives are from the FSU do to keep things going well do.¦nbsp;Please be specific, and please don't respond with ' I do the same stuff I did with my former AW wife'.! :P

I would like to also hear from married FSU women who use this forum as well.
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Re: What techniques do the married folks do....
« Reply #1 on: May 13, 2006, 03:35:50 PM »
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Clearly there is a distinct difference between RW, and women around the rest of the world. In my research and reading, RW tend to be more traditional, family focused and feminine then women from most other cultures.¦nbsp;

Clearly, these are highly desireable qualities that most men worldwide look for in a partner; thus the reason for the mere existance of what has become a multimilion dollar industry. (be it legit or scam!) Afterall, what man wants to marry someone who things they are a man!?

you dont want to hear it,, lol
but i dont find a clear distinction at all..
and i dont find the stereotype of RW to be true.
nor the stereotype of AW!!

I never had an AW that acted like she wanted to be the man¦nbsp; in the relationship or anything like that! ...*shrugs*
heck most where girlie/ girls, and even the tomboys had a very feminine side.

the *act like a man* thing actually cracks me up !
the fact is that a confident, independent ,and strong RW (like most are)
despite her soft beautiful exterior, will run over many western men like a loaded down semi truck if allowed to..LOL!

They can be , and generally are , very very feminine..
 but after that semi truck runs you smack over ,
Your noticing that it had perfectly manicured rims ,
and pink highlights on its chrome details,
 wont help your flattened shape much..LOL

Is my wife different than AW?
sure , she comes from a different culture and it does *flavor* her perception and way of thinking on some topics..

some of that is negative!(blasphemy , i know)
some of it is positive!! :)
mostly it's just ....
"different"

 There is a multi million dollar industry because of simple ecomomy ,
and huge misconceptions on both sides of the big pond.Thats the reality.

As far as what to do after your mariage,
to keep it fresh -
wow-
 that wouldnt be anything you could generalize RW about?
you ask for replies to not state:
"what i did with my AW"
but honestly women are not that much different from each other..
in general terms?
and in specific terms it wouldnt be relevent to anyone else?

there isnt something you can do specifically that will fit into some RW marriage and make it "fresh" or the sparks still fly?

you will be a couple, and unique,
her nationality wont have much bearing on your relationship - in that departnment?
and it will have less and less influence over time?

you will be married, your wife will happen to have russian nationality,
it really is that simple?

as far as the flowers. my wife is CRAZY about flowers , CRAZY about them.
and yes in the FSU flowers are a big deal that is FAR more promanent than here. so a cultural thing? yes.

but i know RW that are not crazy about them,¦nbsp; and AW that are..
YMMV.





« Last Edit: May 13, 2006, 03:40:30 PM by AJ »
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Re: What techniques do the married folks do....
« Reply #2 on: May 13, 2006, 08:21:55 PM »
Thanks for the reply AJ. My post is not really intended to be a discussion about simularities or differences between RW and AW. I was mostly just shairng my personal obsersations.

my post is really intended to answer the following:

What I really want to know though is, what do the married folks do to keep things fresh. Thats my question.
« Last Edit: May 13, 2006, 08:25:44 PM by Slings_and_Arrows »

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Re: What techniques do the married folks do....
« Reply #3 on: May 15, 2006, 09:24:54 AM »
If you are talking about any marriage...which I think you are...try to keep things fresh by doing different things and stay out of those ruts.

I have been married less than a year and I can tell its EASY to get into ruts by doing the same exact thing every single day...every single week etc.

Here is one thing I am doing to keep things "fresh"

I went to ticketmaster.com and looked ahead 6 months for every single thing coming to the Memphis area and put them on a Calender extending out thru the 6 months. I then found a website listing all the places to go in the Memphis area...museums...sporting events...parks..zoos etc. I went to each of these websites and found what was going on at each of these places within the next 6 months and also listed those on my "Fun Calender"

Now you have things that you can do if you want...at pretty much a moments notice. You can also try out a different place to eat every week or month or every 6 months, whatever your budget allows.

That's just some ideas if thats the sort of thing you were looking for.

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Re: What techniques do the married folks do....
« Reply #4 on: May 15, 2006, 10:36:24 AM »
Good response CaptMonk.  Thanks!

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Re: What techniques do the married folks do....
« Reply #5 on: May 17, 2006, 07:40:28 AM »
"Shakes his head and wonders what they are talking about" :noidea:
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